You're the whitest black guy I know.(again)

I'm getting really fuck'n impatient with this. Last night I was out and I was introduced to this cute girl who I struck up a decent convo with. We talked about school Movies sports etc. It was actually going pretty well, a lot of notches in the plus column then BAM. She busts out "You're like, the whitest black guy I've ever met." To which i respond, " Oh ha ha, how so?" all the while trying to subdue the rage boiling up from within. She answers with "You speak really well and wear polos." I mean fair enough even if you want to throw up your hands and say "you know what she meant". Anyway later in the night she's tell'n me about how she's never dated a black guy but has always been "Fascinated" with them. To me this is a flag. It seems more fetishism, that's not the kind of bond I'd want with another person. Even on friendly terms I refuse to be black guy you want to pander to the caricature you have of me in your mind. /End rant.

 

Mate, enjoy her, fuck her, and go. Some WW are up for being real gf's, some want sex, and some hate us. In that respect, they don't differ from their black counterparts. It's life, you take the rough with the smooth. And don't be so quick to judge yourself, either; she may develop. Give her a chance.

I've had the same thing, both from white women and Indian ones, I am pretty 'white' on the inside, but so what? Spending your whole life in a majority-white country fucking does that to you!!

 

Yea I hear ya J. Hopefully she turns out to be solid. Sometimes you just gotta vent. Ya know?
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I know exactly what you mean, in my single days of long ago I heard this A LOT, I still hear it from time to time from business associates. The way I deal with it is to immediately correct them, I simply say that as an African American, every thing I do is by definition"acting Black" because being Black is a "part" of who I am, not specific actions. There is no "White" and "Black" behavior. This usually causes them to re-assess or at least think about how they expect different people to act based solely on their skin color.

 

Wow, she really said that shit. Wonder if she's one of those girls who would date a black guy to "get back at daddy". Fuck that bitch. Somebody tells me I'm the whitest black guy they know, I tell them to shut the fuck up, cause they don't know shit.

This one girls a couple years ago told me I was "really well spoken". I didn't say shit, because my friend and her were interested in each other, and I didn't want to go off and piss my friend off. But I was like "what the fuck", while trying not to look too pissed. And yeah, she was racist, and admitted it. She's afraid of blacks. She'd get all scared while a black person would ask her where something was a JC Penny, while she worked there. Weird thing is, she was actually a hella cool person, aside from the race shit. Damn. Oh well. Fuck her.

 

I hate when white people ask me "hey man, why do black people like chicken?", or "hey man, why do black people say nigga"? Like I'm some black wikipedia n' shit. I'm like, "Oh, I'll get right on that, and check my black database, dumbass".

 

Well, I spoke like white man. What's the problem when she said that you're the whitest black guy that she ever known since you've spoken so well when it comes to construct the proper sentences. You shouldn't be upset that she told you all this and from her views, I can understand why she's been fascinated with black guys, there's no harm done in saying that.

Why are you so uptight when she told you that? I'm confused. :smt017

 

Amen on all counts mate...and yeah, double amen that I DO know!!

 

Because she has that mentality where she thinks blacks always talk in slang, and never talk "professionally". We shouldn't have to be congratulated when we do something as simple as speaking properly, because we sounded what the thought was white. As if she was saying "good job on aspiring to be white". With that example, and Greco's situation, it sounds like she also has that "white is right" mentality. Not intentionally, but it's just been cultured into her. It would be just as offensive if somebody said to a white dude who talks in slang(even though hella races talk in slang), "dude you're not black".

And like Greco said, it sounds like a fetish(meaning it's strictly sexual), as opposed to just liking black guys in other aspects, besides sexually. Dude's pretty much being seen as an object. I don't want positive reinforcement to behave like what people think is "white".

 

Her conclusion leads me to believe her experience with black guys is limited to a select group. This can be detrimental for she will begin to assume or for better terms of words stereotype all black guys speak using slang terminology and follow a Hip Hop style in terms of apparel. This is exactly what occurred to GrecoJones84, which is why he is upset.

I’ve experienced what GrecoJones84 has encountered a few times while living in New York. I understand it is their way of complimenting you. If my accent were not so strong, I would probably get it more often. Bear in mind not everyone will say you speak articulate and dress European which, falls within the same realms of what the girl stated to GrecoJones84 if you think about it.

