Do you like for your black men to be tuned into his cultural heritage or do you prefer for him to be culturally assimilated to the point where his heritage has no place in his personal life at all? Considering that there are a lot of white ethnic groups in existence, how important is it for you (white women) to share your culture with your black mate? When children are involved who's culture is dominant in the home or do you both work diligently to instill a balanced cultural education in the child/children?
It depends on the man and where we are going to stay.. I had a boy-friend in a muslim country and if it would have gone further, you have to find a compromise. He would have never gone to Europe, so for sure the marriage would have been mixed. I don´t really care about religion, but children have to be educated in an European way.
Damn you're witty. I read this the first time and thought WTH with the randomness, then I looked at the thread title and the light came on. :smt115
Cool. I ask because I have seen people involved in interracial relationships (not just black and white) that would lose themselves wholeheartedly into the other partners culture. Would you still let the children learn the father's native language?
Its important to be pround of your heritage and bring it forward. We cant lose ourselves and we need to keep traditions and stories alive. The kid from two different cultures must be allowed to learn both cultures or they lose a part of who they are.. If different languages are in your home, both languages needs to be taught. Kids do this naturally when young. That is what I think
I would be upset if my husband didn't share his culture with me and our (future) children. All our kids will learn to speak Kikuyu and Swahili, as well as English (and Aussie english) of course. They'll eat and learn to cook traditional Kenyan foods too and I want them to know the history of my husbands tribe and country. I also want them to know about Australia. The history, the culture, the food etc... I think it's extremely important for kids to know where their parents come from and what they're a part of. And I'm trying to learn Swahili right now. Not sure I'll be able to manage Kikuyu as well though. :smt005 I definitely want to teach him about Australian culture too. I've taught him a bit, but he really needs to experience it, I think. White people are just plain weird, you must witness our weirdness first hand. :smt042
Great responses by FlyingGeek and Sin Mari. Bilingual children are very smart and highly developed mentally..
True, to each it's own tho geek. I know a blk guy from an East African Country, who is educated in the states and now a US citizen. He is married to very attractive, educated professional WW. He has mix kids with her and he only teach his kids their mother's culture and language. She is a German descent American. He hates the country where he came from and he told me he is not proud of it. When I asked him how he identify himself, he said " I am a blk man in America, tho I grew up in Africa, I am a blk American". That was his exact words. He told me he is not ashamed of being blk or Afrcan but ashamed of being from that specific country. He does not want his kids or his wife to do anything with that culture, language or ppl and his wife is oaky with it.
No reason. Great response btw. I wrote this post because I was reflecting on my trip abroad. I've never had a conversation with a white person about culture and I felt it was time for me to be enlightened.
That is very sad. Too bad he had such a bad experience and that he hates his country. I'd love to share my mans culture (whatever that may be) along with mine.
well, he is robbing his kid of something very vital - its not his place as a parent to transfer that (I can understand him, but he HAS to remove himself from that). He needs to be neutral, teach his kids about his country and let THEM decide on their own. Thats a responisbility you have as a parent. I think that is SO sad. And aesop, I agree... !!!
