Dating or just kicking it?

Agreed, I can immediately think of someone here who may be interested.

 

Hey shemale,

shemale- hat das eine Bedeutung, wenn ich fragen darf?

Freue mich, dass ich Verstärkung aus München habe.. Hoffe, du amüsierst dich gut hier..

Grüsse
Christine

 

LOL...who damnit...WHO...????!!!!!

 

I can't say..... :smt004

 

You've already said too much. That's like busting the candy out of a pinata and telling the children they can't have any.

 

+1.

Give us the candy, Athena!

 

I must respectfully state: This topic is bunk for ONE very simple reason:

You ask that men make their intentions clear from jump so you know what to expect and avoid guessing games.

What does a guy expect when he asks a woman out: only one thing: Uncertainty. Also a guessing game. You don't know if she'll say yeah sure, lets go on a date or hit the highway. Basically, you want to reinstall the old rule of chivalry and a woman's prerogative to choose. Sorry B, that's dead as a doorknob.

2009. Equal opportunity for all. Thus, we (men) don't have to jump through the same old hoops as our fore-fathers did. You can always try asking guys out yourself. No guessing game there, except for the ones that guys typically go through when they ask women out. Also, we (men) don't necessarily have to pay. That doesn't mean we (men) are cheap, it just means you make a living most likely the same as we do. Sure most women will say they will "gladly" pay their half. However, the same women will tell their friends a guy who allows her to do that is probably not gonna see her again. Hmmmm....

Getting to know prospective mates is a pool of uncertainty. It really always has been. The rules are just not as they used to be. You just gotta test the water before you jump in. Sometimes it will be ice cold. Sometimes, it might be a hot tub that's too hot. Then again, it may be just the temp your looking for.

 

Well, the thread topic isn't bunk (though some of the replies seem to be a notch above, "Brianna and Alyssa, sittin' in a tree"..). I can see BYB didn't write the opening article herself, but kudos to her for opening it up.

As for me, I'm doing exactly what the title says; dating. We go out, hook up once a week, maybe twice, and we go halves. I paid for the first night, and that as far as I'll bow to tradition within a dating pool who largely don't.

We're gonna spend most of this w/end together. I haven't agreed I will not go out with anybody else, and I trust she's not under any other impression. If she wants us to become exclusive, she can raise the topic, and I'll decide whether it's yes/no/decide later.

 

so you haven't told her about us yet:smt042:smt042

 

I'm just hitting it right now.

We'll see where it goes from here.

 

Bloody hell it's only been a few weeks, gimme a chance here Lippy!!

Her name's Vanessa, she's 29, hard to tell if she's dark-blonde or light-brunette, seriously lovely green eyes, and...a nice, NICE rack.

She's an Actuary (yes, I've been dying to say it...she's actuary an Actuary!), and although my post above took a leaf (or line) out of your signature, I could do a whole lot worse than end up marrying her.

The thing I like the most about her is that she's so softly-spoken; not saying she's quiet, which I dislike as much in a girl as her swearing loud as a trooper, but she picks her words very well. She's that almost-extinct breed of Englishwoman who speaks like a lady. Always been a sucker for a posh accent. She also has quite a keen intellect, which I always love in a girl.

I'm a bit surprised she hasn't been snapped up yet, but like me, she may have some perfectly valid reason. I don't usually stay friends with ex-girlfriends, but whatever happens, I don't want to lose her friendship.

 

Who cares

Dating it or kicking it as long as you are enjoying it what ever when ever lol

 

As a man, I can tell you that we're not complicated at all. We're simple. Men generally don't want to " just kick it" with a woman. My theory is that these men that claim that they were " just kicking", more than likely, were looking for f**k buddy; they weren't looking for a long term relationship. They may have sensed that you weren't down for that , so they moved on. Naturally you'll want an explanation because it appears that he was out for more than friendship, since he seemingly asked you out on a date.

This dating game is basically a read and react type of deal. There are a lot of women that are fine with casual sex; however, there are also a lot women that aren't into it, or they're not up front about it(at first) with a man they're talking to.

This creates a dynamic where men have to in a sense, feel a women out. Every woman is different, and like I said before, many women are into casual sex; however, a lot women won't admit that right off the bat. Every woman is different, some women may like a man to be foward and come out and say he just wants her as a F**k Buddy. However, that isn't the norm, and those women who like the foward approach aren't walking around with signs indicating that they like that approach, so most men play it safe and try to feel the woman out first.

Believe me, men are not going around looking for platonic female friends:smt081. That vast majority of men, even if they are looking for their soulmate, will take some booty with no strings attached while they wait for that soulmate.

By the way, the OP is sexy as Sh*t; I'm at work and her pick made me untuck my shirt:smt054.

 

I have to agree with that...men aren't complicated.

And a date is nice and all, but if you don't know the dude well, it's best to just consider it "kickin it" with benefits until/unless it progresses into something else.

Honestly, you don't want to get stuck in a relationship with someone you don't know much about and then have to deal with the drama of a breakup.

The "no strings" approach is very effective if you want to NOT scare a guy off by expecting him to commit...if it's meant to be he won't want anyone else anyway.

 

Pretty much. I've been dating a chick for a short time now, she is cool as hell (very chill and low maintance) not to mention the sex is good so far. We'll see how things go. Just enjoying the ride at the moment.

 

+1

 

sex sex and only sex

sexxxxx

 

Sad, sad and only sad

saddddd

 

says who...??? i never got the newsletter...!!!

where have you been all my life and how could ib ever turn down an offer like that...???!!!

lmao