would you be offended if I asked you to go to the clinic for a check for STD's ?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by goodlove, Jul 20, 2010.

  1. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    well ladies and gents.....would you be offended if you were dating someone and the break out and say lets go get checked for STD's

    have you ever asked some one to do that ? If so how did you brea it to them and how did they react ? how did you react to the react if it was negative ?
     
  2. Espy

    Espy New Member

    It wouldn't offend me in the least if someone I was dating brought that up, presuming they didn't bring it up on the first date as that's clearly a bit presumptuous. It's not something I've ever had to bring up because there was no need.
     
  3. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    what you mean no need ?
     
  4. Espy

    Espy New Member

    Married monogamously for 20 years = no need.
     
  5. goodlove

    goodlove New Member


    LOL. I guess not. It would be upsetting if he came to you and ask you on the way to lunch one day. hey babe on the way to Mcdonalds lets go get checked for STD and then go shopping for some church shoes.
     
  6. Espy

    Espy New Member

    He wouldn't have. Cheating was the one thing that scared the hell out of him. That might have been the only area of our marriage that we agreed on completely, no cheating ever, and we both knew with 100% certainty neither of us would. So like I said, no need to check.
     
  7. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    thats good. he seem like a good guy ?
     
  8. Espy

    Espy New Member

    Hahahahaha! Not at all, if he had been, we'd still be married. That was the only area where he and I saw eye to eye. But such is life.
     
  9. archangel

    archangel Well-Known Member

    No, I'd be fine with it. I have never asked any one that although I have thought to do it.
     
  10. FG

    FG Well-Known Member

    No, I wouldnt mind.
     
  11. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    Same here, but while we're at it, he shouldn't be exempt from having it done either.

    I too have thought about it...
     
  12. robina

    robina New Member

    wouldnt mind if he wanted us BOTH to get tested before taking the relationship to the next level but if he asked after we had been in a sexual relationship for a while i would be very suspicious why he wanted it now
     
  13. Cannondale

    Cannondale Active Member

    It doesn't bother me at all. Had an ex request I take an AIDS test when we were moving toward the intimacy stage.*

    She said "no papers, no p*ssy!" lol. I was shocked that she put it out there, but I could see where she was coming from.

    That was years ago, and needless to say, I have one done yearly.

    Last AIDS test I took (in 2009) I got an 81 on that mofo...

    I'm kidding, I passed it! :) lol*
     
  14. archangel

    archangel Well-Known Member

    You mean you failed. That's one of those test that you want to get as much of negative as possible. I believe the results come in negative or positive. The other big issues is that I think the test does not test for herpes. At least, that is what I hear.
     
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  15. Cannondale

    Cannondale Active Member

    Yeah, that's right. My bad. The only thing I have is bad jokes! Lol
     
  16. reggie2k8

    reggie2k8 New Member

    Yeah how they word the results is somewhat confusing. It reminds me of the near sighted and far sighted definition where it sounds like it should be the opposite of its actual definition. But to answer the question I wouldn't be offended especially in this day and age where STD's and HIV/AIDS is so prevalent.
     
  17. FRESH

    FRESH New Member

    Plz let's get tested, I'll test once a fucking month. You can't be too safe these days. I just don't get down like that, and can't believe people do. I have friends that are so sensible in so many parts of their life, but will turn around and tell me they have gonorrhea for the third time. WTF!!! That gonorrhea could have been AIDS/HIV!!! Unprotected sex equals AIDS to me, and I avoid both like every plague known to man rolled in one...sprinkled with gonorrhea...baked in herpes...braised with hepatitis (all forms)...crusted with crabs...topped with shit infested malaria...:smt102 that's just me I guess.
     
  18. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    yeah that brings up a great pt...when should u ask ? I mean should you ask before the first time u get down, should you ask if you are just booty buddies or should you ask just when you guys agree to have a committed relationship and even when you have a committed relationship (not married) should you go commando ?
     
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  19. JordanC

    JordanC Well-Known Member

    I wouldn't be offended. I would consider them responsible/careful. I think everyone involved should be tested.
     
  20. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    should you ask before the first time u get down, should you ask if you are just booty buddies or should you ask just when you guys agree to have a committed relationship and even when you have a committed relationship (not married) should you go commando ?
     

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