Do you believe in sex before marriage?

Monogamy, to me, has pretty much disappeared in my generation. People just have sex for the fun of it, not for "love".

 

and that's natural.

 

On the other hand sex is also a part of a relationship or marriage.A relationship should never solely be based on sex. However if 2 people are sexually absolutely not compatible that won't be satisfying for any of them.Sooner or later it will turn into issues,disappointment or frustration.
I rather figure out whether or not a man and I are compatible in that department before saying yes I do,...
Not saying go figure it out on the first date.YOU decide when you want to take that step

 

We're talking about two different things here. Monogamy is the practice of marrying only one person, though many people seem to apply the term to sexual relationships. Sex before marriage is just that. It's possible to have sex before marriage, but remain faithful to only that person. I think what you're really asking is 'Do you believe in multiple sexual partners before marriage'?

I agree with BYT86, you should determine your level of compatibility in that area before marriage. Especially if you are the type who view marriage as irreversible, i.e. not open to annulment or divorce. To find out you aren't compatible on a sexual level after the fact would not be ideal. Sex is a very important part of any relationship, while I don't believe it should be the singular most important thing, it's way up at the top of the list. Incompatibility in that area is only going to lead to massive problems at some point.

 

Im confused with your question:

You can have sex before marriage and even have sex for fun and still be monogamous.
and I dont think that monogamy has dissapeared at all.. everybody dont sleep around with several partners at the same time or as monogamy really means, get married with more than one person.

I think you are trying to get at people being less committed today? and that people are more "ficke" today than before??
Seems many are looking for that instant gratification and many times dont understand or are willing to put in that work and effort....

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Sex is a perfectly natural thing. Each person has the right to choose how they wish to express themselves sexually, whether it means waiting to have sex until marriage, or sleeping with many partners. When it comes to sexual taboo, it all starts with closed minds and often stems back to religion.

There's nothing wrong with a person choosing to have sex before marriage, or having multiple sexual partners. The important thing is to have -safe- sex.

Just as there's nothing wrong with a person choosing to wait until marriage to have sex. If that's one's choice, then maybe it's right for them.

I certainly believe there's absolutely nothing wrong with having sex for fun. If it's not fun then I'm certainly not interested. This thing called the sexual revolution is just the result of people finally understanding that sex isn't a terrible, damning thing like many religions have been screaming about for centuries.

There's nothing wrong with it. Besides, even if one personally feels that there is, then the only thing one can do about it is embrace what they feel is right within their own life. If the majority of one's generation feels differently, then, well, if you're not fucking them and don't plan on it then don't bitch about it.

 

nothing wrong having sex before marriege... anyway now most people marry not too young imagine having to wait.. if someone want to get married at 40

 

I don´t blieve in sex before marriage.....
I practice it!:smt023

 

to the original question, no i do not believe in it.

 

Do you believe in sex before marriage?

Answer: HELL YEAH!!!!!

 

Not really. I don't really care if I never get married because the divorce rate is over 50% in America and men are financially screwed and lose some of their assets after the divorce.

 

Men aren't the only ones who lose assets in divorce. There are a significant number of women who get taken to the proverbial cleaners during a divorce as well.

 

Do you think there's less stress if the couple doesn't have any children?

 

Not to mention that in the majority of the cases, the women are the ones that keeps the kids and clearly men have to pay for their upbringing.
Another issue is also that many women - the ones that stay home for any period of time to take care of the kids, will not have a sufficient pension as she didnt work.. she put her time and effort to raise the kids.

Although I have seen men, that did not have kids get taken to the cleaners in what I thought was very unfair.

And Gen y - just becasue 50% get divorced doenst mean you can make it work - look at it this way - 50% are a sucess

Lets face it, each marriage has a 50% sucessrate regardless of the general numbers - either you make it.. or you dont.... 50/50..
Joking aside
its up to each individual to not throw in the town at the smallest bump.

 

I think that's generally a given Gen Y. Assuming both parents want to be a part of their child/children's lives, there's going to be some stress and conflict. If only one parent remains active in the child/children's lives then the active parent doesn't have much to stress over, but the children might, which in turn is going to be upsetting to the parent. I don't know many parent's who don't hurt when their children do.

Essentially the two most fought over issues in a divorce are child custody and money/property. In some cases it's both, in others it's one or the other. Child custody involves child support pretty much always (it's almost impossible to refuse child support in some states, the parent without primary custody will have to pay the other parent support), so that's makes custody and money somewhat intertwined. This causes some people to view children as dollar signs, which is unfortunate and utterly inappropriate, but it further complicates an already complicated matter.

However I don't think that's justification for not marrying or not having children. Not all marriages end in divorce, and not all children from 'broken homes' are damaged by the experience. Your chances at a successful marriage are largely up you. My 2 cents:

1. Know the person you plan to marry, I mean really know them, take years, not weeks or months.
2. Never go into it thinking "I like most of his/her qualities and I think I can change the ones I don't", people only change if they want to and it's arrogant and rude to try to mold someone into your idea of perfection.
3. Love them more than you love yourself, and give them all that you have to give.
4. Never settle, if it doesn't feel 100% right, it's probably not, and time won't solve that.
5. The choices you make dictate the life you lead, so choose wisely.

 

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^This is an entire subject on it's own, one that deserves more space. You should start a thread for divorce and it's baggage.

To answer the question: Drink, Fuck & be merry--just don't spread disease plz
:smt033

 

"Chastity" is the word you're looking for. Although I myself didn't wait, I agree there is definitely something sweet and virtuous about the idea.

 

Yeah, just be responsible with it.

 

BA, you are one smart one...
I think you ROCK and you are a HELL of a catch!!!!!!!!!
I bow to you!

 

Humans have never been 'monogamous'. We can behave monogamously but the overwhelming majority of us have polygamous desires, just as homosexuals can engage in heterosexual intercourse but they're still homosexuals, whether they act on their attraction to same-sex members or not.

I see nothing wrong with having sex for 'fun', that's what sex (and love) is for.