A truly exclusive site to meet white women who want to date black men?

In my opinion the woman only fears rejection of a good looking man not a man who is average. Men face more rejection than women.

 

Oh, yeah! :smt112

 

Do you really think men have more rejections than women?.... I don't usually consider it rejections when I speak to someone and find out we not compatible and are honest about it to start with. That is not rejection that is just checking things out. If I speak to a man and he is not that into me then big deal I just talk to someone else. I don't take it as something personal.
No harm no foul!!!!

 

Ok genius take a look at what I wrote. I merely commented on the reason why a man might prefer meeting on a website because you can determine with less difficulty if someone is to your liking without spending a lot of money. I didn't imply women didn't know the cost of dating I implied they weren't concerned with it because it's not considered one of their social responsibilities. Btw I never presumed to know anything about all women but don't you think it's just as arrogant for you to speak for all women as it might be for me to pressume I know all about them.

Espy I hear you on trying to find women who don't think that way but around here for a guy to win the affection of a beautiful desirable woman you have to cough up cash or someone else will. It's the nature of the beast in NY. Probably in other places but this is where I live and the only place I can speak of.

I really wishore dudes would back me up

 

Very evolved of you but in order to get the ball rolling. Men usually have to make the first move.

 

Dude just do activities. Find something that you both can enjoy and go from there. Also work out like crazy. I suggest at least a hundred push ups a hundred sit ups and running a mile daily because any physical activity you want to do with ease and women can't help themselves around a well put together body.

 

True....But a well rounded package works better so put together a smart mind and a sense of humor as well. An intelligent man that can make me laugh and is easy on the eyes.....Oh yeah!!:smt050

 

I don't doubt your experience Andrae, and I have no doubt there are plenty of men who would back you up on this. But the advice on starting off simple, instead of going all out, is sound. Why blow a considerable sum on a woman you may not even like? I wouldn't view it as cheap, and it appears most of the women here feel the same. Gotta be some similar minds in NY?

 

I gotta agree with you Andrae. The man absolutely always has to make the first move with me. I know that's not the case with some women, but I have never approached a man with the intent of asking him out, nor do I find it likely I ever will. Maybe I'm just really old-fashioned, but I think that's his job.

 

Maybe I'm looking in all the wrong places because I have yet to find it. It might be just a young thing. Maybe I gotta wait until I'm in my thirties to find what I'm looking for. Or you could just move here ;-)

 

Oh but the cost of living is so much better here, and I have all this room, and a fully equipped gym right here in the house for your workouts...

 

I've been actually thinking of moving to some off place just for a way lower cost of living. You're helping make my case

 

An expensive restaurant first date would really intimidate me, to be honest. What's wrong with getting a few drinks? Going to watch a football game? Going bowling?
And seriously, do you American folks not do rounds?! I appreciate a gentleman and everything but really, if a guy pays for everything (especially if like me, he's a student and I know that he doesn't have the cash flow) then I just get uncomfortable. A guy buys the first round, you buy the next. Later on in the relationship, if a guy takes you out and insists on paying for dinner or drinks on a perticular occasion then sure, but surely not the first few dates.
Rounds, folks. ROUNDS. 'It's my round next, isn't it?' will win a bloke over, even if they don't let you buy the drinks, they'll be very happy that you offered, rather than sitting there with an empty glass and throwing not so casual gazes towards the bar as a hint for him to get another drink.

 

YEP...I am with you on this one. I have never straight up asked a man out. I have no problems giving the "Go" signals and smoothing the way... but I think he should ask. I like men who have confidence.

 

Truthfully Karma, you'd probably be shocked how far your dollar would go here.

 

Possibly no one will agree to your sentiments because it does not co-relate to their real world experience in dating.

Maybe you are one of those types that like to gloat and, embark girls that will state "put your money where your mouth is" (I believe that is the American catch phrase).

I disagree on "It's the nature of the beast in NY." Could it be your taste in girls are more to wards the "I want" mentality?


Cheers!

 

Okay that is not a poorly veiled stripper-esque sexual reference. I really was talking about low cost of living in the Tulsa metropolitan area.

 

Yikes. I got you the first time.

 

Unfortunately I'm in financial services and ny is the best market for that but I'm so going to look you up the next time I'm out there for business.

 

" Being a woman means that you tend to be less aware of the cost of dating."

This doesn't say being a woman means you're less concerned, it says being a woman means you tend to be less aware, implying women don't understand.

You didn't? From what I read, you were implying a lot. This is why I responded to you in the way that I did. Don't get offended, I'm only speaking my mind just as you are. I'm not slamming you or being rude whatsoever. So don't be rude to me.

FYI, I'm not speaking for all women. You're presuming again. I'm speaking for ME. I AM a woman. And I am nothing like the picture you are painting of women. Therefore your statements obviously can't cover all women. Whether you meant to imply that or not, it doesn't negate the fact that I have every right to point out the flaws in your argument. What one means to say and what one actually says is often not the same. I understand that. But I can only respond to what people actually say, not the unstated thoughts behind it.

Every woman and man is unique in their own right, with their own opinions, preferences, and personalities. I'm sorry that your experiences have given you a certain opinion of a lot of women, but I see nothing wrong with pointing out that we're not all like that, even if you already realize it. Sometimes people need reminding whether they realize it or not.