What's going on with you?

Glad your meeting with the parents went well. Good luck with your new roomates. I hope they turn out better than the last.

 

More and more dangerous flood has turned our area into water! Yesterday, we were rushed to save my beloved cats from being trapped in that dangerous flood, three of them were at our front door crying out to us. Thankfully, they're doing fine in our porch, I'm going to take care of them until dangerous flood is reduced.

Remains of Hurricane Ida is to blame for all this mess! You almost can see too much water is up to our knees! As of today, we're trapped ourselves in the house, we can't going out to grab foods in the store, the scene out there is not very pretty.

Rain is pounding here the hardest than ever and it won't ever quit to bring more rain! So we'll be trapped here for several days! That's great..

What a rare hurricane during the month of November!

 

My town has the history of experiencing the flood in that record. Yesterday, we couldn't find my beloved cats, despite the dangerous flood is flowing to turn our area in the water, I called out their names, they were nowhere to be found.

That confirmed my fear that they're lost in the underwater, but thank god that they're found at our front door. They were so scared of that dangerous flood coming their way, I grabbed my stuff and told them, "Hang in there! We're here to save you from that dangerous water!"

I told my family that we must hurry to save them. As we're proceed to pick them up and putting them in our porch where they're safe until dangerous flood is reduced! Man, the wind is blowing so harder as they're behind my legs to warm up themselves. I sought out so hard to protect them.

As of today, I almost lost Rovin! He wandered around outside of our porch, so I rushed to find him! There he was sitting out there, I pulled him back in and told him that he must stay in the porch!

My good lord, they were pooping everywhere, so I has to clean it up. Not a very good day today!

 

Joining the online dating world has been quite the learning experience for me. I have only run into 2 "not normal" guys. One, I think, is pretty crazy. The other is just too needy.

Anyway, I thought I had closed those doors tight. And both contacted me within the last couple of days. The "too needy" one asked me if I was having any luck and if I wanted to "start over". I replied that I was having great luck and that I had a date the next night. I didn't hear from him for a couple of days. Then yesterday he sends me an email through the site and asked me to give him a second chance. I didn't reply. Then he sends me an email with just the word "common...." later in the evening. And then he sent another one not 20 minutes later that said, "big meanie". I haven't replied to any of them, and hopefully he's gotten the message.

The "crazy" one sent me an IM tonight and when I didn't respond, he called me a "jackass". :smt042 I thought deleting him from my Yahoo Messenger would be enough. But, someone was nice enough to tell me how to actually block his IMs. Which I've now done, so that'll be the last word from that one.

Gotta love it!

 

Haha!

I had quite the experiences too when I was internet 'dating'. Being in Aus, hardly any actually eventuated to face to face meetings (internet dating is not so big there, well, maybe amongst the older folk, so I mainly 'met' Americans). So internet dating for me was all about getting to know someone really well, for a really looong time, before any meeting happened. I met three in person all up. All three were very nice guys.

 

Well... I'm single.
I found out that my boyfriend had cheated on me. 'It was only a kiss' but I know that he had the intention to do more, I spoke to the girl who it was with. He never told her that he had a girlfriend and was doing this one day after I visited him.
He told me the truth eventually and a small, small part of me was willing to give him another go, but he just hasn't done enough. In my opinion, he should be the one apologising every single minute, begging me to give him another go, doing anything to regain my trust. But I've not got that, so I've had to end it.
We're having one final talk this evening about remaining in contact and all that but I've made up my mind. We either try now, or there's never going to be another chance. Not in 3 weeks, not in 3 months when he comes home permanently and all of his friends are in steady long term relationships and he misses me, and not in three years. It's either now or never, and I guess it has to be never.

I'm crushed. Gutted. We've been having serious arguments about his drinking (every day) and now with the cheating, he has done every single thing I was worried about him doing whilst drunk. He's been arrested (and guess who's training to be a lawyer?!), got into a fight, not done any work and cheated on me. All in 2 months in a foreign country.

Honestly guys, I'm a really good girlfriend. I'm loving, caring and I would have done anything for him. His friends liked me, his family liked me, I trusted him and never nagged and never questioned his going out until it became a blatant alcohol addiction. We were great friends. We had great sex. We would have had a good future, but he has ruined absolutely everything.
It makes me think that 'nice guys really do finish last' and I need to be bitchier and more manipulative. I've been cheated on in my last two relationships and I've been nothing but a great girlfriend. I'm really crushed

ps. Oh and if there's any racist trolls around that have nothing to say but 'black men are all unfaithful!!!', this was a white guy. Just sayin.' Selfish, careless cheaters come in all races and sizes, yeah.

 

NEVER give in to that kind of thinking. You'll only attract the weaker, needier kinds of bloke, they type who won't cut it a few years hence. There are, TRUST ME, a lot of nice fellas out there. It's not that you need to be harsher, it's just that you need to be choosier, and a better judge of men than you have been.

I've seen your pic, you're a cute gal and you can have your pic - I mean, pick. ( ). I can remember some of the stuff you've posted here, so I believe when you say you'd make an excellent girlfriend - so don't lower your standards, and most importantly, don't lower yourself towards the level of your ex(s).

Give yourself a little 'You' time before jumping back on the horse, though, your heart, mind and soul all need a rest, so heal up, and when you're ready in a few weeks/months, get selective.

