Dropping weight: a bit of a rant (warning)

I want to loose weight but i find myself either lazy or to busy to begin this endeavor which sucks because my libido has taken a bit of a hit since gaining weight after my knee injury.

I looked in the mirror today and was like what woman that i find attractive will want me a big black whale to climb on top them i know i wouldnt want that.

I just find it hard to find the motivation....I need help im litterally screaming for help .
I use to me really really active i use to box ,kick box at nineteen i had goals of wanting to be a a Pro wrestler and trained at a school called the Dog House.
I was treally active then some hurdles in life got a bit to big and then injuries happened and i just some how gave up .

I want the old me back .

I want the guy with fire in his belly and guts also who had so much ambition .
Never took the word no and always kept going and moving thru obstacles no matter how bad or rough it got .

I need that guy back i see a young old man in the mirror now and i hate it with a passion .
i some of the guys physiques on here and all i could say was damn i miss being like that .

I just want to know where to start to retrieve what i lost in me .

 

lippy doesn't know where to tell you to start because she finds herself in a bit of the same funk...but what i will tell you is that attractiveness starts on the inside...confidence is key...some women including lippy love big men...i feel like a beached whale with a skinny man...power to the big men!:heart:

 

Oh, thank you baby.... :smt003

I lost 73 pounds on under 10 months. The hard part is fastfood.... stay away from that sh!t. Hydrate yourself, do cardio everyday, do something, you'll lose the weight.:smt079

 

If you'd like, you can join pettyofficerj's fitness progress thread. You can pretty much put what you just posted here in that thread. He as well as others will help keep you motivated.

As far as a first step, take a picture of yourself as you currently are. Print it or somehow get it in a place where you can see it easily. Get that picture of the old you handy, too. You'll want to be able to see that one everywhere.

Secondly, weigh yourself. You have to know where you are in relation to where you want to be.

Third, decide and write down where you want to be in concrete terms i.e. "I want to weigh x pounds."

I agree with Lippy about confidence. Another thing to remember is that you're doing this for yourself. Women have different types, so there's no way you can expect to be what each of them prefers. All you can do is be you.

 

Reggie, this is excellent advice. Nothing will motivate you more than seeing your body change, so pictures once a month can be a great tool. Weigh and take basic measurements once a month also. Sometimes you may not see a big drop on the scale, but you will see the inches start to fall off and that's going to make you want to keep going. As for setting a goal, my advice is to make it a realistic one. I tend to set nearly unreachable goals for myself, so I generally pick my goal and then pull back just a little to keep it more reasonable.

But first you have to come up with a plan to get started. I find that if you can start off slowly, you have a better chance of sticking with it. If you try to go all out on the first day and you wake up so sore you can't hardly walk the next day, you aren't going to want to stick with it. Without knowing your current level of fitness and what you are accustomed to doing on a daily basis, it's hard to give you any concrete recommendations, however essentially anything you do is more than you're doing now. So find something that will get your heart rate up and do that five days a week. Walk, jog, bike, dance, anything that elevates your heart rate will do the job. If you have to start off with 10 mins a day, then do that until it starts to get easier and then bump it up to 15 or 20. That may seem like it's not enough to make it worth the effort, but just remember it's more than you're doing now and so it will have a positive effect. I had to rehab from an injury and the hardest part for me was to learn patience. I overdid it consistently to the point I ended up injuring myself again. Patience and persistence along with good common sense are key to success. Once you make it past the first 2 weeks, it will be less of a struggle to keep going.

Lastly, you mentioned a knee injury but didn't mention if that's an ongoing issue for you. Not knowing what type of limitations your knee may place on you, I would just suggest that if it is an area of weakness or pain for you that you avoid any exercises that put repetitive stress on your knees, like squats. My injury was also a knee injury that wasn't completely fixable and so I've had to learn to work around that. I'm happy to share anything I've learned through trial and error with you, though I don't generally give unsolicited advice, so feel free to ask anything you'd like to know.

If you really want to make a change, you'll be successful. You can do anything you put your mind to, you just have to want it bad enough.

 

That's awesome, Raudi!! Congratulations!!

You bring up an excellent point that I can verify from my own recent experiences. Since July, I've really had to buckle down on my finances, so I haven't been able to go out to lunch during the work week much anymore, and I don't go out to eat for dinner hardly ever and with making ONLY that change, I dropped 8 pounds. I haven't exercised in months. That's bad on my part, but my point is this: eating out at fast food and even regular restaurants is not a healthy way to eat.

When a major restaurant (Cheesecake Factory) singles out SALADS on their menu that are under 600 calories? There's a problem. You don't know what they're putting in their food to make it taste good. Plus, the portion sizes are out of control. A turkey burger at Ruby Tuesdays is well over 1500 calories and over 100g of fat. It's just crazy the amount of calories people ingest in one meal just by eating out.

Anyway, I'll stop there. LOL. I do need to start working out so I can drop more weight. But, stop eating fast food and that'll be a great start!

Good luck, Reggie! :smt023

 

Wow that is amazing.

Reggie you should do what danke suggested petty and jaybee are both generous with their workout advice. Good luck.

 

:smt107:smt107:smt107 what?:smt119 how much? damn..

 

Let me say it that way.. you are 27yrs old..get off your tush!..you are full of energy.....and a lot of ww are waiting for you!! lol

 

I know how you feel mate, I'm 27 myself and I wondered where the body i had went to, I used to cycle to work everyday 6 miles do pull ups on a door rail, my life changed I had kids started driving everywhere, It's hard to fit kids on a Bicycle.
But changes that I noticed recently in my body are not welcome, so I've made the effort and made the time to go to the gym, I picked somewhere non poser-ish,
the super duper weights room is in a separate wing of the building, which means I don't have to feel inadequate looking at the super babes while I do my cross trainer and low impact cardio and also it's cheered me up a bit it gives me something for myself outside of school the kids and away from my normal friends, who are what I call enablers they are used to you the way you are and feel no need for change.

I know you said you had a knee injury, I have a shoulder injury also and my instructor has built my programme around it, one 40 odd yr old woman I met there has had a hip replacement but she's there doing her thing.
Go to a gym makes sure it right for you! I travel 12miles out when there is a cheaper super gloss gym on my doorstep, but it wasn't the place for me

I hope it works out for you, I know how bad it feels to recognise the change and wonder where it went.