I have noticed when couples are happy especially BM/WW in public the hate stares intensify. It use to bother me when the wife and I get the hate stare especially from black women. A technique I have used with results in that it makes the starer uncomfortable and perhaps it can help you is the return stare. Stare into the opponents left eye and fixate it there. Just try it and see the reaction from the opponent. Make them uncomfortable. Get into their skin, into their soul. You do not need violence unless it comes to you if the opponent gets the ants in their ass to challenge you because of the return stare, be prepared. Depending on you if you feel intimidated to do this then stare back in a short defiance and then break away with a look of arrogance with your chin high to tell the sob that their presence matters not to you. Try it.
I normally smile at them- and if the possibility is there I start a normal conversation with them. I "oversee" the negative energy and just talk. It works many times, but for sure not always. My intention is to bring people together, to give them the possibility to get to know each other- Many fear, what they don´t know (everything what looks foreign is foreign and has to be fight against..) And sometimes I am really surprised- what´s going on (in a positive way) I remember, when I was flying with a friend of mine. At the airport for sure they took him out for checking his baggage..and they found a doc of money transfer about a higher amount. The customs officer asked him, what that is..my friend was smiling at him, absolutly friendly and answered "we are in Africa not that poor as you are in Europe"... I´m telling you the whole office was laughing that guy included...from there on that customs officer was very kind..
Lippy, I'm going to move on. I made a promise to the wife to get off the social sites and concentrate on other things like spending more time with her, and be more involved in finishing school which I'm going to have to put more effort into it. Lippy, I enjoyed many of your posts here. I wish there was more that I could have done to touch based with you on the many subjects that come up here to get your critical thinking on. That is what's missing so much these days, "critical thinking" that is. I respect your intelligence and humor. I hope the best for you. Tell that man friend of yours he better treat you right or Blacktiger will seek him out. Take care Lippy. Love you.
As I got older and more confident, I found lots of ways of dealing with the stare. Sometimes, I'll look a woman dead in the eye, and then look right back at my husband and pull closer to him, rubbing it in her face. Sometimes I'll pretend not to see her looking, and then at the last minute, just before we pass each other, I'll spin and look her dead in the eye. Sometimes I'll pretend to find her attractive, and start licking my lips and kissing at her. All of these have the exact same affect: they look astonished, afraid, and rush away. One day I'll think of something that gets them to cry. Maybe then they'll stop pulling that racist shit. Those looks were harsh than an motherfucker when I was a young girl. I hate that young women today are still getting that. It should stop. IR couples need to make it clear that this is not acceptable, and we're not taking it.
In all likelihood, that hater is mean mugging your girl, not you. At the very least, she's hitting up both of you. And it will continue. Every time you go out. For the rest of your life. Say you marry the girl. It's one thing to meet a girl who is so awesome you want to wake up to her every morning for the rest of your life, if she's a White girl, you're also committing to get haters giving you the evil eye every time you go outside for the rest of your life (give or take, depending upon where you live). You don't think that'll eventually get old? And when you have kids, and they're glaring at the babies? You may be able to ignore them for ever and ever, but then you'll see them doing the same thing to other young couples. And eventually, if you have any sort of sense of responsibility whatsoever, you'll start feeling like you'd like things to be better for that next couple, easier than it was for you. And then you'll wonder if maybe something should have been done.
I get the disappointment stare from BW I get the hater stare from WM Like you said before ,you hold your man tightly when BW stare.That only makes BW even more hateful about IR relationships , that wont help future IR relationships at all IMO. No matter what you do people are still gunna hate and if they don't physically or verbally come at you its best to just ignore.
They used to come at me physically and verbally, and I learned to stop ignoring and fight back. I've been with my man for almost 20 years now. Tried ignoring. Didn't work. It encourages them, because it feeds into their stereotypes about us, and lets them think they can get away with it.
