Honestly can a guy be close friends with a women?

yes, have many gal pals, my wife knows them, they come over for dinner or we all go to concerts. several are old girlfriends turned just friends. most are friends from University and clubs and organizations i belong to or church and political work.

 

And I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that you probably respect, adore, like, love (etc., or any combination of these) her even more because she does trust you, which in turn, makes you want to be with her more. It's what I like to call "the circle of trust," If only more wives could master this technique.

 

I haven't read all the replies, but yes, men and women can be friends. From my experience, it only works best when there's no attraction between the two.

 

NO WAY! That's bull... can't happen..

 

^^

Maybe the earlier post will sway your beliefs.

 

yes it has to be with respect and true interest to be friends, to be honest and foreright. and mature with your feelngs.

 

Loki,

I'm not quite ready to eat my words on this topic, but you may be right. LOL.

 

LOL Books, something you would like to share???

 

I'm sure it's nothing, which is why I said you may be right. LOL.

It was just a weird little text I got from the guy who I consider to be my best friend. It was just out of character a bit and it was one of those "hmmm" things. Not quite sure what to make of it, but I'm sure there's a reasonable explanation.

 

Yes very reasonable...he wants to see you naked!

 

LMAO!! Thanks for giving me a laugh. :smt023

I don't think it goes that far. But, here is what happened. I got a flirt on the dating site I joined on Sunday from a guy that I actually knew, and who knew my friend. So, I sent my guy friend a text that said that I joined a dating site on a whim (which I did) and that someone who looks like so-and-so contacted me. My friend replied with: It's probably him.

End of story.

Then about 30 minutes later, out of the blue, I get a text from my friend that says: why are you on those dating sites anyway? Why are you trying so hard?

That was just completely out of character for him, and especially since he has joined more than one online dating site off and on for years and is rarely without a girlfriend. Not only that, this is my first attempt at actually reaching out and trying to date people since my marriage ended, almost 2 years ago, and he knows this.

It was just weird. Nothing big, just a little, "WTF??" kind of moment. LOL.

 

What NOT to do...

 

Soo true..

 

OR, I will get my own girlfriend and we can just be friends. that usually works for me.

 

HAHA, that reminds me of a story...
I was on match.com a few years ago..
A very close (male) friend of mine was hanging out with a mutual friend and the mutual friend disclosed to my close friend that he had found me on Match.com (my close friend knew I was on there) and continued to ridicule me because of it.. until my close friend went:
"and you know she is on match.com.... b e c a u s e....????"

Case closed..
I was laughing my ass of when my close friend told me the story... the mutual friend didnt think that one through

 

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No he didn't think that through at all.

 

The difference between a friend and your girl/man is the additionally shared sexuality with all the consequences (kids). But this desire has to be wished by both. If that´s not the case, one has to accept it- without any anger..it´s still a friend..

 

i say no there will eventually be sex invovled thats y there should only be u and your girl in the relationship

 

That is assuming there will always be sexual tension between any woman and any man.. always.. for that to happen both parts need to want for it to happen, that is far from the reality.. however if you do feel sexual attraction for someone of the other sex, it is a bad idea to be friends

Of course there should only be u and your girl in a relationship. Do you have your male buddies in your relationship?

 

hahaha no of course i wouldnt have my buddies in my business. am saying if your girl or man says they have a friend of the opposite sex thats a bad sign. AM YOUR FRIEND so y do u need other friends of the opposite sex? bad sign especaily if he or she came bfore u met your spouse. and even worst if hes a new friend. and if she tells u hes just a friend then that means she thinks your slow