Who knows if she would have gave the GrecoJones84 the time of day, if he did fall within her meaning of what to expect meeting a black guy.

Cheers!

 

Absolutely no woman who says "you're the whitest black guy" in any context is worth dating. She's an idiot, without enough quality between the ears to rank as a friend.

Actually, I've stopped hanging out with white female friends for saying precisely this before. Life is too short to listen to the crap someone like that will say. It's not like this is going to be the last idiotic thing she says or does.

 

See that has been my policy for a while. However, can I blame her for her ignorance? No more than I can blame the average hood nigga for acting the way they are. If you are never exposed to anything different how would you know? I'm just not sure if I'm patient (or she's hot enough lol) enough to deal with that.

 

You don't have to blame her for her ignorance, you can blame her for what she does with it. People have to have some level of personal responsibility, at the very least for not being douches.

Even if someone's never met a Black person in their lives, it doesn't excuse them of developing a negative prejudice -- like considering being well spoken a "White" thing.

When I was a young teenager, I met some distant cousins. They were White (like me), and unlike me they'd lived their entire short lives in a tiny tiny all-white town in rural Wisconsin. The family gossip that afternoon was that I had a boyfriend. One enormously blonde cousin asked me what he looked like, and I mentioned that he was Black. This girl had never seen a Black person, in person, before, ever. She paused, and thought for a second, and said "Michael Jordan seems nice."


Now, she had a level of ignorance, never having met or seen or spoken to a Black person. And she used one Black person as representative of an entire race. But she went for a positive example. Without a frame of reference, she chose to assume the best.

White Women who assume that Black Men are all smart, handsome and deep-voiced may be ignorant, but they're adorable. White Women who assume Black Men are poorly spoken, unintelligent, or lacking in class have made a negative value judgement based upon race and cannot be counted on to use logic in important situations. Screw em.

 

My other half gets it all the time - is there a certain way a black guy should act?! :roll:

 

Oh, lord. It shouldn't surprise me that there are people who think like that, but at the same time, I can't believe it, at times.

So did she think MJ was your boyfriend?

 

My good lord! :smt107

Guys, guys, guys, you of all people shouldn't be upset over this. There's no reason to be angry over this. I get that a lot when they told me that I'm the whitest black guy they ever known. I don't find that ignorant at all.

What's up with you guys? :smt102

 

I'm trying to figure out how you DON'T find that offensive.

 

THIS is some funny shyt ! The anger of this type of shyt makes me laugh.

I've met people that were stunned to know that as a black man :

• I received academic scholarships for college
• I played minor league baseball
• I loved grunge music in the 90's
• I enjoyed the MTV show 'Jackass'

Unfortunately, there are people that assume that black people stay on the grind or 'hustle'...and that's all we do.

These people think that we can recite the lyrics to EVERY SNOOP DOG song. They also think that we all hold our nuts when we talk and say yo, yo, yo !!!

I usually take a lil time to show them that I am a well-rounded, well-versed individual...and if they were woman, I'd BUST THEIR BACKS OUT SHORTLY AFTER THAT !!!

Hang out and culture her ass...fuck her a few times and bounce on her when you're done.

 

Nope. I don't find that offensive. I get that a lot, you know? Not that big deal.

 

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! That had me weak!! Mufuckas puttin' on Snoop. Shit like that happens to me, too. They put on a song, and look at me, like I'm gonna put on a show for their dumbass. Top hat n' all. Pffft.

I remember one time, someone put on the Humpty Dance, and mufuckas were like "breakdance". I'm like "first all, I don't break. Second of all, The Humpty Dance isn't even a breakin' song". That's like me puttin' on the Beatles and telling their ass to square dance. Fools trip when they see I got Japanese Rock and Japanese Pop in my cd case. I find it fuuny when they ask if I understand what they are saying. I'm like "no, but it sounds good". Not everybody wants to hear Queen, Garth Brooks, and ACDC(all of which my friends listen to).

It really pisses me off, when they think anything in my cd case by a black singer is baby making music. I was listening to "Little Child Runnin' Wild" Curtis Mayfield, and my friend was like "I'm not feelin' baby makin' music, right now". I wanted to slap the taste out his mouth.