what is your story about dating outside ur race

When it comes down to it most of you seem to share similar complaints, but refuse to acknowledge your own shortcomings.

 

Interesting that you say that when clearly a mans skin color is part of the attraction. Besides men who only want to date a woman because she's white is only in it for the sex not the person. It's like being to someone because of their big boobs or big muscles it's purely sexual but could turn into something more.

 

I've dated interracially (although not exclusively interracially) for almost as long as I've dated. I had no pushback from family, at all. I didn't consider any variables, because I was, I think, 13? (I dunno, seems like a million years ago), and 13-year-olds don't consider variables. I considered how he looked at me when he asked if he could sit next to me, and not much else.

That relationship was too young & puppy-loveish to bother with a "take home to meet the family" thing.

But I introduced my husband to my family as soon as we started going steady (again, years upon years ago). My (then) step mother said he was handsome, my dad thought he was remarkably smart. My Mom just thought he was great in every single way. They were all right!

 

Let me repeat what I said:
Its creepy if a man (or woman) wants to date you for your color of skin alone and not anything else. If your skincolor is the ONLY criteria you have to meet, and the rest of you like, uh - personality didnt matter - then something is worng.
Go read what I wrote again, I was clearly not talking about normal attraction.

 

My point was that you wouldn't be dating. Dating implies that someone wants to get to know you. Be interested solely because of a physical attribute is fetishism.

 

That was my point, now your just splitting hairs


ergo - we agree
;-)

 

I like it when we agree. Wish we could hug right now lol

 

Yeah

 

I cosign with that. Is it wrong for a person to then date someone who has a nice butt but not date the other person because their butt does not meet the criteria

 

troll. ^

 

Kinda thinking the same. Your trolldar is on point lately.

 

oh my gosh. now you see it is a totally different when someone points you out because They hit home then all of the sudden they are a troll because that person hit it home.

 

yea, that's how it works around here. if someone has a different point of view or something, someone may take it personally and call them trolls or something. that's why i dont post here often.

 

Yeah, People are put off by thoughtful conversation . it is different from what people say today as thought provocking which really means we are going to say something that will piss someone off so we can be center of attention like rush limbaugh. ( he is just a hate monger that is using people for his financial gain).

thoughtful convo here is about people for obvious surroundings date outside their race . their experience is totally different from people who date within their race. one day this type of convo and this type of website will be obsolete.

lets analyze this ... they are getting mad because Im asking for their experience good or bad about IR dating. They get mad but they are on an IR dating site.

they should be more than willing to talk about their experiences and help other people get thru the good times and bad times with thier Mentorship but that is not the case . they want to talk about body parts and other stupid stuff. rather than helping other people have a harmonious IR in a world where IR is still frowned upon when we have a BIRACIAL president.

go figure that.

 

In my area there is only one temple no other place to worship for a jew. the conservatives and the reforms share a building together. so for a black jew it is really tuff to find an available jewish girl to date no to mention a white jews man to date. the numbers are slim for both males to say Im only gonna date a jewish woman. as for me I have seen some hot jewish women on jewish sites but i rarely see black males being accepted but then again on the websites they dont ask for ethnic group they are interested in.

 

Yeah, we do all of that. It's called a search feature. There were threads on this board, even before you joined. Amazing, huh?

Also: act less like a troll, and you'll be less likely to be called a troll.

Also: I think you're a troll.

 

I did not mean for this to get into a written fisticuffs here . I just wanted to have a wonderful dialogue of how you met your love one or people you dated. maybe I tilited the thread in a stupid manner now that I look at it. It just drew unwanted convo.

lets talk about how you met your lovers and the experience around it good or bad

 

This is part of the reason people think you a troll. Look at the bolded statement: you used the terms 'lovers'. Let's examine that shall we?

1. You used the plural form, rather than singular. Some people would immediately read that as 'he's suggesting I've had multiple sexual encounters, therefore he's implying I'm a whore/manwhore'.

2. You chose the term 'lovers', not partner, or mate, or significant other, or boyfriend/girlfriend, or spouse. The term lover always implies sex, so this appears to indicate you focus on the sexual aspect of IR.

3. You replied to the post from a female member, which when combined with 'let's talk about how you met your lovers', could be construed as 'WW are attracted to BM for sex' by some people.

Now I'm not saying that's how I took what you said, I'm just pointing out that what you say dictates the way people respond to you. You could just as easily have said something like "I'd be interested in hearing other people's experiences with IR dating, the good and the bad. Since this is a forum made up of people who have a common interest, I think I could benefit from the input of people with more experience in this area than I have."

I almost guarantee you that would be met with more productive dialog than your statement.

 

point taken but lets look at some facts.

look at all the other threads suchas big booty white girls . NOTHING SAID about that. It objectifies ww as sexual objects .

how about are ww tighter threads , I really love eating p****y, mostly approach by black men, why do ww need to act ghetto when they date bm threads. NO TROLL STATEMENTS there. BUT you want to say well you made it a plural assuming I am a whore for having more than one lover in my life thus you are a troll.

OMG arent we being hypocrites.

now maybe I could have titled the thread better but look at the convo. mentoring people thru the bad times during IR because it is a different situation versus everyone else. I can see why you people maybe mad and thats because maybe just maybe we dont have the humility to say ok we made a mistake in jumping to conclusions and maybe we were are being hypocrites in our criticisms.

 

define troll