why do women chase players

Andrae has mentioned in past posts that it's been a recurring thing, so I'm pretty sure it's not just one woman Tarshi. Initially when this came up some months back I thought all this talk of materialistic, money hungry women was just a case of bad luck on the guys part, but I've since reevaluated that and I think it's more a case of age of the women involved.

After mentioning this to my daughter, she proceeded to inform me that almost every single girl she knows has the 'I just want a man to take care of me' attitude. They openly discuss how they don't want to work after they finish college, they just want to find a man and let him support them. Now that's certainly not representative of all women, and it doesn't describe my daughter who thinks they're all lazy gold-diggers, but it's apparently really prevalent in the younger generation.

Now considering Andrae is in his 20s, I can believe that he may be running into a lot of women his age with that same mindset. Most of the women here are in their 30s and 40s and perhaps that's why we don't think like that. Additionally, we appear to be a very secure, and independent bunch of women, which no doubt contributes to our more self-sufficient outlook. So I think it's a combination of factors, but I don't doubt Andrae's experiences and I can see why he keeps running into those types of women if that's predominantly what's out there in his age group. I think it's unfortunate because he's a really great guy, and I firmly believe the right woman could amaze him and make him very happy. I jokingly suggested to him once that maybe he should consider dating older women since they seem to have a different mindset, and now I'm thinking that may be good advice.

So basically we're all the exceptions to the norm ladies, and I for one am thankful for that. I'd hate to be like some of the women that the men describe.

 

So the question is - what happend between the 30 something and the 20 something generations? Like a complete turn around. Look at Liquid and Russia, they are not like that, granted they are not in the US, but there must be some sensible 20 something women around here.... What about StonerChk or BonsaiK and PM and what about DH - certainly not a shallow leech in any sense of the word.

I know women in their 20s here in the US that have careers and buy houses on their own.. where do they go on their free time???

Andrae might need to consider dating women a few years older.
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I hate attitudes like that. Go get and education and a job dont freeload on a guy!

 

I agree FG, it's really discouraging to see a generation that appears to be fixated on money and materialistic pursuits. I honestly don't know why that is. As I said, my daughter is absolutely not like that at all, she won't even let a guy pay for a movie ticket, and in fact would rather pay for him. But I'm that way and she was raised to not expect anyone else to pay her way. I don't know if that's not something parent's enforce with their kids, or if it's just American society's emphasis on the things that really shouldn't matter? Whatever the cause, I think it's sad, and I'm happy it hasn't afflicted my children.

 

As usual I love reading your posts Espy and FG. Tarshi Espy pretty much summed it up for me. It might very well be an age thing because my dating circle pretty much includes women ages 23 to 28 and women that usually want to be married and have babies and stay home. I do notice women who are no longer in the prime child rearing years are not as into having a provider in their life. Maybe I should go for older. I never really considered it before coming on this site but the women on here defy what my previous notions were about older women. A lot of you are fun and sexy and so layed back it makes it hard not to want to be with an adult. I realize a lot of the girls I date are still children in some sense.

 

Your daughters' comments are unfortunately correct. I know FAR too many girls with this attitude. These girls aren't my close friends in any way, don't get me wrong, my friends generally have ambitions that go higher than 'find a husband, get knocked up, take his money!'
It's similar in England because most girls now aspire to be a 'WAG' (footballers' wife or girlfriend) so they actually spend their time preparing for the big bad world by getting fake bleached hair, fake tits and spray tans rather than going to college and getting qualifications.
Some girls have even less ambition. They just want a kid and a council flat, never even dream of working since they will be looked after by the government.

I believe that Andrae has had all this bad luck because I've worked with too many girls like this when I worked in a fashion shop. One girl started dating this guy and when he cheated on her, his 'punishment' was to buy her fake hair and an engagement ring. When I got cheated on (and mine was a kiss, he didn't fuck anyone else) the absolute LAST thing I could think about was a future with him! I was an emotional wreck for a long time because of the trust, there's absolutely no way that him buying something for me would have made up for that. She also made him take out a four grand loan to pay for new clothes for her. And now three months later, she's knocked up.

But not all girls my age are like that. None of my friends are, I'm certainly not, and as FG kindly pointed out, most of the twentysomething women on here aren't either. Unfortunately, too many are though!
Even my mum encourages me to get with an older man so he can 'look after me.' I find that pretty stupid. She's actually tried to set me up with guys in their late thirties.

 

Thanks for posting that. Sometimes I know I sound like I'm whining but I think this is a real issue. I recently turned 29 and I would love to find a partner to share my life with and build life with but its really difficult when you know this kind of attitude dominates the culture.

 

:smt058 Luv you too babe!

That's pretty much what she was telling me Russia, and if it hadn't come from my daughter I wouldn't have believed it, but she's just entirely too fair-minded and observant to tell me something she wasn't certain was correct. It's unfortunate because women with that money and security seeking attitude really just reflect badly on all of us. It's women like you and my daughter who end up having to work twice as hard to show that all women in your generation aren't like that, and that's really unfair because you're such a great lady and you shouldn't be measured by the low standards set by anyone else.

 

:smt113 Happy belated birthday Andrae! I knew it was coming up, but didn't know the date.

 

Its my whole generation period. Words like honor and integrity are pretty much dead. Its a big time gimmie mine culture right now and truthfully I don't know how we're going to overcome it.

 

Np I'm not a big bday person anyway. It was on the 2nd.

 

Me either, I hadn't celebrated one in 19 years, but the kids went overboard this year. I hope you enjoyed yours. You're older than I thought, for some reason I was thinking you were mid-twenties.

 

Ouch do my posts come across as young minded lol.
I'm glad your bday was great. I did dinner movies and drinks with some great friends and family.

 

Aww, not what I meant at all babe, honestly. I just thought I read somewhere that you were 25. I don't think you seem immature for your age at all, quite the contrary. :smt058

 

Thank you baby girl. I know my rants might come across that way lol.

 

I like your rants, I prefer people who speak their mind rather than those that make veiled comments to try to play with people. It speaks to your confidence level too, you speak your mind and are prepared to back up your opinions, and that's a very attractive and admirable quality.

 

Damn Espy I think I'm blushing and that's next to impossible with my skin tone lol

 

I dont want to come across dissing women because there are a lot of sorry men out there.

I will keep this on topic. I was married to a very self centered woman who has character issues. I was stupid enough to marry her because i was ready to go and start a Family. I just did not heed to the SOS (signs of slickness).

my thing in regards to women ( not all but a few ) it seems they like drama or the soap opera life

 

Id be crazy not to cosign this GL

 

LOL. I take it you been there done that and trying to avoid. LOL

 

Yes sir but as Espy and FG pointed out it probably had to do more with the women I was dating and their age. Some shit people just grow out of.