why do women chase players

I didn't say I should ask but things like that are better to know than not to know.

 

lol
Enough with this PC nonsense folks. Would you be okay if your daughter got banged by 200 men in less than a year????????:shock:

Also you keep bringing up this sexism and double standard stuff but a lot of the times its WOMEN who are the ones that are trashing promiscous women. For example, I remember in college a lot of the sororities talked trash about other sororities (heck and even their own sorority "sisters" too haha)
"OMG you are going to hang out with Lindsey tonight?! But she is a DZ and DZs are all sluts!":smt042
Women can get catty with eachother a lot of times

 

Me and my friends have had this debate for YEARS and I honestly feel I have it nailed down pretty good:

1) Humans (men and women BOTH) are attracted to GOOD LOOKS. Women dont like players, they like confident, charming, good looking men. But these men tend to be players. Why? Because they have the traits women desire and thus get alot of women and why would they turn women down? Women want a HOT and NICE guy, but sadly these men are few and far between. Most HOT guys know it and USE it. So the only NICE guys they meet are average to below average looking, minimum wage earning shy losers who get stuck in the friend zone. The hot guys with the nice job, nice car, and swagger get the boyfriend/husband/sex treatment. Women (and men) wonder why we cant find love...well maybe if we start choosing people by their character and not their looks we will be better off, but us humans are too shallow.

2) The brain needs a challenge. Notice how men LOVE sluts, but we will never date them. We one night stand that chick. We date the nice girl...BUT, we try and CHANGE her into a freak (our own private freak). Women want a nice guy. Every chick flick that comes out in the theaters and every love song on the radio explains this. But how often do they DATE the NICE guy? 0%. They go after hot bad boy/player and try to CHANGE him. It's like people dont want something ready made, they want the fixer upper.

The person we date psychologically is supposed to be the most EXCITING person in our life. When we think of them physically, they sexually excite us, and when we are around them/talking to them, they should mentally/psychologically excite us (one of the reasons people fear awkward silences on dates, afraid the other person will think they're "boring"). One of the reasons arguing always leads to great make up sex in couples. They get our blood boiling. Drama brings excitement. No one wants someone who agrees with EVERYTHING they say. As much as we say we want true love, the minute you meet someone who truly worships the ground you walk on, you runaway in fear. People want conflict. Especially WOMEN. They are emotional creatures. It's as if they have this need to feel every human emotion possible evey other hour or to them its not a complete day.


3) Fear of marriage. Generally we have this notion that every girl fantasizes about her wedding day and cant wait to meet her prince charming. But surprisingly these days, ALOT of young girls (im in my mid 20's and deal with girls in their late teens/early 20's) dont want or think about marriage. I've talked to many who dont want kids and mainly arent looking forward to married life. Think about it. When you think of marriage what do you think of? A husband and wife who work, come home, eat dinner, take care of the kids, sit down at the dinner table ("how was ur day?"..."fine, how was ur day?"), pay taxes/mortgage....BORINGGGG!!!! When a girl meets a nice guy she can see their whole future in the blink of an eye and she knows if this goes well, marriage is imminent and they cant handle that pressure. Not today's young carefree women. They want the excitement of dating someone who could do them wrong at any minute. It keeps things fresh, I dunno. Dont ask me why.



4) Women "sew their wild oats too". Men for years have been allowed in society to sew their wild oats and be single and bang chicks and say they dont want a relationship. But women cant say, "I just wanna be single and bang bad boys". They will be called a slut. So what they do is they date guys they KNOW are not marriage-worthy and just have their fun that way. This kind of plays into my third point.

5) Women like to be "mothers". By nature/genetics, females have this need to "Take care of others". A bad boy to them is a wounded bird that needs to be fixed. Women love decorating and shopping and putting on makeup because they have this need to FIX UP things into something better than they are. Whats the fun in being with a guy whose already perfect? Then it puts the pressure on HER to live up to HIS standards and for her not to mess it up. They cant handle that. If something goes wrong, its easy to blame the guy and say he was an asshole. Cant do that with us nice guys.


Keep in mind these are all just theories that I have compiled through years and years of extensive research and my limited knowledge of the female species. I know some of these don't seem to go together and may even contradict each other, but women are contradictory creatures to begin with and every woman is different. Not EVERY girl chases bad boys. But the ones that do have their reasons. Some physical, some psychological, etc. Maybe they have daddy issues and are attracted to emotionally distant men. Who knows? Everyone has different tastes and different reasons for why they're attracted to what they like...

 

I can see you have put a lot of thought into this, and while a few of your conclusions are interesting, there are several that just don't work for me personally at all. However, I'm in the group represented by the bolded part, so I'm just going to leave it at that.

 

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A lot of truths in your post playboy. I was a big time player in college (it didnt hurt that I was also on the basketball team/full scholarship) but I was usually always upfront with them (by saying I wasnt interested in a relationship at the time) so it wasnt like I was messin with their feelings on purpose. I did usually just tell them whatever they want to hear and even sorta acted like a cocky ahole which for some reason a lot of girls like that haha. Some would call me all the time when I was out with another chick or wanted more than just to be eff buddies and it did get annoying.

Now, I dont do that anymore. Just kickin it with one girl right now at the moment. Too old to be multi-tasking at the moment.:smt042

 

Gotta cosign this. Good post fam

 

It took you longer than I thought, but I knew without a shadow of a doubt that you were gonna love his post.

 

I agree with you on most of your points but one point that stands out is the now a days woman. Throughout time women always wanted EXCITEMENT the BAD BOY. Read a book called the art of seduction and it talks about the people throughout history and their love affairs with different people and people of then are no different than now. also the history channel talked about ben franklin on how he was a big player/mack back in the day. he went to france and he was considered a rock start back then (they like intellects and real artists ) and he was bedding a lot of women. not all of them but he tried. The pt is that no one and no specific time period is immune to the player/mack.

 

Hmmm......

 

Men trying to understand women... hilarious. :smt033

 

Maybe because they are the ones they are attracted to

 

thread locked\

 

yeah but its good for discussing. we all know that women like to try to square up a player. it is in their nature/inherent to try to tame a wild stallion

 

LOL..

 

Women want the "bad boy" aka ahole because they are exciting to women for some reason and since women are normally boring creautures they need something...anything in their life to liven it up and if that means dating a player then so be it.
























Just kidding ladies


















Well not entirely :smt043

 

Hmm, some interesting prospects but the quotes I mention disagrees somewhat with your own. For example, you link being nice and handsome with being successful. Where the posts I quoted stated that their are plenty of nice guys who are also very handsome and very successful, but they won't get the ladies.

quotes regarding this specific section is here...

 

plz elaborate