Cheaters

Stoner, cosign on both of your last two points.

Lust is indeed different from love. And no, not every Woman needs a Man, all the time, or needs or wants commitment. Men who hold onto these ideas that all Women must be the same all the time are merely cock-blocking themselves.

Women who don't necessarily want commitment or a relationship can be the best friend a Man (or Woman) could want. All the sex. None of the bullshit. Yeah. Keep saying that doesn't exist, because if it did you might be sad you didn't have it. :smt081

The Women in my family, for instance, tend to mate for life. When my Great Grandfather died young, my Great Grandmother never married again. Why should she? No one made her feel like he did. She didn't need a Man, she needed *him*. Without him, who cares? My Mother never dated again after she & my Dad broke up back in the 70's. Why should she? She didn't feel like it. But nobody judges them, because once a Woman's been married & had a child she's "Won". She's done everything our society demands of her. So she can be "single" now, and nobody calls her "Single". It's sick.

Some people want to be part of a couple. Some want constant attention (fuck knows I do). Some really prefer life by themselves. Most people go through transitions in their life when sometimes they want to share their life, and sometimes they don't. That's why marriage is hard on many couples, because you have to love each other in every situation. Women who don't want any of that, for as long as they live, until they die, actually exist. And they tend to make smart Men in the right place a the right time very happy for a few hours.

Everybody should just let each other be and stop trying to remake society in their own image. Nothing in the world makes one as happy as pursuing their own goals and forgetting whatever the fuck the tv, their friends, and the people at work think. Just do you.

 

thanks my friend. I have mty bad threads but they are all in fun. Thanks again. you are my friend.

Im cool with the critiques.

LUV YA

 

darn 69 threads. That is a lot going through my head. LOL

I love 69 that is my favorite number. LOL

Thanks for taking up the cause. I could not think of a come back.

we all know Im a flame thrower at times . its because i like to stir up trouble in the name of fun.

I like to make dumb threads just to get a laugh.

they will see when my name comes up they can say OMG here he goes again. Bad english and typos

 

Are you crazy? The woman just said 'we ain't gotta date for a whole bunch of months, we ain't gotta get married, we can just hang out and have a good time, and have sex, because that's what I want' and you're arguing with her?

The best thing I can say about your post, karma, is that SonerChk is clearly not a Black girl, so that garbled thought process of the African American Woman probably doesn't apply here. The rules have been spelled out, so all I see is a win-win.

 

Well said Chi! People need to get past viewing 'alone' as a sad thing. Alone is not the same as lonely. If you are lonely and feel like something's missing then by all means go seek it out, but some people don't need another person to 'complete' them and that shouldn't be viewed as less than ideal. Nor is there anything wrong with people like that. Some of us are just loners by nature, and that doesn't mean we're undesirable, or homosexual, or hard to get along with, or whatever... being alone isn't a negative thing. People just need to let other people be.

 

Not arguing at all brotha. That's how it always starts out. Then a brotha knocks it out and women are always the first to catch feelings. In fact, the more a woman talks that casual "let's just hang out" shit, the more fatal attraction she will get as the relationship goes on. They are wired to be possessive if they are attracted to you, and no amount of feminism and trying to be like a man can change that.

But a lot of white women do parrot the sassy Black girl "I can do bad by myself/I don't need a man" talk. Especially those who date BM. Not saying that's StonerChk, but it happens. Time will tell.

 

As I said before, it's gotten so bad they're taking advice from a fucking comedian, who's only out for the hustle.

 

I've had quite a few relationships and quite a few "encounters"...I've never been the one to "catch feelings". In fact, I've had to break it off with dudes because THEY were getting too possessive. I get mine. Period. Other people can do what they do.


Besides, I'm not into drama at all. If you model your relationship after a fu*king soap opera, then that's all you'll get.

 

I got to disagree with you Karma. I've always been the opposite. I love being single. I'm not crying about it, cause I know I don't need a man. I got plastic if I really need it.

I've had a few do it right the first time, and I've been the one who has had to stop seeing them because THEY got attatched. Guess I'm just good like that :smt042

I won't get possesive over someone if I am attracted to them. Only time I do that is if I am in a serious relationship. If it is a FWB situation, and you find something you like better, well go for it.

 

It's funny, but I've never been adDICKted. I've usually caught feelings before I slept with the guy, hence why I slept with him in the first place. When I was younger, if I ever spoke of anything casually, I thought that that wouldn't scare the dude off. I didn't want to put any pressure on him, especially if I liked him.

Fast forward - right now, I've been single (and not even dating) for a while. I've become okay with it. In the past, I used to get really depressed when I was alone. At this point in my life, I don't want to look for anything, cause then I'll attract bullshit. I'm letting things play out on their own. I don't think this necessarily makes me one of those. "I don't need a man" types, but I've grown accustomed to being alone. My mother is always telling me that everyone needs someone and that "I don't need a man" is crap. Then again, Moms has been married 55 yrs and she is from a different school of thought. The thing is, of course I'd love to have someone, but I wasn't blessed like her or my sister (been with her man since shes 12 and married 29 yrs).

 

Yep. You're not lying there.

That sentence in itself is Exhibit A.

 

LOL that's something I would say.

 

I've cheated a number of times on different females. But that was back when I was in college and they werent even that serious of relationships so I dont even really feel bad. Its not like I was planning on settling down with any of those chicks.

 

Let's just say, for the sake of argument, I have cheated on those I have dated, I would have to be one heartless man to sit here and brag how I don't feel bad about it whether I had long term plans with them or not.

My question to you is and you probably don't even give a damn, but how would you feel if one of them or any of them from your past relationships came back and told you "hey, I cheated on you back when we were together and I don't even feel bad about it because I never wanted to be with your ass anyways?" Just curious.

 

They probably won't be back till next weekend and will only respond to some other thread...lol

Very interesting question though....

 

... and then get the other posters mixed up, and start spouting random crap, and whining about everyone picking on them.

 

LOL!

That sounds like my enemy....

 

Good guess.:wink:

I wouldnt give a damn. These are chicks from my past. I have no feelings for them anymore(I would hope that they wouldnt still have feelings for me either). I was a player in college. A lot of these females knew that too but females love the bad boy so dont blame me:smt050

 

Wait, you've got an enemy? Who could dislike you? :smt050