 

The problem is, I am possibly the choosiest and pickiest and most selective person that you'll ever meet. I never rush into things, I always get to know the person well enough, and I don't put out easy, haha. But still, for some reason, people still take advantage of me.
I know that I'm a nice person, a good girlfriend and a great friend, and yet I've still had so many people (relationships and friendships both) mess me around. I guess I need to not trust people that easily, but to be honest it took me quite a while to trust my ex, but he managed to ruin everything with one stupid drunken night.

I definetely don't plan on jumping back on the horse, trust me The last thing I want to do is end up with a rebound. To be honest, this has made things so difficult because I was so picky before, I've only ever had three relationships. Now I'll be even worse. Plus he has killed the trust not just between us, but with me and other potential partners in the future.

 

I'm sorry that you has to suffering again. I'm sure you're being excellent girlfriend. I'll praying that you to be strong to get through this!

 

I'm sorry that happened to you.

But, your last statement has me concerned. You've had bad luck, but trust me not every guy is a cheater. Please don't assume that every guy you date in the future will be the guys you dated in the past.

I don't know you, I don't know the situations of your past relationships, but for what it's worth, let me give you some advice. I went through complete and utter hell with my daughter's father. But, I took enough time to heal myself and to research relationships, etc, so that I know the red flags to look for now. And after everything that happened between us, I don't feel any ill will towards him any longer, and I have forgiven him.

Wait until you can have that closure for yourself before getting into another relationship. Don't make a potential amazing guy have to prove himself over and over and over again to win your trust. Because he'll get tired of doing it and he won't stick around.

Continue being choosy, but also allow yourself enough time to heal so that you don't have that kind of baggage hanging around your neck that will follow you around the rest of your life (or until you finally get rid of it).

Life's too short. You're a beautiful woman. Work on yourself. Allow yourself to heal completely. Allow yourself to forgive those exes before you start a new relationship. Your future boyfriend will thank you for it.

 

Russia:
Im so so so sorry you had to go through this.
BUT, considering he had a drinking problem, you would never be able to get a consisten picture of his true self. WE do stupid stuff when we are drunk sometimes, but it certainly is not an excuse. He needs to sort himself out.

You will find that someone special that adores you and treats you like a queen.
Like somebody said: continue to be picky and choosy. Spend time with yourself and heal. You are beautiful and smart and fun.
Be proud of you! You ROCK!!!!

 

Damn, sorry that had to happen, Russia. That was messed up what dude did. Hope you don't have to go through something like that, again.

 

i agree with geeky here russia. you're a gorgeous woman & you will find someone who is deserving of you when the time is right. you are still young and there is plenty of time before 'the one' rides up on his stallion & sweeps you off your feet...in the meantime take some time out for yourself & concentrate on you...!!! :smt056

 

I agree with all this. Honey, I am so sorry you have experienced this again and again.

 

Hey Russia, just wanted to say it's not you, it's him. I think people either have it in them to cheat, or they don't. If they do, at some point they will. They can blame it on alcohol, or drugs, or a lunar eclipse if they like, but the bottom line is they just lack the self-control not to. There is nothing you did, or didn't do, that drove him to this.

Bookworm's advice is spot on regarding future relationships. Your hesitance to trust is understandable, but not every man you meet will be a cheater. Don't let a couple of bad experiences taint the rest of your life, the good guys are out there. Just work on loving yourself first and once you've accomplished that, you'll be ready to move on. You'll end up stronger for this, and he will remain the weak-willed man that he is, doomed to keep repeating the same mistakes.

 

Sorry to hear this kiddo, I am sure things look bad now, just keep in mind all of your wonderful qualities. I am sure that when you are ready you will meet a guy who is worthy of you and who will remain faithful. :smt023

 

Russia, just so you know, there's a difference between being a good judge of character (which is what you WILL become!!) and being a bitchy manipulative person (Which you definitely don't!).

When you say, "choosiest", what do you look for in a guy? See, you being a beaut, my guess (and I could be wrong) is you are going for the really fit blokes, the trouble is, those are exactly the types who are getting most chatted up by girls. When you're a good looking man, success breeds success, and any night out becomes like a sweet shop where you can have anything.

The first thing you need is that time out, to relax your brain so you'll be able to work out what the warning signs were. Most people like us, with good hearts and trusting natures, tend to assume that everyone else is going to be the same way. Trouble is, usually, they are not. We live in a world that often doesn't play by our rules. Without knowing it, you might be like a 'beacon' for cheaters, because they actively want completely trusting girls, they won't waste their time with girls who are suspicious and might rumble them.

That's something I've learned the long way (and sometimes, the hard way too). Me, I've had my heart trodden over a couple of times, though not by anyone cheating, and I've developed a 'radar' that tells me the difference between the kind of girl who will only last a few nights, and the kind I'm gonna spend the rest of my life fawning over, kissing her feet, and boring my mates to tears going on about her when I can't spend time with her!

I have to be careful, because I actually do fall in love pretty damn hard, if I'm not careful. Anyway, just enjoy chill out for the rest of the year, go out and treat yourself to a fry-up, take up a hobby you didn't have time for before, get your mind rested, get harmonic, and I guarantee, you'll look back on it all and you will develop a 'radar' that can tell you the difference between the handsome chancer, and the handsome nice fella.

But I'm assuming that's the kind you go for - you tell me!!

 

Slept like shit last night, woke up for work at 0445 this AM. I got into work and due to some poor staffing management I get sent home. Now I'm dead tired and can't fall back to sleep, so here I sit.

 

Trrying to loose alot of weight but struggling .
Trying to figure out how to get my social life back because of this job that sucks .

 

Up for work at 4.45?? That's a tough job...