love and settling

I'm happy for you CS. Glad you figured out what worked for you! Best of luck with your guy.

 

Ditto CS, that is fantastic..:smt023

 

Personally I agree with your decision to set your sights higher, but I doubt there'd have been any approving cheers from the ladies here if I'd decided to ditch a 53 y.o single grandmother in favour of a 25y.o completely unattached lady.

 

If you loved, or were simply more attracted to the 25 year old as opposed to the 53 year old, I don't see why anyone would have an issue with that. If however you loved the 53 year old, but simply wanted the 25 year old because she was younger, then yes that is what I would consider shallow. However no one's opinion matters, it only matters what you think of yourself.

 

And JB's example had absolutely nothing to do with Csbeans decission to not date jerks so I dont see why he was doing that comparison...
If he would have said stop dating women that treat me bad and go with better women, I would cheer him on all day long....
Straight just dumping older women just to go with a younger one, just based on age and nothing else... not so much - but it his decission and nobody elses.

 

Ah, I see how that appears to not be related to CS's question FG. I think the 'leave a 53 yo for a 25 yo' is analogous to 'setting your sights higher' in JB's mind. While a woman might have other criteria that qualify as 'setting your sights higher', JB being male would likely present a more male likely scenario in which 'setting your sights higher' is based upon looks. Of course that does presuppose that the average 25 yo is more attractive than the average 53 yo, however I imagine that would be deemed to be the case by the average male. As I do suspect that women tend to be less likely to solely pursue someone based upon looks, I get the analogy he's made. Of course I may be completely off base here, and if I am I'm certain JB will tell me so.