Everybody Hates Black Men -- OR is it:

Everybody Hates Black Men -- OR is it:

Everybody Loves You Baby, Not Just Me



This is a thread about the theory that everyone hates the Black Man. Here is a video that addresses some of what I'm talking about:


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Now, let me preface this by saying that the creator of that video is very liked by many awesome Men, and I do not mean to attack her personally.

But, to me, that sounds like the message of an abuser. "Everyone hates you. I'm the only one you can trust." If a lover said that to you, you'd be justified in calling that controlling and abusive.

Moreover, it's an inaccurate depiction of reality.

Yes, we know that racism against Black Men in the United States is something unique in both its evil and its scope. No one else has ever faced the specific kind of oppression and cultural genocide that was imposed upon Black Men in this country, over a period of hundreds of years. We know further that post racialism does not exist, and that the struggle continues even today.

But that is not the same thing at all as "Everyone hates Black Men." Nor is it something Black Men need to be reminded of.

Black Men know what obstacles they face. They are busy facing them every day.

I think it is far more important to remind Black Men of the part that nobody talks about: the ever increasing numbers of people worldwide who LOVE Black Men.

Now, no one stands anything to gain from telling Black Men that they are loved, that they are adored, that they are welcomed. It serves no one's agenda. But it is true.

Look at this board. There are women from all over the world here because they love an individual Black Man, or because they would like to fall in love with a Black Man. Women from Australia, and Sweden, and Estonia, and Germany and Russia and England and Canada and more. From the North and South and East and West and Middle of America.

I think Black Men deserve to be reminded, as they walk through a life where not only are people mistreating them, but reminding him how much others want to mistreat them, that there are Women of multiple races from all over the planet who think they are awesome. Who think that Black Men are sophisticated, charming, wise and gorgeous.

This idea that Black Men have to be told every negative in their life has been confused for positivity. It is not. It is controlling and it is abuse. No Black Man needs to be told what obstacles they face. Constantly speaking only of this is a way to put even more obstacles in the way of Black Men, by making them question the motives of potential allies, to inhibit their ambition, and to prevent them from traveling and seeing a world that may welcome them more than they expect.

If you happen to receive the gift of being able to speak with an older Black Man who served in World War II, you may hear of their experiences overseas. I have had that gift, and the man I spoke with told me how the Australian Women he met had been warned against the Black Men they would meet: they were told that Black Men had tails, that they hid under their pants. This was told to the Australian Women so that they would stay away from the Black Men. It had the opposite effect, apparently, because it just made the Australian Women more curious to meet and get to know these Black Men from America. Ultimately, he was surprised by the warmth that these Women showed to the Black Men they met, that continued the whole time they were there.

In my own generation, many of the Black Men I grew up with have traveled and found even more strongly warm reactions from people all over the world.

The key element is surprise. Every Black Man I've met who had the opportunity to travel, either throughout the United States, or to different countries, has been surprised that in places they had never been to there was warmth and love for them. But not every Black Man has the opportunity to experience this first hand, and with the messages being sent to Black Men every day, I wonder how many know: in between all the people who fight the Black Man, there are ever increasing numbers of people who love them.

 

And so, just for the Black Men who may see this thread, I'd love it if any of the Women who are read this would do me this favor:

If you love Black Men, if you love A Black Man, or you would like one day to fall in love with a A Black Man, please post about it here. Even if it's just "I love Black Men, too", I think Black Men deserve to hear it.

Please join in.

 

I'm 37 going on 38 years old. Growing up, I had a big crush on Michael Jackson. I owned posters, a button and a pic that I cherished. I remember when I was 14, I used to talk on the phone to (Black) boys. When I turned 15, I used to go to the mall and skating rink and I eventually met the guys that I met over the phone, but they weren't my type, but I was still cool with them. Then I had what turned into my first real date. I was at Magic Mountain (amusement park) and I met this guy who I had seen around at different functions and he and I spent the whole night together. We held hands walking around the park and talking. It was a memorable night. Then at 16, I went to HS. It's funny how guys never approached me in both Jr. High and HS. I met guys outside of school, but I was such a prude and very timid. I met another guy and he and I always hung out together like a couple, but we weren't one. Then at 18, I met my first boyfriend and I had my first kiss. Then at 20, I met someone who I fell really hard for. He broke my heart. At 21, I lost my virginity. Then I've dated more BM since then. Hopefully I'm granted a husband who - he too will be a BM.

Fast forward to now. Looking back at my first date, boyfriend, kiss, sexual partner, they have all been BM. I've always had an affinity for BM. I know it's not just sexual cause I have loved without having sex. There's something about you that's very powerful and I'm not talking about body strength. You magnetize me. I sometimes forget how racist society is, but I march to my own drum. When it's all said and done, through the hard times, through the love, the dislike, the hurt, the happiness, the adversity, the ups and downs, the attraction, the conversations, the laughs, the support, the unsaid power that draws me into your sphere, I LOVE YOU BLACK MEN.

 

Thank you so much for posting this. You totally made my day.

 

Good thread.:smt023

 

You must spread some reputation around before giving it to Chicity

 

chicity, this is basically your own M.O.

 

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Inner Beauty again.

 

So praising Black Men is abuse? I guess in your universe, then, hating them is love.

 

Thank you Karma!

 

I've met black men I've loved and ones I hated, my Husband was a black man and back in the day I loved him, although I don't date black men exclusively ( I do occasionaly throw a white guy in) I only date people I like and they often tend to be black men, so yeah I definitely don't hate black men.

 

Well I think if you're a WW on WWBM that it goes without saying that you love black men, however perhaps some things simply need to be said.

The first man I dated was a BM and having been raised the way that I was I neither knew that was unusual or that a lot of people considered it inappropriate, but had I known I wouldn't have cared. He was intelligent, humorous, sweet and had the sexiest voice. Hours spent with him seemed like minutes, and the chemistry was amazing. He very much personified all the good qualities a person can have and dispelled all the negative stereotypes that people try to apply to BM. Of course at the time I was a naive idiot and didn't know what any of those were. I just wanted to be with him and he wanted to be with me, and it never occurred to me that there was anything else to consider.

Now there are a number of special BM on WWBM who also represent all things good, and who inspire faith, hope and love. Y'all know who you are, and I hope you realize how truly lovable you all are. :smt058

 

This.

 

Get lost! Why must you be so bitter?

 

I love and appreciate you ladies here...Lippy, Espy, IB, Jordan, Tarsh, Bookie, Beautiful02, Geek, Francie, etc...

 

Every action creates an equal and opposite reaction.

 

lippy appreciates you too smooth:smt008 happy valentines day

 

and smooth you gorgeous man, i love you to bits as well...!!!! :heart:

 

We appreciate you too smoothie.

 

There are people that don't like black men?? What the hell is wrong with them??

I started dating black men when I was 18 so I have been dating black men off and on for 18 years. There have been good times and bad times, but that is with any relationship and not just IR ones. All I know is that I have no regrets in my life, and if I had it to do all over again, I wouldn't change one moment.

I LOVE BLACK MEN!!!! :smt049:smt049:smt049:smt049:smt049