the wish list: what are you looking for in a man or woman and in urself

as far as good people other statement. oh yes I know. I dated a wonderful woman before her but we did not make it because it became long distance and I was ready for marriage and she just wanted to date forever because she was divorced. she got burned bad. I still talk to her today so its cool tho.

I have been very watchful in who I deal with as far as getting serious. I listen and watch very carefully.

 

you are so concentrated on money..bad credit..and honestly, you are not one of a million.

 

I can understand where GoodLove is comming from. Of course he is leery. He'll come around.
I would be livid if someone ruined my good credit (I worked too hard for it) - it happens all the time - both ways.

The ONE thing Im looking for is integrity..if I cant have that in a partner, then forget it. Your ass could be hotter than Morris Chestnut for all I care - if you dont have integrity, I wouldn't touch your ass w a ten foot pole.
If you have great integrity, your credit will be fine, that is sort one of the end results if you have integrity.

I love Maya Angelous: " trust people when they show you who they are... the first time".

 

For sure, I guess every one would be angry, but for me that is life.. and it opens your eyes..I mean white is not always white and black is not always black..some one who comes around with a lot of integrity is maybe not what he seems to be. A person with the reputation of being a liar is maybe the only person, who is willing to help you in a complicated or dangerous situation.
But the major point is, that you may not stick in that situation, whatever happens, get up and go on.

We have some one here on the forum, accused innocent.

I have a friend he was in jail for two years in HongKong, innocent, we got him free last November, after he appealed.. just because his ex-girlfriend was jeaulous.
You can imagine what happens to your credit history, if you have no income for two years?

Another friend ..a bank manager took the money from his business account and left , he is now a minister what means he is untouchable , and not a small amount, you have your employees, salaries,your obligations and have to pay for your lawyer..your credit is finished after that..

I could go on endlessly

Stuff like that happens, as you said, everyday, everyway

 

I agree.. people do sometimes change.. Or get caugh it in something that is really not a reflection of their integrity..
There is a difference between wrecking your credit and not having an income for a few years. Low credit score is low credit score - I know that - I had none comming here - not because I wrecked it but becuse I had none.

But like I said, integrity is the main thing Im looking for.... the rest can be solved... if you have great integrity, you get your credit score on track faster than you think with a good plan. Economy is not my main concern, you can have a very lousy income that forces you into circumstances but still have remarkable integrity.

 

just finished watching morris on v...smacked my face on the idiot box when i went to lick the screen

 

Hahahaha Mo is the man. If I was a director, I'd have him in all my movies.

 

In a man:

1) Someone intellectual, but not snobbish.
2) Works out regularly.
3) Likes animals (have decrepit toothless cat that should be dead by the time I finish this post and one healthy one).
4) Must have "with it" sense of humor.
5) Must be well-read.
6) Preferably in medical field like I am.

Me:

I'm just dandy.

 

This post is nothing with out a pic!

 

How morbid and sad.

 

i agree with you wholeheartedly about "what part I played" statement . I can go back and say I could have done this better ect.. but when i did i could also say did it justify her actions...no it did not. what iam saying is that one of the things you will need to look out for is bad credit because it signifies bad integrity. you will of course have to anaylze everything else to come up with a good conclusion. bad credit alone will not say it all but it is a good warning sign.

actually I ran into this situation 3 times. once when i was in the military when a friend tried to get me to cosign on a furniture loan. i stated i will think on it. so i wnet to the store and told the store clerk im trying to save face. he understood because he stated this guys credit is shot and he see it all the time where people get left on the hook by cosigning. so i escaped that.

the 2nd one was i was dating this girl while in college and her car went down. (she lived at home working fulltime) thus she need 400 to fix her car so thinking it would be cool because she had a gig . she left me on the hook for 250. The loan officer told me she tried to warn me by giving me the eye. I remembered because she repeated do you really want to cosign this loan while in front of the GF.I remembered that day and I will never forget.

dave ramsey the radio show host always stated on his show never ever cosign a loan because it never ends pretty. he talked about a guy who cosigned on a Manufactured home and the friend left the place and left him with 16000 to pay back because he was the cosignor.

the only time to cosign is for a child because they are just starting out because they have no credit history established.

that is why Im saying stay away from people who have bad credit history not bad credit score.

history and score is different. score is just the fact that a person went thru bad times so you have to make sure how long they have been screwing up. if it has been 3-5 years then you can deal with them . anything over that stay away. THIS IS ONLY IF YOU ARE PLANNING ON A REAL COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE.

anything besides that dont worry about it.

also dont cosign shit.

 

when i said one in a million I should have said one part of a million. The reason i chose credit is because if you are about to get married then you may want to check their credit because it is a view to their integrity. you have to read the other post to get a full view of what im saying.

credit history versus bad credit score.

 

why the same field ? is it because they will understand what you are going thru

 

Oh, well, I suppose if the man of my dreams stumbles on this post, I have a moral duty to post a picture:



That'll do. A few months old, with shorter hair, but seeing as I just had surgery, it would be a fairer representation.

 

you are a cutie I bet you have a lot of the bros chasing you

 

Oh, so much attention!

That's the idea. It's not set in stone, but I think it's easier to relate to someone who is "used to the grind" and possibly has the same schedule. (When I'm done with nursing school, I'm looking to pursue a nurse practioner's degree and work two 20 or 16 hour shifts on weekends. I don't know if anyone outside it would put up with me. )

 

only a real man can. trust me there are good men out there . just feed him and give hime some good loving he will tear down walls for you . LOL

 

I'm sure there are folks out there working as much hours as you. What aspect of NP speciality are you interested in?

 

wow, that was like magic...do you happen to have any "hello kitty" bandaids? if so, lippy was just looking for a nurse to patch up unchosen1...he has had a rough day policing the forum...

you are very cute btw, love your look!

 

i love her look too . it is soo hot