Are men intimidated by smart women?

This blogger seems to think so:

http://www.mikelee.org/are-men-intimidated-by-independent-successful-women.html

The Blogger seems to think that smart educated women find it harder to find a mate.

 

I think we're just more picky

 

Shit I hope I can find a nice looking smart girl. They are so hard to find.

 

Don't be too picky now. I just heard about a book called Mr Good Enough and I read the excerpt and I gotta say its pretty insightful.

 

I'm not claiming to be a smart woman but regarding "being less picky" - I disagree, no one should ever settle in my opinion. Life is too short to spend time being with someone who isn't completely awesome in your eyes. At this point in my life I can't ever see myself settling, mainly because I don't feel I "need" to be with a man. It's a choice I'd make to make me happier. I'd much rather be single than in a relationship with someone who I "settled" with. But that's just me.

 

Because you're in your early 20s and right now the world is humming with romantic possibilities and I notice as women get older their requirement list gets longer and longer so they probably need to compromise a little more.

 

Persephone's already got her a great guy, being picky worked for her.

 

College educated Women have an 86% chance of being married by 40. Women who are high school dropouts only have an 81% chance.


Smart Men are apparently not intimidated by Smart Women.

 

Yeah because they have a vagina lol. Men are seriously not as picky as women are. Where did you get the statistic?

 

Men are just as picky as women, they're just picky about different things.

http://www.newsweek.com/2010/01/30/want-to-be-happily-married-go-to-college.html

 

lippy completely agrees with you LS...not settling...next:smt050

you on the other hand have alot to learn when it comes to women...trust me the world hums with romantic possibilities for as long as a person is open to it...women are more self sufficient than ever before...we can have children without a man...just a sperm donation or adoption...we can take care of ourselves...buy a home and car all by ourselves...travel the world...men are just the icing on the cake and when a woman finds a good one the cake gets frosted until then it can go undecorated...

 

I never once said you needed a man. I stated a pure fact. Women in their 20s generally get a lot more attention than women in their 30s and 40s. Its not always true but generally true. I'm not saying its right, I'm not even saying I agree with it but I'm a guy I hang around other men of all walks of life and even if no man on here will say it out loud doesn't make it any less true.

 

still wrong...but nice try...andrae, i see you make generalizations all the time based on your small circle of friends...i think it's great that you want to share that limited knowledge...what you are saying is simple not true...now let's first look at the titlle of the thread...smart women...do you see this type of woman described in the article at any age as a wall flower? no...wait let's do this...you are a man right...are you saying that when you are in your 30s and 40s that you will be less interested in women? because in order for women in their 30s & 40s to get less play than the 20s... men would have to be dying off in a plague...the 30s & 40s actually now are probably getting more attention than the 20 somethings:smt115

 

Yeah continue to live in that horse shit bubble lippy. Go watch Sex and the City where women in their 50s are still considered desirable. You look at any Men's Magazine's top 100 good looking women its mostly women in their 20s. Again this is a world you will never be priviledged to because your a chick and men don't speak about this openly. I'm not saying a woman is all dried up and unwanted after her 20s because its not true but lets be honest about it. Actually as I write this it has occured to me maybe women in their 20s seem more desirable because they are out and about more and they haven't had kids yet.

 

I don't think all men operate than way Andrea. Many women meet people once they're in their 30's and beyond and even if these women have children they can still go "out and about" and have fun. You make it seem like a women is useless to all men on her 30th birthday.

I'm not in my 30's/40's but most guys I've met (who have been interested in me to some degree) have not seen the fact I'm a mother as a problem. Just like they may have commitments like uni, work etc... I have my son, college, etc... so it works out pretty good. Looking at my body you cannot tell I'm a mother if you mean physically. Oh and when I don't have my boy I'm "out and about" having fun like other people my age.


Soooo... those smart women? (Sorry, I derailed.)

 

andrae...you seem to live your life through television and magazines...perhaps it's time for you to step outside...there is a big world out there full of real people...i don't need to watch sex and the city to learn about life...that's entertainment...

let me ask you this...in a men's magazine, when you see the top 100 beautiful women...do you see in reality one of them on your arm? one of those women? if not, then you have to open up your scope beyond living vicariously through a moviestar...hiphop artist...etc...you can only live your life for andrae...the sooner you get a grasp of what is possible for just andrae and stop worrying about what everyone else if doing the better off you will be

don't you worry about what this 40s lippy is doing...i can promise you andrae that i have many options/opportunites out there...the sad thing is that there are alot of men like yourself at home hiding behind his computer second guessing himself looking for approval here from someone you don't even know when you could be out in the real world meeting real people and getting those affirmations...i see you lapping up every compliment you can get here as if that somehow shapes who you are in real life...it is scary to me when i see this need for approval here as if the internet or this forum have become some posters entire life...

i am not going to go back/forth with you on this or in any other thread...i don't have the time to sit and watch the forum or a particular thread all day so that i can argue with every person that posts in a thread hoping to find someone to agree with me...it's called discipline!

 

Crucify me if you want, but I get what andrae is saying. I think I agree, more or less.

However, at 21 or 22, you have a whole other idea of what constitutes an 'awesome' relationship versus what would qualify as such at 28, or at age 32. And women who are well-educated tend to really hone that by the end of their 20's because they've gotten older, lived a little, and understand more about what's a priority.

Now, that's not to say it's the case for everyone, but in my experience...looking back at the guys I dated at 21 versus the guys I dated up to now, and I'm practically days away from 28...things have changed by leaps and bounds. Did I settle at 22? Abso-freakin-lutely....because I didn't know any better. So, I guess with age, education, and experience, you learn what NOT to settle for, and you learn to not have patience for people.

 

GD thanks for posting this. You saved me from being completely classless with Lippy but I do agree with you. With age does come patience and with patience comes greater choices.

 

Lippy I'm done with you. You're limited and clearly its better when we don't speak so enjoy your life sweetheart.
Btw fuck you very much. You sound like a moron talking about yourself in the third person. Grow up, you're too old to be so childsih.

 

Andrae- I would wish the hunt would get less- I hoped so, but it doesn't. A young woman has a beautiful body, a girlie charm- that's correct, but a well-groomed woman in her 40's isn't to under estimate. Many young and middle age man prefer an experienced, charming lady. I see it many times in my bar,i.e., many times we have beautiful young women here, but how many man come just for me? Most of them- just to say. I really don't want to be arrogant, but it's a fact. Just yesterday there were three guys I would call them, around 24-28 maybe, one wanted to talk with me, when his friend told him that his butt is too deep for me, he just ridicules himself.

It's a simple comparison- I had that discussion not long ago with a person. Would you prefer any young woman on the street more if you could have for example Heidi Klum? Just because she is younger and out of that reason she has to be more attractive?

It depends on the person, her winning charm and the preferences of the man.