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It was over the phone, so I wasn't even privy to it. She's like where? They call it what? LMAOOOOOOOOOOO! I said it's a cunt and a gut mixed, Ma.

You're right. Everyone has their own classifications of what they deem attractive. I think when people hear that they find someone physically attractive in terms of that's what they're seeking first (ie: me), they automatically assume I'm shallow. Which is fine, cause I know I look for more beyond the surface.

You have an interesting mind....to say the least and we all admire it around here.

My friend did a similar test with me. He was trying to help me figure out what my type was. I used to have a type when I was younger, but not anymore. This of course was based on the physical. We found out that I like slender men. Which has always been the case.

I find attraction to be such an interesting, yet unsaid thing. Like I said in an earlier post of mine, I really enjoy that adrenaline rush I get when I get excited or in my terms, "sparked", by someone. What tops it off is when they're engaging in a deep conversation with me or when they touch me etc.. So many things that continue to keep the spark going is what intrigues me. I also have a very strong intuition so I have to feel a vibe or a connection as well. It can go deep.

 

LOL! I don't know about that, but it's sweet of you to say IB.

Me too, in fact I find it intriguing that the majority of people seem to have a physical type that appeals to them, mostly because I don't. Literally just about any type appeals to me, as long as it's a man. Though I will say I admire really muscular men, primarily because I know how much effort goes into achieving and maintaining your body in that shape. Oddly that's the one type I've never actually dated, but then that's because no one like that has ever asked. Not to mention a man I could actually workout with is really enticing.

 

It's true...

Watch out! You might have all of these muscular guys on here after you now. You've opened the floodgates! lol

 

Many experience that type of behaviour. Possibly your charisma is heightening the emotions of your male friends. There is a slight chance you are sending signals inadvertently.

Nevertheless, you should not feel so downhearted. You will just grab anything for the sake of desperation which will make matters worse in the journey ahead.

It may be time to explore new circle of friends since it seems the intellect level of the blokes you find attractive is not your cup of tea. At times, your friends can contribute to such a dilemma if they are not on the same wavelength as yourself.

We are not of the same age so I take it playtime is over and you are looking for something more stable?

Cheers!

 

What do you mean? I think you have me pegged all wrong. I'm not sending off any signals to someone I'm not interested in. I'm a very honest person and don't lead anyone on. If someone is my male friend, they're usually platonic. In fact, most of my friends are male. I meet men all the time and If I'm interested, I make it known in some fashion. If I'm not, I'll let them know as well, cause I believe in Karma.

I may be down sometimes cause I don't like being single, but I'm certainly not desperate. I'm 37, and if that were the case, I'd grab any man for the sake of having one, especially at my age. I'm not down to settle. I'm not that kind of woman. I can be alone, even if I don't like it.

I'd like to find someone who does stimulate me in many realms other than the physical and I have met and have been with some that have. I look at it like I can't control this part of my life. I can only be myself and make myself available to single men. If it happens, it happens. I've dated a lot in my life so I know what I want and will continue to keep on trucking. There are some men currently in my life, but I'm just taking a backseat and seeing what happens.

Yes, I'd like to get married. Like I said, I'm not desperate nor will I settle. So whatever Gods plan is for me, I hope it's a good one.

 

Are you certain your friendliness is not giving some blokes the wrong ideas? If you are spending a lot of time with a person, and you are not dating, that person may assume they are the reason why you are not dating.

If some males follow the same thought patterns as the many girls I’ve come across that claimed they considered me as just a friend, you could be playing with their emotions if you are around them too often.

There are a few girls I know that state “I cannot get along with girls. This is why I have more male friends and very few (if any) girl friends.” What many of them don’t understand is some of their male friends see them more than just friends which will just escalate into stronger emotions as time progress.

Having control over your magnetism is something many neglect. Everyone offers something that lures the opposite sex towards them. Knowing what it is and having control of it will prevent any mishaps when you do not need it. Whether it is physical, mental or a combination of the two, one must have complete control of these entities or it will create havoc in your life.

