is it genetically impossible to be faithful to one person

I know. we just have to have fun tho

I wasnt joking about the spike tho. I am a spike ...because I can pound and drive it home baby. LOL:smt004

 

As a person who has been married for almost a year now and being in a relationship with my wife for five years, I certainly do not believe it is genetically impossible to be faithful to one person, at least based on my definition of "faithful", which is essentially rejecting sexual intimacy with anyone else but my wife. It is, essentially, a choice you make - being with the person you purportedly love, and whilst temptations occasionally pay you a visit, the love and commitment you have for your partner should keep you from straying.

 

You pretty just made every chick fall in love with you fam?

 

I've been faithful to the same man for as long as we've been together since I was 14. So I say it's absolutely possible.

 

Him too.

 

Monogamy's an interesting issue. I've always been monogamous in my relationships, so I'm entirely speaking from a hypothetical point of view here, but I see it like this: it isn't so much the sleeping with other people thing that's gonna ruin a relationship, it's the "cheating" part... the "betrayal" part... the "lying" part... I think (and like I said, I'm talking hypothetically here) if two people can be mature enough to come to an honest and open agreement, I wouldn't be entirely opposed to my partner exploring that urge on occasion. If it's a means of keeping the relationship healthy *shrugs*. Maybe it wouldn't be though, it could have the opposite effect...

*muses*....

 

The only problem is that it requires the suspension of ones emotions and human beings are rarely capable of that.

 

Does it have to, though? If you're secure enough in your relationship and know that sex with others is purely physical.... Emotions doesn't *have* to come into it...? I don't know, I'm just thinking aloud.

 

a male friend and i spoke about that, and i do believe that it is possible to have a loving 'open' relationship...look at kinsey and his studies. now i don't know if i could do it again. i have in the past, but i was young and it suited us both. i was completely faithful during my 9 year marriage and i think i prefer that kind of commitment

 

I guess it just takes a lot of trust and honesty.

I guess I'm just sayin', if someone I loved had this primal urge to sleep with multiple women (as Andrae is describing) and the need to "suppress" that "natural instinct" to be with me, well... That seems almost unreasonable? If, for example, you can be comfortable enough to share your partner in a "swingers" situation where you're both in the same room, then surely that trust could extend to when you're absent as well. And if the relationship is strong and the love is true, and you both trust and *know* that you love each other, well... It's better to be honest and open and know what your partner is doing than have him or her sneak around behind your back.

If I was cheated on, I'm willing to bet I'd be most hurt about the lying than I would about the actual sex.

 

of course, and as i said earlier, i've been in an open relationship and it worked...i guess my view has changed now

 

Great post!

And yeah, it's not genetically impossible at all. If swans can do it, we can do it, people.

 

Swans don't have to resist temptation its part of their natural interaction with one another.
For every guy who says they can do monogamy there are ten who can't. Again its something that most of girls won't hear from men but its very true.

 

Humans have a brain - and a councious (well, most of us)... Genes is a very poor excuse.. Genes dont rule your decissions - thats BS.

Either you choose to give in to temptation, or you dont.
Its exactly that - a choice. No more, no less.

I have no problem getting the - wanting to sleep with other people, heck, I have been tempted more than once while in relationhips.
Its WHAT you do with that temptation that counts.. ..
Urges and opportunities and temptations will always be there.. the tricky part is to avoid or remove yourself from those situations.

 

I'd rep you if I could.

This is exactly it!!

 

I saw a woman (She was a korean woman who is a comedian) and she stated that her and her man are in an open marriage/relationship. she stated that she is BI.

With open relationships they have to be very nonjealous to do that.

as far as monogomay, I would rather for a woman to say Im a whore and I like fucking around so just to let you know rather than someone who states Im looking for a committed relationship and do otherwise

 

Wow, that's harsh. Why are women who enjoy sex so often branded whores and sluts?

 

Insecure men.

 

Insecure and jealous girly men.

 

It has nothing to do with being insecure or jealous, those statements are illogical. calling a woman a slut or a whore is something that has been done to women rite or wrong. is it a double std when it comes to men..well the politically correct statement would say yes.

now back to the subject...i would rather for a woman to tell me what is up than rather do otherwise as I stated before