what would you change in your life or done differently...

How many relationships have you all been in? How many of those would you erase all together if you could

 

Ok. I respect that. Have fun, I am going to another thread, peace!

 

wow. HMMM . the old folks would say if you had sex with some one then thats relations. LOL

serious relationships im mean longterm I would say about 4 to 5 . I only regret not marrying 2 women. one was the fact we met at the wrong time because I was in college and too immature. she stated the samething about herself. then I was with a woman for 5 years but she just did not want to have kids and just have a life relationship. she was a keeper. i still talk to her. now that im divorce I have to see whats up with that booty. LOL.

Im not looking for a committment rite now tho. sooooo

 

Hell no, not every woman that you have had sex with lol. The old people lived in a different time so thats not how I judge relationships. I mean a woman that you are emotionally involved with on a significant level, not just physical!

 

I know what you were saying. I was cracking a joke. LOL. Im glad you caught that tho.

 

There are a lot of things I wish I'd never done. Some of the things could be taken back without any worries that it'll affect what I did or didn't learn from the experience.

I've often wondered what my life would have been like had I moved to Denver when I said I was going to. I wouldn't have my daughter. But then, maybe I'd have found Mr. Right and had more kids. Who knows?

But I think the journey we all take in life is meant to teach us and help us grow to be productive human beings. Some people learn the lessons. Some are doomed to repeat their mistakes until they finally figure it out, if they ever do.

I try to live without regret (though many times I fail), because after all of the things that have happened to me, I know they happened because I needed to learn and grow as a person.

 

If you can give an overall advice about life to someone what would you tell them

 

Cosign 100% Bookie. Regret is really useless IMO. If you did something that you feel regret for, examine it and determine what you can learn from it, then move on. Mistakes are useful if you learn from them, and if you do learn from them then they had purpose, so I don't see the point for regret. I just let it go and trust that whatever I did was what I thought was the best choice at the time and given the circumstances I was in. So I agree that everything we go through leads us to where we're supposed to be. There is a lot of things that happened in my life that made no sense to me at the time that I can now consider in hindsight and they completely make sense, and I can see that how it worked out was really the only way it could have.

 

I would tell them not to waste away their lives by living in the past. We can't go back and change things. In order to grow as a person, we need to live in the present and look to the future.

I would tell them that everyone makes many, many mistakes in life. There is no getting around it and to chill out if you make one. We all make mistakes because that's how we learn. That's how we change ourselves for the better to make ourselves the best people we can be at any given time.

So much time is wasted on regret. We shouldn't regret the choices we make. We should just strive to make better, more informed choices in the present and future. That's all we can hope to do.

And I would tell them to relax and live life. Life is meant for living. Enjoy it as much as you possibly can. Stick with people that make you happy most of the time and keep you happy most of the time.

And I would tell them to make sure they save for retirement. ;-)

And to get really corny on y'all:

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This song has some really excellent advice, nonetheless. It serves as a good reminder. :smt023

 

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Bookworm616 again.

 

Here is how I see that:
Why would you want to erase anything? Any thing you do, all relationships you have, good and bad forms you to who you are.
You have to own it, make peace with it, and realize that even the bad relationships - you learn something from, sometimes even more so.

 

Amen FG! rayer:

I don't grasp why you'd want to try to pretend something never happened. Obviously regardless of what you think of them now, you saw something in them at one time. It's like people who burn all their pictures, letters, etc. I just don't see the point. Someday you'll get past the bad and you might want to remember the good.

 

Hmm, there are a couple things that happened to me that I used to pretend didn't happen.

Regrets? Hmm, right now I regret meeting my ex. I'll get over the regret soon though.

 

no regrets, everything happens for a reason right?
if i said i wish i could go back and not meet my ex husband then i would never of had my daughter and i wouldnt change her for the world, thou i would change the world for her

 

That might be the most awesome thing I've read in a long time Robina. You are just a very inspiring woman!

 

i say the same for my baby girl. i know you can say i wish i could have the baby without the daddy like i would like to say i wish i could have the baby without the mother.

i know for a fact if i could not date ever again because i have to raise my daughter then i would do it. it is so wonderful to be a father.

as a matter of fact I have a name for a new thread. LOL.LOL.

thread master is in effect.