Living with someone

Like it or not? Not talking married, just living with a SO. I am finding it annoying as HELL

 

what's a "SO"?

 

Bosoxlady I assume it depends on, with who you live with. It can be boring, annoying, destroying or the most wonderful, you ever experienced..It´s also important in which life situation you are.

I feel fine, living alone, but I don´t want it for the rest of my life. But I also don´t want just somebody so that I am not alone. Because lonely I am not, I could travel, call or meet somebody. But the feeling to come home and there is somebody, you really and truely love, can be enormous..

 

"significant other"

 

why do you find it annoying

 

ahh. thanks playa.

well living with your mate is always going to have annoying aspects. most people are involved with someone who is different from them. similar frames on the basics of life, but different ways of keeping their personal space. so when you share a domicile, you deal with things often that get under your skin.

but personally, i would not get married without living with my woman first. see how we gel in the closeness of daily living. because dumb shyt like leaving under on the floor in the bathroom can cause drama. (that's what they make laundry bags and hampers for. wtf) hahaha

 

I get that. I can see myself in a gret realtionship in another 5 years, but not now

 

i'm with you on all of that, CD. i particularly agree with the many aspects to one's personality.

 

Wow. Really???

 

Could we always plan it like that.. maybe you meet somebody- but his life situation is like yours today at that point of time? Or maybe he planed and organised to live in another country? Or you?

I had to learn that sometimes you meet somebody you love, but there is no way to live with that person. Because of the circumstances around. Plans are wonderful- but the only advice I can give, is- if you find a special person, made for you, take the chance- there won´t be a lot of them in your life.

 

Because his stuff is everywhere. He even dared put a robe in my closet after I TOLD him that was the ONE space off limits :smt018

 

:smt081 Bosox, I'm LMAO @ that!

I understand your desire for personal space, but I think at the point you live with someone you might as well kiss that goodbye. Everything gets commingled and nothing is sacred. Personally I'm perfectly content to never live with a man again. I don't like spending every waking moment with someone, and I don't think a relationship entitles someone to every thought that goes through my mind, but that's hard to achieve when you share the same space. I'm all for him having his space and me having mine. Ideally I think spending some time together, sex, and then going home to separate houses would be great. If I lived with someone then I would feel they had a say in any decisions that were made, and they'd be welcome to my closet or any other space. Frankly I just really like not having to consult someone else on a day to day basis, and at this point I'd really prefer to keep it that way.

 

amen, amen, aaa-men! for me personally i have found that the best people in your love life cannot be planned and most often times it doesn't work out. (normally bad timing, transitioning, growth opportunity in career, etc) if you're a go getter, you will probably be best fit with a go getter. and that leads to the lovely complications of life that pulls people apart.

"cheers to the loves i have lost
for who passion was known, knowledge thru grown
the experience of which, a true fiyah was sewn"

 

His stuff is everywhere? If you are living together as equals, you would assume he has stuff everywhere or do you mean he is untidy?

You said, you are not ready for a great relationship so Im guessing you arent entirely willing to share yourself and your space to 100%.

So then why live together at all? if you are going to be misserable, you will also make him misserable...... a lose lose situation.

 

It was GREAT before he moved in and invaded. Took down some of my pictures to put his up etc. You are right I am not ready for this

 

LOL @ invaded and not wanting him to put up some pictures - what did you expect? A houseguest? :lol:

ok, done messin w you.
Yep, its evident reading your posts that living together wasnt a good idea.
Make the process short before it goes really bad.

 

haaa...
got a stupid prompt that said i need to spread rep before big up'ing you for this one. got me crackin up over here. lol

 

well..... there is always next week;-)

 

I don't care he put up his pix, it was that he took MINE down to do so...