Absolutely Baffled

I know prejudice still exists, and the comments/views of some will never go away. But what went down just irritates me so much.

I was talking to one of my best friends, and we were talking about her cousin who was having a baby. She is white the father is a black. Well my best friend’s brother chimed in to tell what he thought about getting their cousin for a gift.

He says, “I think I should buy her three nooses. One for the ****** that she slept with, one for her for sleeping with a ******, and one for the half-breed bastard child she is having.”

What he said just baffled me. I’m in shock that someone could actually say something like that. :smt107 :smt076

Now, our families are very similar (and very close). Both of us were raised with very white-supremacy type families. Any type of interracial dating is frowned upon.

I hear the things that my family says about my niece who has a white father/black mother, and about my cousin who just had a child with a Puerto Rican girl.

And my other friends wonder why I won’t tell my family.

 

That's awful

I have had people direct disgusting racist comments at me for beong with a black guy, never from my family though.. :???:

 

I love my family so, but I can only imagine what they would say about ME if/when I do have kids.

Some of the things they say make me wanna scream and pull my hair out sometimes.

 

I can only imagine it must be frustrating for you.

They may surprise you though, if they get to meet a smart, loving gentlemen who clearly has your best interests at heart, they may open their minds a little.

 

Until I meet the one that could sway them some, I definitally don't tell them about my dating life anymore. We used to be so open with each other about my entire dating life.

I mean, I can't go the rest of my life trying to please them and be with who they want me to be with. But, it does make me very upset to think of what could happen when they do find out.

 

Your friend's brother does not care about her. He loves his hatred more than he loves his sister. I realize that is harsh, but it's true.

If you have family members who would treat you like that, then you cannot trust them.

Sometimes we have to rely on our "chosen" families, and separate ourselves from the ones we were born into. This is horrible, but better to come to terms with this now, then when they ultimately prove their unworthiness to you.

 

Chi is right. If your family doesn't respect your choices in love then they are not worth the frustration.

 

It wasn't his sister thankfully. It was their cousin. I could only imagine what would have happend if it had been her. Knowing her, she may have just killed him like she wanted to when he made that comment.

Thankfully, my very bestest and her family have "adopted" me and have no issues with interracial as both my bestest and her sister have both done it. They actually encourage it! :smt060

 

Yes, I know. It just amazes me that it still exists in that way.

 

racism, sexism, and just -isms in general will always exist in the states, it's woven into the fabric of our country's foundation. but for every reminder of how lame many people STILL are, and as crappy as those reminders are, we have to be thankful and keep pushing all of the fantastic progress that has developed, and in a relatively short amount of time.

i think some of us forget how fast things are changing. in every decade there is a new major stride in american social politics, as it involves race. sure, plenty of people have hate in their hearts and refuse to develop and grow, so they hold tight to old teachings and pathetic ways of thinking. but the times keep on changing and new roads are laid. i'm not even THAT old (lol) and i personally remember the walk on washington in the early 80s to rally for a national holiday for martin luther king and 20 years later i'm in a voting line to help elect a u.s. president with a black parent. now imagine the perspective from an older person who lived through the civil rights era to see Obama sworn in.

so yea, it's wack that many people still have their heads in the sand. and all you can do is share some knowledge with their ignorant selves, and keep on movin. cause one thing's for sure, the world ain't gonna wait for them to get str8. progress will still be made... with, and in most cases, without them. :smt051

 

I admire your outlook and positivity.

 

So sad but true. Sometimes your next of kin can be some of the largest barricades hindering your progression in life. At times it is better to love them from a distance. Short visits make long-term friends.

 

aww... ain't you sweet.

 

I have to agree with IB about your positiveness (is that even a word?) and outlook.

Which is why as soon as nursing school is done I am out! Though, I doubt I'll move very far. But it will be far enough so that I am not held back by them, or under anyones watchful eyes and 'poisining' our family's way of life. :roll:

 

Agreed. Everyone is happy at a comfortable distance from each other. That phrase doesn't mean disown your family, it is saying deal with them differently.

 

Oh, I know. I could never disown them. I just wanna love them from far away.

 

Sometimes, as deplorable as the situation may be, 'from a distance' (if at all) is the only thing to do, m8..

Take it from me....who had to deal with it from *both* camps (My White Mum's AND my Black Dad's)

Life *can*, *shall*, and *MUST* go on in spite of *all* adversities....


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why r you baffled when yyour own family is white supremacists, that means there are tohers like your family o ut in the world?

 

Very well said.
Rep added.:smt023