Would you travel overseas to meet someone from the internet?

I don't think that traveling to meet someone makes you look desperate. If you meet online and there's an obvious spark between you and you Skype and you still like what you see, then I think it's more about just answering the question of whether or not you like each other in person.

I don't see anything wrong with that. You won't know until you try.

That being said, I like the idea put forth about picking a vacation spot and having that person meet you there. That way neither of you are on your "home turf" so to speak.

 

How is it safer to be in a strange location? I don't follow.

The safest would be to ask him to travel to where you live.........and that way you will have your family there to make sure the first meet up is safe.

I don't think you would seem any more desperate than you would say if you met a man who lives 30 miles down the road from you in the next town. People meet in all kinds of strange ways and 30 miles doesn't reek any more of desperate than 1000. Nose didn't you say you were living in Texas when you met your wife who was from Canada. Don't tell me you were desperate. :yawinkle:

 

The desperation stems from the two main facts, 1) Humans are very similar everywhere you go. 2) Most guys are only looking for sex. So why, would a girl (or guy) travel all that way for something obtainable near by? Im not saying inter-continental romance is impossible, however, you can get that same shit at home, why fucking bother?

Also , i think this could be an easy scamming operation:

• Create a fake myspace/facebook profile (create more than 20 accounts- chat with ur self publicly...make it plausible)
• Initiate contact with a naive , desperate, low self esteem girl from Australia, Canada, Europe or Wisconsin
• Make her fall in love with you. (This means she should trust you 100%. She lusts for you, she loves you. She knows your fake phone number because youve talked over the phone and she knows your fake home address, and youve also skyped with her *using a fake identity*- make up etc, change your appearance to resemble the pics)
• You lie to her, that you are falsely incarcerated (you are black after all) and need bail money.
• You ask her for bail money
• Shes rich (or not) so she sends a series of payments your way. (Keep testing her limits until she gets suspicious- and then deactivate the account)
• Ka-Ching---a profit
• Do this to atleast 10 girls at a time, on different accounts .using public libraries to create the accounts and your temp apartment to skype
• If you are successful and you do this as a full time job ( 12 hours a day for guys like me), you could easily have 10000 fake accounts, juggling about 1000 emails/day, with about 1000 different girls). You want me to do the maths??,
• Basically, if you are a good business man, you're looking at 10000 accounts x $100/account = a million dollars. However not every account will be success, so lets say 1 in 10 account is a profit. That's still $100 000; which is what medical doctors make a year (estimate).

Easy shit, especially on message boards where people fall in love with "user accounts" even before seeing the actual person. All the actual person needs is a way with 1)words 2) women and 3) computers. Having a high emotional IQ could benefit the scammer, because generally speaking, bonding emotionally with a woman is the key that will unchain all her lusts and barriers; and she will thus, do anything for you (BMJ, book of women101, 2010)

:smt031

 

that's the way I look at any booty excursions. If i'm touring somewhere or visiting people regardless, there's no harm and no foul. To go somewhere solely to visit someone I only know from the net, without meeting prior....well that's as cool as rocking the Vanilla Ice haircut in the middle of Compton.

 

It doesn't make you think that if that person were really desirable they wouldn't be trolling the internet looking for dates 400 miles away?

 

There's a difference between trolling the internet looking for dates and being on a place like this, meeting someone who lives in another state or country and start talking to them offline and forming a sort of bond.

It happens.

 

Touché. Point made

 

I've never traveled out of the country to meet someone, but I have traveled within my country. Those were some of my best dating experiences in my life. I only traveled to spots where the guy was worth it and I had other friends there. These were also possible spots that I've considered moving to. I've met some of the coolest people online. My best friend and I met online.

 

Wow another vote for it. We should tally it up

 

Mine is within the country though...lol

I can't do the out-of-the-country thing, unless it was like Canada. It's hard enough within the country or even within the state. They have to be worth it (for me to go out of state).

Everyone has to do what's best for them and comfortable for them.

 

Some arguments are honestly funny.. if you find somebody interesting, who´s not living in your neighbourhood- then you cannot be desirable?

Maybe that person is special and is looking for someone, who is special, too..and special people you normally don´t find in every corner..

But in general, travelling for somebody, who is attractive for you? Why not? Finding friends all over the world, of different cultures is an adventure, that is life or how we say, go outside and experience something- you can sleep, when you are dead...

 

well said c...!!!

 

When it comes to true love, "overseas" is next door.

 

I think if you are really looking for someone to fit with - not just booty - you clearly have a higher likelihood to find someone perfect for you if you dont restrict yourself geographically and otherwise.

Seems to me that lots of men here think "booty", fair - but while there are a LOT of that on internet, lets not kid ourselves - there acctually are people that are truly looking for a perfect match - and - without being needy (gasp! I knooooowwwww).

Internet dating isnt what it used to be just a few years ago and a lot of people simply dont have time and/or lifestyles conducive to people locally at bars and whatnot.


Having that said:
Would I travel that far to meet somebody I met on line? Nope, not unless I had business or reason to go there otherwise.

 

First off, sorry about the desperate remark, that wasn't appropriate. But I do think it would leave her vulnerable as heck to travel to him.

Not strange location, but a separate vacation spot is what I was suggesting, a halfway point, if you will, with a friend.

 

I am from Texas but I was living in NY near the Canadian border. I am getting killed for saying desperate...sheesh! I'm sorry ladies

 

that's the fair thing to do



as long as the halfway point was full of joy sans date

 

We are banning desperate from you vocabulary.

I think all in all whenever you have doubts on something, it really is your inner voice telling you that you have a reason to. Maybe it's too soon to meet up or it's just wrong in general.

 

while you ban desperate, you may want to ban cougar as well

 

Exactly, JordanC. I said something like that in my response yesterday. Whenever you have doubts about something, there's a reason, and you should listen to that inner voice...sometimes it's just being cautious, but sometimes your inner alarm bells are really onto something.

Women's intuition isn't just a cliche phrase ya know.