new to site and "cucking"

yo WWBM, i would like to introduce myself... name is Jamal I am 24 and I live in upstate ny. i work for a boring desk job. i have a degree in masssage therapy which i do on the side along with personal training. i grew up in detroit and football was the center of my life until i suffered a career ending neck injury. i still keep active between liftin weights, biking and boxing. ive done a little modeling too so that is a dream of mine

anyway ever since I started at my job a little over a year ago there was a hot blonde woman who would always give me the "look" as i walked by or when i arrived for meetings. that kind where you intentionally not lookin but can tell with your peripherals that she is staring at you longer then normal. She was adamant to get lunch with me so we went out several times and we got along great but I had noticed she was married so i never tried to make anything of it. she ended up relocating in the company about a month later but we still kept in occasional contact by email. about a week ago she sent me an email that was a lot different then the casual friendly ones we usually have. she told me that her and her husband have had a fantasy of her submitting to a black man. She said she thinks that i would be perfect for it and that she would love to submit to me. i told her i would consider it and since that she has been sending me really sexy pictures of her

so I ask this forum what bad can come of this that i am overlooking? and what should I expect? Im single right now and would love to do her. she also said that her husband doesnt have to be there. im new to this so its kinda weird. is she going to be expecting mandingo in the pants too?

thanks
Jamal

 

Don't be surprised if you don't get many positive responses. This isn't a "cucking" part of the website. There may be some people here who've partaken, but mostly it's just people in or looking for relationships on the forum.

If you can justify the actions to yourself and are happy fulfilling someone else's fantasies, then do whatever you want. I would suggest you make sure her husband is in on it, otherwise she may just be looking for a bit on the side. If you're cool with being that guy and whatever that may mean for you, do whatever you want. You're an adult, they're adults. Make an adult decision.

There's always going to be chicks, and one's that you'd "love to do".
It doesn't take much to lose integrity, however.

 

I have to agree with you.

If you don't mind being objectified, although a lot of men wouldn't see that as a problem, but you being a brother and them being White, I feel that's what it is. This has always sounded so porn-like to me. I remember back in the day in the WW/BM chatrooms on AOL, White dudes would I.M. people asking if they could watch me or other women or the dudes with the ladies having sex. I'm not on some moral high-ground or anything, I just see those men as feeling inadequate or big voyeurs and that makes them seem creepy. The husband might be hiding in the closet taping you. I mean I know the idea of a married woman who you want to fuck as very appealing, but you have to think about any and every consequence of the potential/possible situation.

 

this is all really new to me. i knew about swingers but i had no idea this particular fetish was so popular. i don't get it at all. i would be tempted to kill another man for sleeping with my wife let alone seek out someone to do it. are the white men really insecure with themselves or is it usually the wife that wants it?

i agree with both of you that there is a sense of being used. i think i will pass on this offer. plenty of other ww's.

 

Yeah, theres a big underworld of sexual exploration. I personally feel that's how those White dudes feel, but I could be wrong. I think its a mixture of both, the man wanting to be the voyeur and getting off on seeing a brother do his wife and the wife wanting to be done. But yeah, it is common.

Yeah, you look like you're handsome and could get single White chicks to "play" with...lol

 

correction....some white men.

Thanks

 

I'm curious Jamal, how old are the couple in question?
From my experience (of hearing about this subject, not participating in it!!) it always seems to be middle aged people who seem to have this fascination. I've never come across a couple under the age of 40 who have wanted to partake in something like this. In swinging, yes, but not in this whole 'I want to see big black man dominate my little white wife!!!'

I've been in a relationship with a white guy for over six months right now and I can honestly tell you that he would NEVER EVER want to invite another man (black or white) into our sex life. He has no issues with me having dated men of other races before, he's dated black and Asian girls too, but he certainly would never want to see me shagging a black men, just like I wouldn't want to see him shagging an Asian girl. I don't think this is because he's more secure than other white men, he just doesn't want to share his woman with anyone else.

