Traits others consistently notice about you that surprise you

Is there something about your personality that over the years various people have come to know about you?

Example: I don't get demonstrably angry. That is, I don't yell, or even raise my voice. I don't curse or bang on the desk. I just get a serious tone to my voice and a stern look on my face and when I am pissed...people know it!

Mrs Nose has told me this many, many times. I say, "I wasn't yelling, how could you tell I was upset?" and she says, "Oh, I could tell alright!"

I got pretty perturbed with a guy who works for me the other day. He called me from out of our office and he cut the conversation short because, as he told me later, "I could tell you were seething and I wanted to get off the phone as soon as I could".

By the time he arrived I had cooled down, but he said, you didn't raise your voice but I could tell you were pissed at me. I hadn't realized how upset I was, but he was dead-on.

Fortunately I don't get upset too often.

What about you? What traits do others notice that you are not even aware of when you do them?

 

I found out a couple of years ago that I grimace when I am concentrating. So, most days at my work desk, or if I am on the computer at home, I will have a grimace/big grin on my face without realizing. I hate it!

 

I apparently have a combo of both of you.

I dont visibly get angry either... but I have been told that its clear when I get angry because my voice gets lower and I speak slower. Something I really never was aware of.

I also always made fun of my mom, because when she is concentrating on a task - her mouth moves in a funny way. Now, Im told I do the same thing... and that my manorisms, as gestures and body-movements are identical to my moms! GASP!!!!!

The latest:
Now when I religiously go to the new gym here - I have quicky been named "the machine" by the trainers and regulars, because of the way I work out, just digging in. I knew I had resolve and was stubborn when it comes to stuff like that, but never thought it was anything remarkable - I wasnt aware of the extent of it or that it even stuck out.

 

I'm more aware of it now, but I always used to get, "You look so mad. Are you angry". I wasn't really angry, just in a shitty mood(for all of high school, mainly 12th grade). Man, you should seen me in 12th grade. I didn't give a shit about anybody. I eventually liked looking mean. Less people would fuck with me. I just naturally have a serious look on my face. Maybe I got it from my grandmother.

I notice that my eyebrows are always mean looking, and when I pay attention to it, I can feel the pressure in my forehead when I do it. I relax them, but they slowly go back like 10 seconds later.

 

That reminds me of an aggressive Doberman..you don´t see any face expression or barking, he just stares at you and his body becomes stiff..it´s the warning: "One more word..."

For me, I guess it´s the way I look at people. I always look directly in their eyes, I keep that eye contact long time and some makes it feel very uncomfortable...:smt107

 

When I'm working, or concentrating on something, I lick my lips really slowly, bite my bottom lip, or pull my bottom lip through my teeth. It's completely unconscious and I didn't realize I did that until a former employer mentioned it to me. I also jiggle my right foot if I'm deep in thought about something that concerns me, also unconsciously, but anytime I do that my family always asks me what's bothering me.

 

Very similar to me. By the way, :smt006, good to see you.

Espy, JABL, Christine and Lil' Bro those are unique traits! Funny how we don't notice that we are doing them.

 

Very VERY good to see you to my friend! You have been missed!!!!

 

I always hear people (especially my parents and friends) that I'm negative and that I'm really hard on myself. I don't think I'm being negative, I feel I'm being honest. I don't have any physical gestures I do. I used to have a serious frown when I was younger. I stopped doing that.

 

I am constantly moving my hands and feet. If I'm just sitting around, I will shake my feet or wiggle my toes, or constantly moving my hands/fingers.

Idle hands are the Devil's playground. If I quit, everyone knows I'm up to no good ... :smt074 :smt043

 

Years ago, people thought I was always mad because I'd walk around with a angry look on my face without realizing it. I'd be feeling happy even, but people always thought I was mad at them.

Lately, people tell me I ask a lot of questions. I'm just curious, I guess!! I also chew on the inside of my cheek when I'm concentrating.

I very rarely sit still, either. I'm always moving something. LOL.

 

I don't chew my cheek, but I do chew the inside of my bottom lip. I have bitten myself many times too!!

And ya know, my never-sitting-still bothers everyone too ... :smt043

 

I guess a lot of us do this. Inner Beauty you'll have to share your secret of how to break that habit!

 

I guess from everyone pointing it out and telling me it looks awful when I do it, I caught myself doing it and stopped.


I do the same Bookie. Without realizing it either. I only get this from men in public who tell me to

 

I have been told that I am very calm in chaotic situations. My mom and my dad have always said that I never got crazy, even as a child.

 

Well, I never know what people on here are talking about when they tell me I'm witty. It totally escapes me, but I just take their word for it, heh.
Same thing with people on here saying I am so funny. I don't know I am being funny. But hey, I'm happy to make people laugh whether I knew I would or not.
That's all I can think of at the moment.

 

People often remark that I "make friends easily" and I "bring people together"... It always surprises me because I think I'm a very reserved person and I don't go out of my way to meet new people. But maybe it's just that people feel comfortable with me cos I'm pretty laid back and no pressure... *shrugs*

Also, (and it's CRAZY how often I get this. It would be something like 90% of the time) when I answer the phone people ALWAYS say "Did I just wake you up?" or "sorry, were you sleeping?". ALL THE TIME!! I must answer the phone "quietly" or something..... not sure what that's about haha

 

I am being told Im the "voice of reason in my team".
I seem to be the person on my team that everybody calls for advice or an "honest opinion" - never fails...... they always call me and I have to either tell them they did good or "that wasnt so good" in all kind of cases.

I honestly dont get it - I think Im crude at times, and I give it as I see it, not always the way the way want it.. still they call me... and I bet they throw me under the bus if they had to.. oh well.....

In graduate school they called me "the diplomat" and I still dont get that....
I think Im crude and brutal.

 

well from being on here, i've been told that i'm diplomatic and a voice of reason which makes me chuckle to myself. never seen myself that way...maybe i'm growing up (shrieks in horror...!!! thank god i'm going to go pierce my nose again in the coming weeks and getting a couple of tatts in vegas to counteract my grown up ways)

 

:shock:

Reminder to self: do not get talked into getting a tattoo in Vegas.

:smt048