Ladies, do you care if his best friend is a woman?

double what, and why?

Iggy must have some issues if he thinks only gay men can have female friends lol.

 

when?

 

My best friend is a guy and I couldn't have a problem with it then I'd be a hypocrite. His other girlfriends and I were cool, but this last one had a problem with the idea of me.

It boils down to trust and security....

 

I think this is the second time you've quoted when harry met sally to prove a point and I LOVE you for that hahaha. Such a wise movie

 

Without knowing them I am willing to bet over half of them wanted to nail you, and would have done so given the opportunity.

 

Actually I would willing bet the opposite, some guys definitely only see women as possible sexual partner, while other guys see women as human beings. I willing to bet that over half regards with option 2.

 

So question for you Sir Nose along this line of thinking. As a man do you believe that if a man finds a woman attractive, regardless of whether they're just friends, that he will always consider what it would be like to nail her? I've often wondered about that.

 

Always.

 

Hmm... well thank you for answering. I find that interesting because I'm not sure women work that way, at least not all of us.

 

I have posted this many times before...

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HAHA well I can definitely say for this particular person, he's definitely wrong, and I know plenty of guys who are the same way. It just mostly for dudes who sex is always number one on the agenda.

 

There are men for whom sex is not always number one on the agenda? Where are these men... quick name 5... I know no such men.

 

HAHAha, well for one, there is me, my friend Anthony, my friend Raymond, my friend Kameron (kurdish name I believe), and my friend Frederick. There's five lol.
Of course there is tons more I know, it just really depends upon the person I guess. it's simple, the more you treat women as human beings, the less important sex actually is.

 

Sooo true, what you say, Espy. I think the same way. Especially that he is not attractive anymore. You can feel it in one second that you don't want to be touched by him or that he is in your near anymore, if you see it "could happen", even in an open relationship. It has a lot to do with respect on both sides. And it is a good way to reduce the pain either, if it really happens.

Full trust,and no compromise of that topic is a MUST for a successful partnership.

 

My experience is that women can be best friends with a man, but men cannot be only best friends with women, if they find them attractive. There is nearly always another thought in the background, which shows up- sooner or later.

 

That's all I'm good for: being "just a friend". So I take it.

 

Well I'm clearly female, but sex is high up on the list of importance. I'm not saying it's the only thing that matters, but I wouldn't enjoy a relationship that was lacking in sex, and assuming there was no reason for that, I wouldn't stay in that relationship. I also don't think wondering what every women you meet would be like in bed is dehumanizing. I suspect that's actually a very human thing to do. Now I don't do that with every man I run across, but if I did I wouldn't consider that objectifying them.

Wise words as usual Christine.

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Oh I just want to clarify that in regards to being in a romantic relationship, that yes sex is definitely important. (Unless you're an individual who believe in abstinence which if it is the case, more power to you.) But my reference were towards life in general. Sex is great, but it's only a very small portion of what makes life, well life. I know people who their entire core is sex, and to me, there is so much more to life than just that. It's essentially a small piece of a very big pie in my view.

Now the second part I disagree upon. You often here women explain, "what am I, a piece of meat?" This is usually because of the fact that the for many men's ideal, a woman's life is just a hole for them to plug their 3rd leg into. So essentially yes, you are dehumanizing them, because the only thing that essentially matters to that person isn't who they are, how they are, or any other humanistic characteristic other than what can they bring to the table once the lights goes out. And as I mention above, sex only makes up a small portion of who we are. (well some a lot more than others hahaha.)

 

I guess thankfully I've never had anyone make me feel like a piece of meat, I'm not even sure that's possible. But honestly unless his absolute and only interest in a woman is sex, then I don't think that's applicable. Maybe I'm being naive again, but I'd sure like to think I have other redeeming qualities to sustain and base a relationship on. As I said sex is important, but it cannot be the only draw for him, or that's just not going to work.

 

:smt018 You know better.