Babies, Mellenials, Generation X and life

Oh my


I was watching a show called carriers and it got me thinking. There are a lot of 20 something year olds who have children.

My question for the millennial who don't have kids is do you feel like you are being left out of an experience by not having children in your 20's.

For the Generation X that have kids:If you had to do your 20's again, would you wait until your 30's to have a kid?

just found it interesting in the show about how people were having so much more life experiences than me.

 

I don't feel left out. Having a kid in my 20s will drag me down.

 

I feel "behind" being the only 25 year old I know (offline) that doesn't have any kids. But I don't have anything else either, so I have other things to focus on first anyway.

 

Kids change everything.

I had my daughter when I was 30. I wouldn't want to have her any sooner than that. I wasn't mentally or emotionally prepared to take on such a responsibility in my 20s. :smt023

 

I am in my early 20's. So if I had a kid now, my life would be non-existent. I just wont be able to do all things I want to achieve, well at maybe at the moment. Everything will be delayed and certain things would have to take a backseat in my life. Everyone I know in my relative close age bracket does not want a kid. If they did have one, they ended up with one due to poor decisions(its called a condom lol). Oh well, take care of your responsibility and good luck.

 

I feel perfectly happy not having kids right now, and I'm 28.

In fact, I don't want them at all, so while I am genuinely happy for my friends who are having kids, I don't get that twang of jealousy.

 

Am I the only one who doesn't have babies/has never even been pregnant but has baby/parenting books and names picked out and all of that? And if I had money, I would probably even buy baby clothes/items, thinking "it will happen someday" and they might not still have that particular outfit/item or something when it does happen. Who made the rule that you have to be pregnant first before preparing for a baby anyway? I make my own rules so respecognize!!
I'm crazy obsessed and I do get jealous, upset, and cry and feel like shit. It comes and goes, in little episodes. Sometimes, I don't think about it at all.
Am I bipolar?
I don't understand sometimes how things work because women who don't want babies seem like the ones always having them and the women who want children so much can't have them or can't yet. It seems to be common.
But I know I can't have babies yet anyway. I'm not ready and I know, I still hate it when people tell me that though. Truth sucks.
How long is five years? I don't think I realize exactly. I want to be ready/have babies before I'm 30 (so within five years) because I read that at 30 fertility starts droppin' and startin' at 35 you begin to become more likely to have a child with disabilities and defects. I don't even have a man any more. Do I have enough time? Am I being too consumed with age/numbers?
(Sorry, it's that time of the month for me too, besides everything else that is making me all emotional and crazy and overly sensitive and depressed.)

 

That a non-rhyming song/poem in the first few sentences(I noticed the slashes after every line) or is this just what you wrote?


You could get artificially inseminated or adopt a kid.

 

My 20s is definitely my ME time. I'm 25 and I still feel like a kid some days. I'm definitely way too selfish to be responsible for a kid at this stage in my life. Basically, I want the freedom associated with not having children at least until I'm into my 30s... and then maybe the idea will look more appealing! I used to think I didn't want them at all, but *shrugs* the idea of a family isn't that abhorrent lol

 

Ahaha! That's just what I wrote. I use slashes sometimes instead of "and" and "or" or "either" and stuff and like you did with "song/poem" is all.

That is an option. It makes that Back up Plan movie come to mind, though I haven't seen it. With J-Lo I think.
I also want to have a baby before my mommy is gone/dies. She's already had throat cancer but chemo got rid of it for now, plus other stuff. Yeah, she's got two grandkids from my brother and his wife, but she barely gets to see them very much. And I think it will be bittersweet if I have a baby and my mom isn't there.
My mom had me and my twin sister when she was 30.

 

I thought you said you were in your 30s??

Hmmm...:smt017

 

Be prepared for a series of relationships that hinge on children. If you don't want them you'll find yourself single much of the time. That's not a bad thing, just saying. But GEN Y might be different on the loneliness front, you will find some other individualistic people that feel the same way you do.

 

Wonderful :? There is trend of that already, yep don't need men anymore for anything thank you Mangina.

 

I've been ready to have children for at least 10 years now.

Oh well, maybe by the time I'm 45. (39 now)

 

I refuse to be called this name! I am not a new brand that just came out.

 

+1

Thank you, I got way to much shit to do before I het 32.

 

respecognize...interesting...I'm going to have to give that one some thought.

 

:smt043

 

LOL white girls now trying to rock their own Ebonics :smt043

 

i am gen x and didnt have kids until my mid 40s, actually in the last year. I was really active in my 20s and although i wished i had kids earlier, i dont know if my 20s would have been it for me, maybe 30, or at least 28