Do you know what lures men to you?

I am happy to hear that. Your previous wording offered signs of looking for comfort based on frustration. It is precisely the reason I stated being apologetic for something you fancy is a sign of giving in to a next person’s will.

Right!


More the reason a new circle of friends is in order. You will encounter new opportunities with different thought patterns pending on how wide the new and older friends differ from a characteristic perspective.

Once I finish schooling marriage will be on the horizon as well. If you have friends that do not wish to be married, you may want to take heed of their comments since their thought patterns are polar opposite of your intentions.

Cheers!

 

Thanks Espy that is good advice.


Complex can you explain to me how you can misconstrue friendliness for attraction or a "come on"?

I am like IB I have a lot of guy friends but I do have girl friends too. Most of the guys im friends with though are in relationships and I get on well with their partners.

I am 21 so still pretty young in the dating game i guess. I tend to be friendly to everyone but I need to learn what crosses or blurs the boundary from friends to something more .

 

Truthfully I think most single guts who are friends with pretty girls are too chicken shit to go after what they want and just settle for friendship. If you want to know if a guy is truly your friend offer to blow him. I know it sounds crass but any guy who looks at you as just one of the guys or a sister type would never entertain that for a second.

 

LOL!

Yeah, like we're falling for that Andrae!

 

I didn't say do it. Just offer, I've had several friends do that to so called friends and every time they said yes unless they were gay.
Wait does that make me....
Forget everything I said.

 

Hmm... this seems to contradict what you said earlier about men turning them down sometimes?

 

I was kidding and if the friendship is a true platonic friendship no man will cross that line.

 

Okay, but I'm not honestly sure a man would turn down a freely offered blowjob or sex, even if she was 'just a friend'.

 

If it was truly platonic what he will really say is:

"ok"

"wait, what? no, no, never mind, ok, let's do it."

"wait, come on, we can't do that."

"no fuck it get over here"

"wait, this is going to be weird. Why are you doing this? Is this a trick?"

"Fuck it, just let me finish my drink real quick."

 

I have in more than one occasion and I ain't fucken gay, thank you very much.

 

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Thanks for the translation!

 

Good for you GZ, and I never said you were gay. Let's just call you a man of principle shall we? :smt023

 

Fancy seeing a girl from Kent around these parts! I’m from Middlesex. I moved to the States to pursue my studies. I do believe there is another girl here that resides in Kent who frequents this forum….

Well enough of my rambling!

If your male friend formally introduced you to his girlfriend, I would imagine he sees you as a good friend. I noticed you mentioned no anxiety from his girlfriend. That is sign of security on her part.

However, one should always be alert if the following occurs. If you notice your male friend insisting to spend more time with you than, his girlfriend, is overly protective on your whereabouts in addition to offering signs of affection (finding any means to touch you), you’ve captured his heart.

Bear in mind if you are single (which I would imagine is so) when you are moving about with your male comrade, any opportunity you may have to meet someone new (as a boyfriend) is lost.

Twenty-one is not young in the dating game. I date a lot of girls that fall within the 19 to 22 year-old range. Possibly your male friends are hindering your chances of meeting a boyfriend?

Cheers!

 

Complex - I do appreciate you taking out the time to offer me advice and such, but I merely posted in this thread to mention how I can relate to Empress Satine in a way that I'm big on being physically attracted first. I didn't need to be psychoanalyzed...lol I don't flirt with my guy friends cause like I've emphasized, that I believe in Karma and I don't lead anyone on. I've been sexually harrassed a lot in my life so I'm certainly not putting out any vibe to anyone who I'm not remotely interested in. I also compartmentalize my relationships. That helps to lessen any confusion. I have a pretty good grasp on how things work. I'm 37 and have been through a lot, so I know what I'm doing and what I should be doing. What you've mentioned doesn't pertain to me. In closing, I do thank you for trying to help me though.

I wish you well in your romantic endeavors.

 

Do what you feel is best. Providing you are happy with the Men you are meeting at the moment everything else is irrelevant.



Cheers!