In Your Opinion

The only real way in which sizes matters, and the only time you should care what size it is, is whether or not it's the right size for your particular vagina. Too big can hurt like horrible, and too small can be boring. Vaginas, unlike popular assumption, come in all sorts of shapes and sizes just like penises. What's too big for one can be just right for another, what's too little for one might be perfect for another, etc.

All I personally care about is whether it feels good. If it's big, or little, or in the middle, and it feels good, then it's like Goldilocks's last bowl of porridge for me. I have encountered a large penis that was great, a large one that was horrible, a couple average sized ones that varied in enjoyability depending on the man they were attached to, and one very small one...and even that one, while it wasn't particularly thrilling for penetration, was attached to a man who was very eager in bed, and he kinda made up for it with foreplay.

Way I see it...if either partner feels the other is not the right size, then find someone who is and it'll be great fun for both.

 

LOL!!!

I am surprised you girls have run into any men seeking affirmation that what they were doing was right. I don't get that...the whole reason for me being in the sack with a woman (yes GG, or up a pylon or somewhere whacky!) is that I want to enjoy myself. I'm pretty certain she is in it for the exact same reason. Sex is meant to be a delight, not an occasion for anxiety.

This may be an impertinent follow up question, but I'm not one for self-censorship (as already evidenced elsewhere)...are you all talking about WM in those experiences?? I'm guessing that, because we darker guys just seem to be in tune with our bodies, whether on the dance floor, that swagger whilst we walk, more so than WM's, and that is likewise for sex. I can sort of see how WM's would have some awkwardness or nervousness in the physical arena, including sex.

As for being vocal, it's cool, scream, shout, it's almost all good, ALMOST...but speaking for my fellow man, may I ask, PLEASE...don't keep repeating the same two-word phrase 200 times during the act. "Oh Jay, oh Jay.." sounds great for the first minute or so, but if you're going vary positions every 5 minutes, yet demonstrate no equivalent variety in your vocal emanations, and insist on mindlessly droning that same orgasmic mantra for 50 fucking minutes straight, let me know in advance, and I'll bring some earplugs!!



Ok, I only had one GF like that, but seriously...it's annoying.

 

Men are men, regardless of race. I've encountered men of -all- races nervous about their size and/or just sex in general. Just like I've met plenty of men of many different races who can dance.

One's race doesn't define them as a person.

 

So it sounds like all of the ladies & the fellas agree, the way your wield your tool is more important. A couple of the ladies said both use & size mattered in some way, shape or form. No one solely stated size. But the bonus which seemed almost as important as the way you wield it, was reassurance. Correct me if I am wrong, but the ladies are saying that they are giving the fellas enough reassurance throughout and after the act, so if you need more attention than what was given, that is extra/special/just down right to much & that is not going to sit well with the ladies.

 

Reassurance-that he was good?

-I guess, as soon as you feel the need to ask, you already have your answer..

-If some one needs this reassurance for his own self esteem, it´s definitly not attractive.

To be honest an absolutly turn-off and reason to leave..

Do not misunderstand me, but in my opinion the female body is one single desire which I also like to show by gestures and indications. Nothing confirms and provokes me more than the desire of a man. However, in addition to have good sex it needs self-confidence and may not be accompanied by fears or doubts. A (MY) man must show that he wants me and what he wants. The convinced, the better. The greater the desire, the more I feel confirmed, the sexier I am, what turns him on, more..it´s a circle.
If somebody asks me whether he was good, this seems only selfish to me. - And this turns everything directly into the opposite.

 

You got it Fresh, skill is so important. But even a lack of skill, in an eager learner can easily be overcome - the same is true for women

If my man needed further reassurance after we'd been together, I would give it to him if I genuinely could (never fake it, ever).

 

Yes, there is natural/standard confirmation here, which at the end of the day is just another way to say reassurance--that you are satisfying. Example: I stroke...you moan...I hear & get turned on...I stroke back more, harder, moan or any combination...you feel & or hear my arousal...you moan more....and so on. Beyond that, a standard "oh my god that was great," in the afterglow of a session, recapping how much fun you had the other day & how you would like to repeat that, or something to that effect is the extent of positive reinforcement. If you have to "campaign" for him, to him, that's just an inordinate amount of support that is going to get them in the dog house with you, possibly kicked out.

This can be some good ish here, an eager learner can be quite enjoyable:smt038

 

I´m pretty sure that your ladies enjoy to be with you.. well said.:smt038

 

Whoa...how did I miss this thread?

 

I'm pretty sure I've posted this in another thread, but I'll say it again. For me, it is mostly about the mental connection. When a man is inside my head, looking into my eyes, it is powerful. I've had my best orgasms this way. I have felt a certain way about a man and had wonderful sex, then meet up with him at a later time, when I didn't have the same feelings for him, and the sex wasn't good at all. And btw, he was small.

 

Excuse me for not digging through old posts but did I read that you are originally from Gujarat?

 

The size matters to an extent.. not tiny but not HUGE either..

It's all about how a guy uses it in my opinion, amongst other things!

 

I know, right?? Just caught up with it now

To be honest, I don't agree with the whole 'size doesn't matter!' business, because it is down to what exactly you class as small. Although I haven't had that many partners, the ones I have been with have generally differed in the size department. The biggest guy I've been with wasn't porno huge, but he was well equipped and it was enjoyable, but certainly not the best sex that I've ever had.
The smallest guy I was with was the worst sex I've ever had, and although he was experienced, it just wasn't satisfying. He came in at a grand 3.5 inches and not perticularly impressive in the width department either so no matter what position, it wasn't satisfying for me at all.

The best sex I've had was with guys that are average, one guy who was about 6 and one that's about 6 and a half. But I'll keep those details private for now

 

why stop their, you already divulged a lot in my opinion:wink:

 

I think someone alluded to this earlier. What size is big or small, of course relevant to how tall, & what weight that person is. Let's try and get a point of refrence.

 

Anything smaller than 6'' is, for my liking too small, 7'' is perfect, any thing over 8'' is getting a bit too big for comfort

But that's just my opinion

 

What I really hate is when a man has an especially large c*&^ and he thinks because of this all he needs to do is show up! You know what I mean ladies. He whips it out, smiles at you like " I know, right" and then thinks he has to put in very little effort because you will be wowed by his size.

Give me a break.

 

and yes, before you comment....I have been with some real winners

 

Do you see the size? I could never say which size a man has..but there is help available...


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ha ha ha ha I have a pretty good eye for measurements...