Never Satisfied why Nerdy black men can't find happiness

http://blackconsciousthought.blogspot.com/2010/03/never-satisfied-why-nerdy-black-men.html

This is a trip tell me what you think about this

 

The very premise of that blog is flawed. The authors "ideas" would only hold water in a short term relationship. Her conclusions are based on a man, masking his true personality in order to reel in a women.

Pretending to be someone you aren't is like tensing a muscle, you can't keep it up for long. Once the real personality comes out, the relationship involved would most likely fizzle quickly. Any relationship councilor worth there weight would tell you, long term relationships only work out when both people have truly complementary personalities.

So those "nerds" she speaks of, would be doing themselves and their future partner a disservice by listening to this authors advice.

 

That's so lame I don't agree at all

 

Damn it, man. Why did I click on this link?

As a black "nerd", I enjoyed reading her perspective even though it hurt to read some of what she was saying.

Answer: Who says we aren't when we can actually find a real one?

I'd date an attractive nerdy woman in a heartbeat. But let's get something straight here - being a "dime piece" and being a "nerd" are not mutually exclusive. There are many on this very site to disprove this notion.

Once again we have someone telling someone else who they should date by talking about "counterparts".

More to the article, she's not talking about nerds at all. To me it sounds like she's talking about "bitter people" who blame their lack of success on others in general.

 

Or its just natural for any guy to want a dime piece but I hope girls like this understand they need to be far more than hot for a guy to say with them. Hot may be enough for us to want to have sex but not enough for us to stay. I love when girls see their beauty as just an asset its a liability too.

 

I think she's an idiot. Being intelligent does not make you a nerd. She seems to think being university educated makes you a social failure and you should not seek an attractive partner. Sounds a bitter undereducated woman to me.

 

Good point. I was having a conversation with a young lady the other day and she mentioned pyroclastic flow in such a casual manner that my heart kind of skipped. But, that's probably just me.

 

It changes the more educated a woman is. The pool of selection gets smaller, but better.

 

I agree, bonsai. Part of the problem is dealing with the long held stereotype that being dumb is somehow cool.

 

Or that your looks will last forever and carry you through life.

 

This thread reminds me of that story about the woman with the two Virginia hams under her arms, but she’s walking around town crying because she’s got no bread.

 

Very true. People are afraid of their family leaving them behind with education. I had a pretty frank discussion with my mother last night. She said, "Oh you'd date a janitor if he was a really nice guy and attractive, right?" Well, no. Not at all. Not because there's anything wrong with honest work or that I don't admire hard-working people, but because we have to have something to talk about.

And I think people apply that rule in their lives in different ways. Some people wouldn't be friends with a janitor or would be ashamed if their adult child was one, and that's not me at all. I know the kind of person I want to date: Someone with at least as much get-up-and-go as I have. I'd rather date a nerd than a Tyson Beckford knockoff who is just lazy, getting disability checks for his "chronic fatigue." If a guy's a little bit of a nerd and likes video games or musicals, but he has his education so he's literate and somewhat read, like a teacher or nurse or engine driver or fireman or electrician, wonderful. It's not about being a rocket scientist, but about having the depth of character to look after oneself. I'm babbling.

 

Interesting that you said that. I always felt a lot of younger girls just want a guy to take care of them so I thought a nerd would be the best option.

 

I think society is pretty short-sighted and high aspirations are a thing of the past. "Kept" women are a thing of the past. If you want to marry a doctor, these days, your best bet is to become a doctor.

 

Very good point. Guess love isn't a factor anymore lol.

 

Thanks for you posts people this woman seems bitter as hell at us so called nerds LOL. I think maybe the nerd she dissed in highschool did not want her once he got his shit together LOL.

 

Who said a janitor cant be a great conversationalist? I have had a great morning discussion with a lunch counter lady and a cleaning person than a stupid dick stuck up his ass doctor.
Your career does not refelct the depth of character that you have as individual. There are plenty of college educated immigrants in this country who drive cabs, clean toilet and work as a mall security officer. Their job does not define them.
Also higher education is overrated, there are plenty high school drop outs who are a lot smarter in life than a PhD fucker.

 

Cosign brotha

 

Very well said.

Rep added.:smt023

 

No woman is going to date a brother like Steve Urkel. Not even the Eastern European girls who may like the Polka music he plays.