Would you date or marry someone with kids?

I agree, that men aren't always in the picture as much as the mothers, but I know the last dude I was seeing, had one of his sons every weekend, so I saw him during the week. I wouldn't want to take away from someone raising their child. I'm also referring to being serious with someone. Not every mother is like the mothers on here. I don't want some woman getting into it with me cause I'm around her child, I took her man (if she still has feelings for him), if I happen to say or do the wrong thing. I could go on.

Scares the shit out of me....

 

Well, women have WAY more than enough eggs than necessary. Unless the chances of getting pregnant decrease, as opposed to just the amount of eggs you have decrease, then there really isn't much to be scared about, I'd think. But the down syndrome thing? That sucks.

 

:smt043

 

That's all I can do BA...

I want healthy babies....

 

I just LOVE that sentence! I wanna steal it - I want to translate it to pretty much anything

 

i'll give you the tip andrae...my children wouldn't dare throw a tamtrum at home, let alone in public...!!! i agree with what you said though and have said it before...parents are afraid to discipline their children...!!! i'm not talking about not being "allowed" to because i know you are referring to spanking, i'm talking about saying no to their child, laying down the law and giving them boundaries, giving them consequences to their actions...showing them that in the real world you can't always get what you want no matter how loud you yell and cry, and that you must always respect and treat people the way that you would want to be treated. i think the lack of discipline comes from the parents being afraid of not being liked by their children (i've gotten you're not my friend mum in which i responded that of course i'm not, i'm your mother), of giving them too much in regards to material possessions and trying to keep up with the jones's so the kids never really know what it's like to hear no and to go without and to understand the value of earning something.

righto...rant over :smt003

 

Russia, I was referencing people in the 40`s, like I am. In young age, I would always advice to live your life first. It makes no sense in my eyes just to reproduce without having the wish for. Young people should fulfill their own wishes to get quiet, patient and financially well situated.

My own nephew has a 4 year old child. he is 26, she is 22 yrs old. Big love,now they are separated. He doesn´t like that another man will raise his boy- but he also doesn´t want to live with that girl. It´s a bad situation for all involved people.

BTW- I myself have no children, not because I don´t like them, but there was never anybody I could really trust. My life was risky and I couldn´t have a child without confidence that it will be safe and in a loving community/family, should something happen to me.

The people I was talking about are people, who say very open that they never want cildren, because they cost money,what they love more to spend for holidays or a car. They are loud, what disturbs them, the appartment is never clean...I am pretty sure you understand, what I mean. Those people don´t care about others, neither children, their own girl/boy-friends nor their Mom or anybody else around them.

You know- it´s simply not social- we all were children, we all cost money..To dislike human beings, especially kids or animals (the ones, who need our protection most) is not attractive at all, but it´s better to have none, if you don´t like, that´s correct

Thank you Espy for defending me in my absence- you are right you know me well enough..:smt038

 

yes the chances of getting pregnant decreses with age, i met alot of older women who had gone the ivf route when i was in with my wee girl. they had also had more difficult pregnancys, things like pre eclampsia and premature births

my daughters school ( school for children with profound disabilitys ) also has a higher amount of older parents only outstripped by the amount of parents married to first cousins who's kids have ended up with genetic problems ( asian familys )

so i wouldnt go planning to wait till your 40's to have children but sure do the stuff you want to do now, you got time hun, your still young

oh and on a side note we had a few mothers on the unit who had given birth prematurly who were told it was down to thier young age and thier bodys not being ready ( these girls ranged in age from 15 to 18 )

 

No....no....and no.

 

Amen.

I got 99 problems but a kid aint one.

 

lol.... *hits you*

 

Damn, that's gotta suck.



And married to first cousins? The fuck? Really?

 

The shit! :smt038:smt043

 

according to friends of mine the first cousin thing is cultural and about keeping the family bloodline strong. mate of mine was married to his female cousin, thier familys had decided it back when they were kids. they were allowed to devorce when their parents realised thay were never getting grandkids sice they hated each other and lived seperate lifes

 

I thought having kids with people too closely related resulted in birth defects. Why would you want your kid to marry a first cousin?

 

Some cultures like the idea of "pure bloodlines." Incest with your cousins increases the risks of genetic disorders (more so with siblings). Also diseases like Alzheimers are more likely in someone who is a product of incest.

 

Wow, keeping the bloodline strong? When it's more likely to fuck up the bloodline. Reminds me of older rich cultures where they wanted to "keep it in the family".

 

Wasn't that how there was so much hemophilia in the Russian Royal family?

 

yep it is more likely to lead to problems thats why sadly theres a higher amount of disabled asian children at my daughters school compared to the other ethnicitys