I don't know if it's still down to a slight segregation between black and white in older generations or if it is just down to pure fetishism, but in my personal opinion, this kind of fetish comes from people who haven't had enough interraction with people from other races and still see them as something unusual. This woman and her husband are just seeing you as a sex object. If you are fine with that, then go ahead and have a fling with her but my advise would be not to put yourself in that situation. I think it's pretty weird to have people treat you as a fetish. I've had it on a minor scale because I'm Russian and I personally really dislike it.

 

Hi and welcome Jamal

 

Actually she is only 22 years old, don't know how old husband is. I bet that he doesn't know about it because she consistently mentions his presence not being necessary.

I was pretty sure I wanted no part of it until Equinox educated me on the subject. Now I'm sure. I don't want the drama/jealously it will inevitably make.

 

The girl sounds crazy! :smt101

 

I think you're right and the husband doesn't know. I personally think you've made the right decision on not getting involved in something like this. Even if all you're after at this stage is a casual relationship, I'm sure it'll be absolutely no problem finding one without needing to get involved in adultery. Like you said, you don't need the drama.

 

If she doesn't want her husband present, it could be SHE just want an affair herself. Most of the time, the HUSBAND is present and a lot of times filming it.

In college, I was approached several times about this. I even had white guys offer to pay me money for it. I'm 6'5" and played football. I use to "live" in the gym lifting weights. Weighted 220 lbs of solid muscle, very little body fat.

There were friends of mine who did it, I couldn't get pass the fact I'm a black male having sex with a white women while the husband WATCHED. I don't want to go into specific detail but whenever human beings are involved in anything EXPECT the unexpected. What may seem like a win-win situation can turn very bad. As a black man, you will NEVER win in those situations. YOU will be looked upon as the bad guy no matter what.

The husband can get jealous after seeing you please his wife in a way he never has. The wife may get use to you to the point where she no longer wants to be with the husband.

All kinds of UNFORSEEN and UNEXPECTED things can happen and do.

 

That is an important point..it´s a play with fire..so don´t be surprised, if you get burned. :smt023

 

Show some character LITTLE fella...DAMN.

Don't take everything that's offered to you...even jungle animals have restaint.

"What bad can come of this that I am overlooking"

LOL

You're slower than cold syrup.

Her husband can get jealous or have a change of heart and blow your retarded ass to hell where you obviously belong.

He might want to WATCH or join in...are you faggish enough for that?The question was rhetorical...of course you are.

Leave married sickos alone foolish one.

 

This has been discussed on this site before....

http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showthread.php?t=8386&highlight=share

http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5976&highlight=mandingo

I'm not one for judging people based on what gets them off. Too many people tell us what's morally wrong, then they get busted doing stuff behind closed doors when they get the opportunity. Casual sex between consenting adults is fine. Meeting them doesn't have to mean hooking up right away. You could try it for the experience too.

 

Slow down there dude. What is it with your need to attack like this?
What about stating an opinion without attacking a person that has never said anything to you?
Why getting so angry, it has nothing to do with you?
It was just a question by somebody young, give him a break.

 

Hush..

 

I TOTALLY agree.

 

Most times the brothas who attack men for being part of a lifestyle tend to be well boring themselves or have deep issues.
Dont be a fascist and want to curb another man enjoyment because you dont agree with it .
Children insult thinking its an oppinion because they dont have the maturity to form logic and deep taught with out resorting to childish antics like name calling or cyber bullying .

I personally could care less about that life style because it aint my dick and itdont reflect me as an individual .
Like i tell others do you and i will do me ...feel me .

But i will tell that brotha becareful men go nuts in a fit of jealousy and rage if you do go a head and do that keep it on the low or strap up just in case.

But i truly do think you should just leave that chick alone and find some one who is single and looking for some chocolate my brotha .

 

This seems to be something that a lot of middle aged white couples are into. I've had people approach me about this several times since I got on the internet and have said no each time. It's just unreal!

We live in a society in which white men greatly fear that black and Hispanic men want to take away things that white men consider to be rightfully theirs. I don't want to get involved in that kind of drama. Getting involved in something like this is playing with fire.

I am sure there are plenty of single WF's who might want to date you or have casual sex with you. You don't have to lower yourself to the level of sexual fetish object.