Never Satisfied why Nerdy black men can't find happiness

I'm sad that I read this too. she has some issues evidently. :\

as for me, I kinna like the nerds. They're the ones that usually have a good job at the least, are caring and want a family. The rest she mentions and the ones that are hot, fly and whatever else - seem to have too many issues, too much drama and I don't want that! i don't care how HOT or fly you are, if you come with a bunch of crap, I don't want it.

If you're too strung up on a person and how they are, then move on...simple as that! and for god's sake, stop complaining about it.

as for the straight nerd factor, i still am at times myself. but yet, the man I ended up with for the moment IS that popular, well known, smooth talking black man. How he ended up with me I don't know.
For the ones that lack socialization...
that exists everywhere. As for the fact that she was saying white men end up with nerdy white counterparts - HELL NO. I have seen the opposite of this! i have seen the nerdiest, most awkward men EVER end up with models - which is obviously a personality thing. They get along because she likes WHO HE IS. this happens in both black and white.

I like just a smattering of that nerdiness. Just enough to make them cute but not how she describes them in that blog. She makes it like you have one extreme from the next - and I find often, you don't. There's a lot of middle ground in people. There's only a few that are that 'nerd' type. Most of us just have nerd tendencies. I mean hell, my bf is NOT the 'nerd' type yet when he goes home on the weekends, all he does is play PS3!

a man with a good job, somewhat educated(cuz everybody is different depending on your career) and is smart is someone I want to be with. As long as he's working hard and earning money and making it work, I'm ok with that!

and I did date the black male nerd when I was 18. Socially awkward, preferred to stay at home, gamed. He was super cute - because even with all that, he was caring, understanding, sweet and I could accept it. He's one of the smartest, most respectful black men I know but considered that nerd. It's an endearing quality to me.

So if there are WW out there who like this better than BW....that's fine by me!! means our eyes are more open to this world than certain other people's.

 

No, it is not. It is called THE Dollar factor.

The nerd, the social rejects or antisocial retard whatever they're called in high school. They become the bill gates of the world, the google founders and the face book creators and they get bangin' girls.

 

great thread. love it.

I think being smart or educated can be a hamper because some people with a degree like me can come off as an asshole sometimes. so we have to be careful on that point. I have done that sometimes. So i have to catch myself.

dating comes with practice and a thick skin. thus you will have to learn from getting diss. i once learned to get the courage up to say ( in a romantic way) lets have sex and 9 out of 10 times it worked. its getting to that point is the hard part.

i will see a woman and talk game anywhere. the store , campus or where ever. maybe ouit of 10 tries from 10 different women I may be

humility , confidence and a thick skin will get you the sex. :mrgreen:

 

bizarre....seems like the author of the blog put all 'brainy' black men into the 'Shelton' from Big Bang Theory category, who tends to be openly abrasive towards 'normal' guys and defiantly eccentric to the point of frustration from even other brainy guys (newsflash, it's not exclusive to black 'nerds').. and proudly mentions that she never dated 'nerds', and doesn't apologize for it.. zoinks...
..and of course, based on her worldview, what "normal" black woman categorizes herself as 'nerdy', is heavily into sci-fi/fantasy-novel/video-game/comics culture, is unconcerned with high-end fashion brands, prefers rock & pop to neo-soul or gospel, isn't interested in a diamond ring because she knows the dark side of the diamond/gems industry, likes to watch hockey, and has other hobbies that don't skew 'black' like hiking/camping, scuba diving, whatever.. she would probably be considered a 'wannabe' by the blog author..

 

She neglects to mention that nerdy black girls are chasing white boys. Show me an intelligent, non-ghetto sista into anime, rock music, comics, etc. and I will guarantee you she's either with a white boy or wants one.

 

Damn, you beat me to it.:smt036

 

The nerdy BW is dreaming about the guy from Fall Out Boy, not your black ass, I will put cash money on it.

 

That's not true. You never know what a person might be into. I remmeber one swedish girl I dated was into me just because she loved the sound of my voice.

 

Very true my friend very true I had to learn to be a lot more outgoing LOL

 

Damn Karma you definitely hit the nail on the head homie. But incidently all the balck nerds including myself never really go for black chicks either so I have no clue what she's talking about. I hate to generalize but typically bw beautiful or otherwise are far from approachable and if you're timid and nerdy you would never go there.

 

As a nerd I went after the white chicks too LOL. But the thing is I was able to pull the fine white girls, they seem to think we only get the rejects LOL. They can't stand nerds and wonder why we don't want them when we get our stuff together.

 

I think that the article is total garbage, and I feel the same way about the entire blog. She bashes black nerds as being very unattractive, and talks about black nerds as if they are horrible creatures. But the minute she sees one of them with a white woman, she will blow the trumpets of boycotting that black nerd, calling him a sellout, wondering why he couldn't find a nice black woman, etc.

Fuck that. I've read many of her entries, even entered a discussion on one of them before being permanently banned for having a different opinion. That place is nothing but poison. Her agenda is destructive, psychopathic, narcissistic, and fascist. Fuck that blog.

And like many others said, she seems to be relying on the image of Steve Urkel. But I am a true geek/nerd. Most of my true interests and mindset define me as one. And I hang around lot of geeks and nerds. The classic image of the geek/nerd does not hold up very well in real life. Sure, some fit that stereotype, and many geeks/nerds do have worse than normal social skills. But they tend to be smart, have their own flavor of "cool", are witty, are great conversationalists, curious, open-minded, enlightening, clear thinking, and a lot of times (such as Benjamin Franklin, Richard Feynman, Carl Sagan, Neil deGrasse Tyson, etc.) are charismatic and charming. But then again, my opinion is likely biased.

It is not the fact that she dislikes and trashes nerds that really gets me. She is definitely not my type. But if you won't date one of them, then don't get mad at who they date.

 

You should read the thread about Jill Scott and what she said in Essence about bm dating ww.

 

Of course, the excuse they use for that is that "some other black woman" might want (read: could benefit financially from) the black nerd. The bottom line is they want to control us.

 

I agree with you fam and in a world where being smart is better indicator of how one will survive over pure brute strength or being physically desirable wouldn't nerds be the Alphas now. The Ceo and Cfos who couldn't get dates in college so they weren't as distracted and worked their asses off. The engineers who got beat up in high school but send space shuttles to the moon and give us technology for our everyday lives wouldn't those people be the alpha especially since the desirable men she's talking about usually work for nerds. Show me a jock who owns as much as a Mark Zuckerburger or a Bill Gates. Better yet show me a jock who has accomplished as much as a Barack Obama. All nerds

 

Rep added.

 

Do they exist!!!?????

 

Aww that's cold!!!:smt042

 

I've met a few far in between. They're just a rarity.

 

I give her credit for being able to string sentences together, but that's about it. Like Madscientist said, the article is total garbage.

She's so emotional and disconnected from reality I couldn't finish the whole thing.