what do white women love about black men?

You will hear crickets before you get any answers bruh.

 

Listening to that clip, I did not get the sense that the women were at all unreasonable. Quite the contrary in fact.

I think the problem black women have is trouble recognizing good eggs from bad eggs. I used this analogy in another post but black women are like sports franchises that have trouble drafting good players. They want to win and reach the top but they aren't the best talent evaluators. Sistas want those talented tenth brothas that went to Morehouse or Howard, are members of Omega Psi Phi, Alpha Phi Alpha or Kappa Alpha Psi with the nice smile and the good career. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that but you have to evaluate a man's character first and foremost. Personally I think a lot of brothas that many white women would love are the kind that most black women would have trepidation about.

To summarize...sistas tend to judge men on tangible qualities and many white women tend to judge men on intangible qualties that are often more difficult to evaluate.

 

Black women can be more practical than women of other races but it is that quality that often restrains sistas from using their instincts when dating men. They rely too much on pure logic and don't always follow the intuition that should guide you sometimes.

 

Wait...what?

 

I agree but he's totally right though. I never thought of it from that angle.

 

It is counterintuitive but what I'm saying is that sistas will look at the factors that one might expect: height, body build, attractiveness, income, education, investments etc. They focus on readily visible qualties and often pay less attention to what is just beneath the surface. This is why you will hear of sistas talking about good looking, successful and educated brothas that want to play around/cheat on them...it is rare to find someone that has all of the relatively superficial attributes plus high character, morals etc. There is always a tradeoff somewhere.

 

More than likely it's because it's what we value as a society and I have to say that bw have it the hardest because they are burdened with the wm standard of beauty that they can never really live up to without it being artificial ie weaves and color contacts. At least we as men can count on ability to make us attractive but for women the physical is the main thing that draws us in. It's kind of sad.

 

Still crickets.

 

True.

We have to be honest. Each of the women in that clip were quite attractive and seemed to have themselves in order. If those women had their same attributes but happened to be white...I doubt they'd still be waiting. Of course a lot of sistas put off serious relationships until they've "made it" and by then, the brothas that actually want to be married are all gone....what is left are hot-shot ballers that either don't want to be married or would rather have a woman that is ego-boosting accessory rather than a true partner. How many wealthy men have you seen married to women that made you think "she's fine as hell but....."?

 

Again with the sistagirl talking points. You didn't hear such gobbledygook back in the 70s and early 80s, when sistas had 'fros and were sexy on their own terms. They weren't trying to stack up against WW in the least. Grace Jones anyone? Pam Grier? Tamara Dobson? Bueller?

I say it's the attitude and sense of entitlement when they themselves aren't bringing much to the table that hold a lot of modern BW back, not the mythical "European standard of beauty." The hottest woman of any race can be ugly if they bring negativity to the table. A just OK chick can get over big if she's sweet and nice.

 

I can agree with this...I think what the women are saying is that even if they bring considerably more to the table than the average white woman..those white women will find a partner...and they won't. It's a numbers game...sistahs have to start pulling double majors in college (Accounting and an M.R.S. degree) and stop waiting until they are 30 to take any man under '6-5" seriously.

 

Rich men are finding their mates behind a Starbucks counter, or dumping their wives for the nanny. College degrees don't even enter into it. That's what WW get and BW don't.

(PS I'm actually surprised you agree with me )

 

Dude you often miss my point and please knock it off with the whole sistagirl thing. I'm just saying that bw are often marginalized. Look at entertainment and who we as a culture deem as beautiful they look closer to a Heidi klum then a Gabrielle Union. Even the most beautiful and talented bw are over looked take a look at Vanity Fair's recent cover. I do agree that some women do act entitled and limit themselves but I think most people live in boxes surrounded by their own misconceptions and fear. That's what makes it difficult to explore things outside their comfort zone. You seriously can't tell me that bw are often over looked in terms of finding a life long mate not because if what they do but because of what people think they might do.

 

Dude you talk like they do with the excuse making and I will point it out. As a black man constant excuses won't do and if these women are supposedly my equals or betters, excuses won't do from them, either.

More like Gabby Sidibe haha (And yes I'm a Gabrielle Union fan)

OK, the issue is "Fresh Faces of 2010." Are their any fresh black actresses coming out in 2010? Zoe Saldana's movies came out in 2009. Peeps just keep harping on it.

Agreed but whose fault is that? Many times peeps take a chance on a sista romantically only to be proven right in the end.

 

Truth be told in terms of new fresh faces I have no idea since I don't focus on entertainment like that I'm sure there are some. Most of the girls on that cover I've never heard of and some of them have been on there more than once at least so I've heard. Actually there's a black chick on that new Vampire Diaries tv show on the CW. She's unbelievable good looking, besides it's there job to inform us not the other way around. I'm not saying the cover shouldn't have been done but it's an example of what's considered beautiful by the mainstream.
As far as taking a chance on bw and being proven right don't you think that has more to do with mindset. If look for bad stuff you're bound to find it.

 

Chosenone:

I dont think black women are more superficial than their white counterparts. I mean, finding a perfect match is a subjective matter and it is my contention that the prime number of black woman are prime examples of a possibly good black/black union gone bad. They have been there with the black man, and have done THAT; and thus, they are more cautious with US because they know US way more than white women do. A white woman usually fails to visualize the "game" young black males often play. Black women on the other hand can smell game from miles away and never back down from puttin a nigga in his place.

Im not saying what you said is wrong, but im saying that you are generalizing black women as being superficial when in fact, the majority of them are merely more cautious and thus more picky.

And I dont blame "picky" women either(and i mean women of all nationalities). I mean, if a woman is looking for "someone right for them" or "someone right now" who am i to judge?????>............. I will tell you what though, ive seen way more white women who wanted "arm candy" (sex toy....Mr Right NOw). In fact, percentage wise, id say that white woman are atleast 20% more likely to be superficial than black women.

Thats my factoid

 

I wouldn't say sistah's are superficial. Black women have a keen sense about what they want (very specific) and this can limit them because they (some not all) are not always willing to compromise on attributes that they may need to compromise on. Black women want marriage but I don't think they put it high on the priority list until long after white women...usually. The plus side is that black women go further up the corporate totem pole but the downside is like trying to buy Superbowl tickets on the day before from a scalper. You are going to pay through the nose for the tickets...if you are lucky enough to find any.

 

I just joined here, and read some, but not all of the 78 pages on this. I read a lot of valid points. One thing I learned in a human sexuality course in college was that Black men have a higher level of pheromones that are given off from their skin and hair, especially during exercise and arousal. This undetectable scent can cause a white woman to become aroused, and stimulated in the presence of such high level pheromones because she is not used to being exposed to them. Also there are published studies that Black men do have higher sperm counts and testosterone levels than their white counterparts. This was said to be a reason for higher pregnancy rates in Black women and interracial couples, as well as a woman's physiological instinct to reproduce. Seek out the fertile males, and vice verse. I was stunned to find out this has never been publicly said, but then that would be in a perfect world.
Aside from those facts, I find Black men more confident, more comfortable about sex (not so uptight about the subject) more uninhibited about sex, and just much better at it! lol

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You and your football analogies :smt043 :smt043 :smt043

 

Just wondering, do you know where I can read about that?