Never Satisfied why Nerdy black men can't find happiness

It opened a new one for me that for sure:smt038

 

i know, i learned very early that it was the only way, so started IR dating at 12 years old and it stuck.

 

tried dating sisters but it never took, i guess they werent into a bookworm, country music listening, Independent minded, sort of guy, with no rap and no interest in acting cool

 

but never had a problem meeting WW or non black women for dating or relationships. they accept alternatives, and guys who dont follow the crowd

 

I hear you on that buddy get in where you fit in as they say.

 

And that's one chief reason why Yours Truly was seen hanging out with Foreign Exchange students (Both at MY school as well as outside schools) to look for dates Back In The Day...


By the way, cool only is...as cool does!












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you all are too hilarious...

I've often seen that as the difference growing up. Not all, but the BW that are bitter, etc - seem to grow up with these ideals about BM that they need to be. and when they are not, and when they are smart, nerdy, whatever you wanna call it, they're suddenly not into it. I was raised to hate people for hating them LOL
not because of their skin colour or stereotype. I don't know if this is a difference between BW and WW but I've seen it more often?
ANd to agree as stated earlier too, I am constantly told by WM that i am too 'weird' or stubborn, or unique, and BM JUST LOVE THAT. NERD OR NOT they LOVE it.

right now tho, i have the fun of dealing with a bf who most women think he has the swag...he's from chicago, he has that american accent(which ok I love but that's not all of it), the dreads, the style, and he is DAMN attractive. he has that swag as this woman talks about in her blog. He's not a thug but yeah. And he's told me numerous times that part of the reason he's with me is because I didn't fall for that and that only - I like who he is as a person. He can't stand when he goes to a pub/bar and women like CRAZY are literally falling at his feet to get with him, offering to have his babies(yes he has had women tell him that outright wtf!), and it's not mainly cause he has a gf cuz that's not an issue. It's the fact they want what he is SEEN to be by status. So if this author of the blog thinks that a man like him will get with her because he's not a nerd and a has a swag, she is living in a jaded jaded world....

and he IS a total nerd in the end! he plays video games and quotes frickin MOVIES LIKE ALL THE DAYUM TIME. it's rather cute actually! mainly cuz I get them too and he enjoys that. i know what he's talkin about when he quotes movies.
He is who he is because of how he was raised. It has nothing to do with him wanting to be a rapstar, wanting to have a swag - it's just HIS culture! He is himself.

and well me, i'm a nerd at heart cuz i'm an artist and pop culture freak myself LOL.
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love all the posts everyone. <3 to nerds!!!!!

 

Well that's just an awesome post. Rep added.

 

lol thanks chi!

i try my best...i need to learn about these reps now and hand some back out...

 

You know it is funny what people call cool. A lot of these so called cool cats end up working at burger king, and have a job at night. Becasue they never took the chance to learn something at school. And who says all nerds are antisocial I am a very outgoing person.

I don't follow the norm but I am very friendly, but sadly a lot of sisters at my highschool thought I was soft because I would open a door for a lady and treat them with respect. Or they would say I only like you as a friend, well that is who you should be going out with a man who is also your friend your everything?

I see some of my classmates 3 kids no husband or wife, working a dead end job. And see me single and child free having a blast dating women of all differnt races. One of my best friend who is a black woman, told me keep doing your thing you will find somoene as off the wall as you LOL. She always cracks me up so no I don't hate black women one is my best friend who I turn too when I need someone to talk to and she does the same for me.
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I have seen this myself and it is a trip.

 

"Nerds" is a catchall term for a smart black guy who isn't playing the ghetto/thug role. It really doesn't have anything to do with your social skills although the quintessential Urkel stereotype in the minds of BW is socially awkward (I am speaking now only of "Blerds" not white nerds like in "The Big Bang Theory" that's a whole 'nother level of awkward).

 

You hit the nail right on the head, if don't have my pants hanging off my butt, or wear a wife beater all the time that makes me a nerd with no game no swagger LOL. And then when one of these thugs breaks thier hearts they hate all black men.

And here is another thing I pointed out, they get mad when the see us with the great paying job, no baby mamma drama. They get mad at thier selves because they used school to be Prom queen instead up studying their school work and getting into trade school or college.

This here is a trip when they find out I am 39 with no childern they think I am gay. :smt102:smt102

 

amen, in university it was either the punks, conservs, artsy, or foreign students that accepted me, and thats where i fit in. I dress the way i liked, not with the fad or the crowd and listened to the music i loved and independent thoughts, it was awesome

 

AnDMB:

THERE IS NOTHING SEXIER THAN A MAN In a suit, tie, glasses, looking professional!!
dayum what are these girls missing out?? HELLO I will be with you ANYTIME of the day if you look like that!!

i find it fascinating the different takes within cultures...european/white/etc we see that as sexy, a man who knows what he wants and can pay for it...not any of this 'you're gay' because you dress nice bs. Wow.

 

Same here I fit in with the outcasts they liked me for who I was.

 

thank you blaze. i hate that smart, intelligent, individuals in black culture are considered acting white or looked down upon, while guys looking like they just got out of prison are seen as sex symbols

 

:arrow: sad but true.

 

And they wonder why they can't find a good man

 

Very well said.

Rep added.:smt023