would you be offended if I asked you to go to the clinic for a check for STD's ?

Probably when you get to the point where you think you will start having sex. So if you have sex buddy relationship with a person you should probably get tested often. Especially because these relationships normally don't require that the two people to be exclusive to each other.

 

well i dont have booty buddys and i like to know a guy and be in an exclusive relationship before sex is involved

so if im dating a guy, weve decided to just date each other and be in a relationship and the subject of sex is coming up then for me thats the time to suggest we get his and hers tests done

 

Probably not, you cant be too safe in this world we live in

 

I don't either. Alot of my male friends have asked me to but I never was without it otherwise, that I would want to spoil a friendship.

 

I don't know why anyone would be offended by that. And I wouldn't want crap to do with anyone who would be. I'd tend to think if someone seemed to be offended maybe they are guilty and know something about themselves that you don't. They say the best defense is "offense".
Now, if I were in an exclusive relationship for a long time and he was all of a sudden like, "Let's go get checked for STD's," I'd be like "WTF?!" heh. :smt084

 

i've never asked anyone to, and have never been asked to. that being said i have no problem doing so and would expect them to do the same.

 

same here. My thing is if I start getting in a deep relationship usually a person want to kivk the condom to the side because they want the full feeling and have the closeness of that person thus if it seems its going that direction then its time to ask.

 

agreed.

 

you like the skin on skin love to huh. are nt those condoms annoying. they themselves are cock blockers

 

of course...who doesn't love the skin on skin...??? and the fact that you can't feel when your man cums inside you is also a huge thing...there's nothing like feeling your man cumming inside you

 

A big old CO-SIGN!! :smt023

As for the original question, I've never been asked, nor have I asked, but I would have no problem doing it. And if he asked, I'd expect him to get the test alongside me.

 

ok we will HAVE to go off track. tell me how does it feel

 

:smt007 :smt007 :smt007 :smt007

 

:shock::shock::smt053:smt053:smt053

 

HIV is done using blood and serum levels.

Herpes testing is done using 1 of 4 methods. 1. Viral culture from a fresh sore - that can give you a false negative, but is still the preferred way.
2. Antigen detection test - done a lot like the culture. They are often done together
3. PCR test - that just tests fluid from a sore, the spinal column or blood. This is mainly done to ensure that the herpes isn't present and causing an infection around the brain.
4. Antibody tests - Now this is where it gets dicey. These tests can be done from the blood collected from the HIV test - BUT - it isn't as accurate. It can't differentiate between HSV-1 (which causes cold sores in/on the mouth) and HSV-2 (which is genital herpes). Also, if someone is a new infect, you won't know because the antibodies haven't had time to form.

We don't run the tests together because a lot of time with herpes, you need to wait for an outbreak to make sure that the patient has it.

Sorry for the biology lesson and that being said, I get tested every 6 months because of my job and my fiance gets tested every year with his. Due to the events surrounding my divorce (can we say a slightly more whorish version of Tiger), I have insisted that I have an STD test whether I was sexually active or not. It's just common sense and it's selfish not to. A lot of these tests depend on whether or not you have developed antibodies. That takes time. If you have an incubation period of 3-6 months, that is 3-6 months that you are possibly infecting your partner. I am so passionate about this because I have seen children as young as 15 diagnosed with AIDS/HIV, hepatitis, herpes, gonorrhea, syphillis, etc...and it is heartbreaking. If you are not mature enough to discuss diseases and being tested, you are not mature enough to have sex. Period. Safe sex, monogamy, or abstinence is the only way to reduce the risk or prevent it from happening.

JM2cents

 

ok you scared the shit out of me..fuck that...Im going assexual....

 

lol....assexual is a lack of sexual desire and sweetie, I doubt you have to worry about that. If you practice safe sex, the chances are minimal.

Please don't go assexual. I don't want the ladies to get mad at me.

 

LOL. I love sex but damn the shit u was kicking, scared a brother

 

Don't be scared goodlove, like I said, if you practice safe sex, then your risk of getting a disease is reduced significantly. I guess I am approaching this as a medical professional. I have seen so many people (mainly young girls and boys) that haven't had that information given to them. The lack of knowledge is staggering and sad. I would rather scare someone into being safe than lead them to believe that it may or may not happen to them. Again, safe sex will cut down on the risk.

 

yeah it is a shame they cant wait until they get older to really enjoy it like they should. now they are messed up for real.