I have gone to the "dark side"

Damn Andrae, first we're too expensive up front and hold out too long... now if we give it up right away we're still costly?

WTF? A girl just can't win with you either way.

LOL!

 

Lol I meant every situation comes with it's own set of consequences. Everything costs it just depends on what you're willing to pay that defines it's value.

 

Someday you are seriously going to need to write all this down for me, with lengthy explanations, so I can follow and educate myself. I'm just entirely too easy going to give dating this much in-depth thought.

 

I'd be more than happy to. I love using this part of my brain.

 

What part of your brain do you usually use? As an accountant I would assume that would require logical thought as well?

 

Generally I really think to get to know each other better and to choose after some time, whether you want to have sex with this person or not, is the wiser way . It also happened to me, of course, that I had sex within a few hours I got to know him. But it was always a short story- that person bored me very fast. I guess the reason was that my concentration was only on the sexual activity, I missed his personality- something what is the bigger turn-on. Don´t get me wrong, I don´t regret it and I also don´t see it as a game, it´s just my decision over my body and what is interesting for me and what`s not.

 

I guess your right. It's the topic that I don't get to speak about in such a way. It's a very sensative topic and most people only want to hear what they want to hear.

 

You should know better than that by now. I don't ever want anyone to tell me what they think I want to hear. What I always want to hear is the truth and the other person's actual point of view. Always having your own opinions regurgitated back to you is boring, and inhibits intellectual growth. Only when something forces you to think outside your usual comfort zone do you actually grow. I love it when someone actually makes the light bulb come on in my head, it doesn't happen all that often but it's very thrilling. Several people on WWBM have illuminated me, and you are one of them.

 

Same here. You have a beautiful mind Espy. Too many people are emotionally attached to their opinions and that's why many might find it hard have honest dialogues. People are way too quick to turn ideas into inflexible beliefs and that's how we get to a life where people choose safe empty pleasantries rather than saying what's on their mind. It's very sad.

 

Agreed. A lifetime of ass kissing doesn't appeal to me in the least either. Just be happy you aren't stuck in that life, I know I am.