Does hard to get still apply in online dating ???

If a man messages a woman and gets no reply, should he just move on, or should he send one or two more messages ?

 

Depends on how long he considers is too long for a no reply. It's all subjective given my recent experiences with online dating. Some men think waiting 30 minutes for a reply is too long. LOL. Other men are cool with a reply once a day or once every other day.

Sometimes people just get busy and can't answer back right away. Sometimes certain emails get less priority over others.

I would say wait a few days and send out a "How are you today?" email. If still no response after a few days, then I'd say move on. If she's interested, she'll find you and email you back.

My two cents.

 

Yes,
I agree with that..

If they dont reply, there could be multiple reasons but I doubt that "hard to get" is one of them... too many risks with that.... you two have never met so its not like you already have some chemistry or whatnot.. she will lose her window of opportunity.

Wait a few days, send another message and if no response - move on.

 

Yeah, it has nothing to do with playing hard to get - at least with me.

I can tell you that with me, the guys who got the most attention from me were the ones who chilled out and let me send them an email back instead of inundating my inbox with several messages asking why I haven't replied to their emails within the past 5 minutes.

 

exactly. i've never understood the whole keep sending me emails thing. i'll get back to you when i can...strangely, they're not the only people sending me emails and if you keep sending them i'll tell you that i'm not interested.

 

Well if you're talking email, I'd give her a day or two. I check my business email constantly, but if I'm really busy I sometimes don't check personal email more than two or three times a week. A lot of ISPs also filter email and toss it in SPAM and Junk folders, and some people either don't check those, or don't know to check them. Just because she didn't respond doesn't mean she's ignoring you.

If you're talking IM, then it's less likely she didn't see the message. I'd try one more time and then if you don't receive a response, I'd drop it. She'll contact you if she's interested. Personally I reply to IMs whether they're from someone I want to talk to or not, it seems rude not to. I think if you don't want to talk to someone, it's best to respond to that effect so they know where they stand. But I suppose some people find it easier to just ignore people.

 

lippy isn't going to make any excuses or sugarcoat this for you...move on...you will have more fun with the person that responds to you quickly!:smt045

 

I'd say give her a while, she may or may not get back to you, all depends what someone has going on, when I was using a dating site sometimes I might not reply for over a week, when you are on a dating site writing emails gets tedious and sometimes you have so many to trowel through it seems like hard work.
So my opinion is keep sending emails to other women and if this one replys back, get back to her when you have time.

 

I'm very apprehensive about onlne dating. That ever work out for anyone here?

 

A lot of the dating sites have it where you can see if they read the message. If it shows they've read it, move on. If it doesn't have a "read" thingy, you can write again, but like a week later. As you know, you never want to come off too eager.

 

good point. also playing hard to get on the net is kind of weak to me.

 

It is, but remember, people are behind the screens - so they same thing still applies. Again, this is just my personal opinion.

 

Well I think it depends what site you use and what you're looking for, I was on a site for about 8 months, I got quite a few Lunches and dinners out of it and actually had a relationship (not a bad one either) with someone I met through a dating site, I'm going to be honest though I'd say 60% of men scouring the internet have issues, I had a terrible dinner date that comprised of a guy talking about the terrible things he'd been through in his last relationship (she apprently would hide the spare duvet and lock him out of the house blah blah)
But in the end I found someone quite nice, but afterwards I realised that really I dont have time to give attention to a man the way he may wish me too, I have young kids, need to keep things casual ie when i have the time, after all that I'm re-embracing the single life. So the moral of the story is, before you look for a woman on the internet make sure you actually want one lol:smt081

 

Yes it does happen. The guy I'm dating, I met through an online site. But I had to wade through a bunch of garbage to find him.

I would up that to even 75%. LOL. I met some real humdingers. Thankfully, they showed their "issues" early on in the communication process so I was able to not give out too much personal info (in most cases none at all) before I realized they were nuts and I stopped all communication with them.

If there's one thing I learned by online dating, is you have to be really careful. Moreso than meeting someone in person, since you normally can't get a really good vibe from someone online until you've communicated with them a bit.

 

From my experience, I'd say like 90% on the dating sites ..lol They are weird on those things. You're so right, they DO have issues. As I've stated in the past, I met really cool guys on Black Planet and AOL, so I don't say that about meeting men online as a whole, just a lot of those sites, cause other than those sites, I met some really cool people (from men to friends).

 

I usually send a message once and if I don't get a response then I let it be. I don't imagine that many people on a dating site will play hard to get since I assume they were on the website to find someone in the first place; I assume that if they don't reply, than they just aren't interested. But eh... lots of people don't make any sense so maybe some are playing hard to get.

 

i fully agree with Lippy on this one. One message and roll...
hopefully you were unique in your message and if the receiver wasn't feelin your vibe, don't bother with a second attempt at a first impression. too many other hundreds of thousands of newbies to meet and potentially make a lasting connection with. the best one for you to build with won't leave you hangin.

 

In my experience, just move on. If you really, really like her, wait awhile and hit her up some other time. Sometimes girls be going through things or they're already in a relationship. Most of the time it's because they aren't attracted to you OR your game was wack. It's usually the latter.

 

I know you don't think men are the only ones w/issues.. just about all of the women I've met on there have SERIOUS issues .. we're even talking 'meds' issues... I'm running away from it all...

 

Don't look back!