A Traditional African Man vs An African American vs caribbean.

I cannot say there are many Women on this board that have encountered a lot of Caribbean men.

In the UK it is pretty common since a good portion of them stem from the Islands. Not to mention the long history of Reggae that transpired in England.

However, in the States, the majority of Caribbean Men tend to mingle amongst other Caribbean Women who do and do not stem from their Island. Since their culture and music is a big part of their heritage only a small amount venture into the African American culture.

From my analysis the majority of Women who participate on this board fancy the African American culture hence, being drawn more towards African American Men.

A large portion of Haitians & Africans in New York tends to embrace Hip Hop music, which in turn, adapts the African American culture. However the majority of Jamaicans, & Trinidadians tend to stick within the Caribbean culture. So unless a non-Caribbean Woman is fond of the West Indian culture, there is a slim chance you will see many American Women with West Indian Men.

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I have dated and spent time with many African men, and one half Jamaican half Nigerian fella.

I personally found that most African men I went out with lost their edge with me because of cultural differences and accents. I'm a very open minded person, and while I was single I was willing to give any man a chance as long as there was a mutual attraction and he was nice, but I found no success with African men. I'm attracted to other cultures in general, but the ones I went out with were so very different that I think it played a large role in the attraction fizzling out. The accents they all had were the end all, though, because communication became limited very quickly as I couldn't understand them, and they couldn't understand me.

I met some very sweet men from various countries in Africa, though, and, had the communication been easier, I likely would've ended up with one of them, even despite the cultural differences. The culture wasn't a major turn off for me or anything...it was intriguing. But the lack of being able to talk to them very much made it impossible to entertain the idea of a real relationship.

In the end, honestly, I decided I'd probably like an American man better, simply because I'd be able to talk to an American easier. Had a Senegalese friend of mine considered me for a relationship, however, I might've ended up with him instead of Nate, because, having spent a lot of time in France while he was growing up, I could actually talk to him and understand him. Thankfully, though, our friendship was only platonic and I found my baby instead.

I have a few African friends, and I almost went out with a man from the British Virgin Islands (didn't work out, though, due to schedule conflicts...his accent was a little difficult, but not too bad, and absolutely gorgeous, too. He sounded dreamy. lol)...but thinking about it I still return to the idea that, if I wasn't with my boyfriend, I'd still likely go more for an American man. I don't have anything against other men, I just believe a relationship should have a firm foundation of communication and trust, and if you can't talk to each other everything else just becomes so difficult. It's not to say I don't find the accents beautiful (I love them), but just because it sounds pretty doesn't mean I can understand it. I listen to music in at least 20 different languages...it all sounds beautiful...but I don't understand a word of it. lol

 

Okay, this is simple to explain.

Typical African upbringing and culture runs afoul of Western Culture. This make for disastrous results in relationships (you want examples, I got boat loads)

Personally I think that most of European women that end up with Africans long term are the submissive type and I don't mean they roll over easy, but they are generally subservient, this is the type of women Africans are generally use too.

This doesn't FLY well in America, UK and Germany where feminism is STRONG.

African-Americans are preferred due to shared culture, period end of story. That is not to say African/European or African/North American relationship can't work, many do, but the vast majority DON'T.

As for Hip Hop's influence in Europe? Maybe if your under 30. These are the same people that think Caddy Trucks are cool in Germany, go figure...

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you know if i had a pound for every time an african man has told me he wants to find a woman that will dominate him then i would be flippin rich

im acctually submissive by nature, comes from being the middle child of 2 very bossy sisters and theres no way i would ever manage to be dominant ( and im not talking in the bedroom ) with out backing down in 5 seconds flat

oddly thou it doesnt seem to put them off, ive still managed to get myself triple booked this weekend whoops

 

This is a suprise for me. I have th eopposite experience.
I generally find that african men want to date a submissive woman. Suits me.:smt095

 

What I find interresting in this discussion about African men liking sumbissive women:
I know quite a few women from Africa - mainly form West-Africa and Ethiopia - they are STRONG, non bs taking women that would never be submissive.

As Africa is a huge continent with a enormous variety of cultures (some patriachial and some matriarchial).. there must be some variety in this...
So, when people from Africa emmigrate, they go to certain parts of the world - i.e, if you are in America, you might meet people from a certain part of the African continent and if you are in Scandinavia, you meet people from another part of Africa.. with different cultures - so I dont think you can compare straight across the board like that.
Sure as a generalization, maybe African men to a larger extent prefer more sumissive women... but I simply never met an African women that is submissive.. so I feel like there is a part of the puzzle in this discussion missing.
I wanna hear more from our African members in this subject.