In Your Opinion

I haven't seen this thread & am sure it's been on here before, but I'll give it a go to see what my new friends think.

For you, is it the size of the "Jackhammer," or how the "Jackhammer" is used to drill?:smt102

(Fellas, weigh in on the topic too, I know a lot of us think that as long as the Jackhammer is big, we are good, we don't need to worry about anything else, or dudes wishing they had just a couple more inches, whatever, Let me know....)

 

I'll be totally honest and say that I need both size and skill. Not ginormous, just not abnormally tiny. A huge package and no skill is fairly lame too. There yah go, an honest woman!

 

For me, it's all about how the 'jackhammer' is used. There are so many things that can be done besides just penetration. So even if the man might be a little 'short' in his attributes, there are other things that can be done to achieve the big, glorious O. Let's face it. As long as I get at least one O, I don't care how I get it.

 

Jackhammer..to drill ? I hope now that I understand you right..my dictionary strikes with explanation

This is a delicate/sensitive question, we are talking about the mans´best piece..

In general, my tendency is more to the bigger ones, out of one reason. When they are hard, they are still soft..what I personally prefer..smaller ones can be hard like a knife.
Whether these "bigger ones" now really big or small ones in the "black community" I cannot say. To answer this question I have to see it in reality..

"used to drill".. I assume, we girls know exactly how to show you the way, we want to become used and be drilled. Again to answer this question I have to feel in reality..

If this malkes any sense..

 

I'm with A on this...size and the ability to wield the tool count for me. Now, I'm not saying that I need a man built like John the Schlong, but I do need to know that you're there.

 

I am strictly speaking for myself here:

Size doesn't matter to me. I've achieved orgasms through penetration with every man I've been with - both large and small.

However, if he doesn't know how to use it, then there's a problem....

I'm all about how the jackhammer is used.... :smt023

 

Size matters....
BUT, if you go at it like jackrabbit with no skills or like a dog humping a leg, no size will ever help you.:smt015
Skills trumphs size any day...

You make love (or fuck) not only with your dick, you use your hands, mouth and body - if you dont get that and think your 9 incher will make up for skills.. well.. then....uh.. nope.
btw - (refering to my 9in comment) the focus on length of the penis is killing me, it does nothing - unless abnormally short - its the girth.

Course, I am a fan of the quickie as well, but those cant be all of the time...
My 2 c

 

I once met a guy with no less than 10 inches in his pants. I thought "oh, this should be nice" and 5 minutes later I was being praised for my skill, yet was completely unsatisfied myself.

*rme* Size certainly does NOT make up for being a minute man, especially when your "technique" consists of writhing on top of me like a zombie having seizures for a whole 4 1/12 minutes worth of nothing. Gave him an extra 30 seconds cause it took that for him to get the hell off me.

Quit worrying about your dicks, boys. As long as you know how to use them, we're fine, but if you lack in any department then it's time to make up for it with tongue and finger action...or just bring a vibrator. I'm a fan of vibrators for all occasions. It's so much more fun when I'm not the one controlling it.

It's about how much effort you put forth, not the size. If you really try to please a woman, and know how to listen, then she'll be pleased.

 

A lot of the ladies summed it all up. For me, to answer the question at hand, I personally like SOME thickness more than length. Like it's been said, I certainly don't want a dude who doesn't know what he's doing either.

 

For me, size does matter. I like them on the bigger side for both length and width. And size for me is also a visual turn on. But ONLY if he knows how to use it. If he doesnt know how to use it, its pointless to have all that.

 

It ain't the size of the worm, it's how it wiggles in the hole. MUAHAHAHAHA!!!!

 

I'll be the first fella to lay down some knowledge. Whether you are big or small it doesn't hurt to learn how to use it to please your partner. Different women like different things. Anybody can improve so whether you are big or small learn how to use it towards your ladies likes.

That being said, NEVER be insecure about it towards a woman. Whether it's big or small carry it with pride. I see guys obssess over this more than women and women see this and some will use it against you.

True Story: A few years ago back in college I was seeing this girl and ended up breaking up with her.(over good reason). Well, she gets pissed and tried to "out" me in front of some of my friends. Came up to me and said " oh btw i'm glad i'm through with you because I needed a man with a package that I could actually feel anyway". I just calmly laughed and looker in her eyes and said "is that why you kept comming back for more and more you whore?". Her face turned red and she walked away. That comment would have stung most guys reguardless of size because they are insecure about it: but not me.

Anyway, what i'm getting at is guys obssess over this the most. Be secure in what ever size you have and learn how to use it to the best of your ability reguardless. If you feel insecure about your size remember-- if a women is concerned with that first and foremost then that's a creature you don't want anyway.

 

Great post!!

And I'd like to add that if a man is insecure about his size and lets the woman know, it's probably not so much that she'll use that insecurity against him, but more about how that insecurity is a HUGE turn-off. So, men, learn to love yourself no matter what. A woman will come along that will appreciate everything you bring to the table, big and small. ;-)

 

I totally agree. Nothing is worse than having to constantly reassure a man that he is good in bed. My last ex was that way, and there is nothing that you can say or do to convince them that it was good. I'm very vocal during sex; and if that and the multiple orgasms isn't enough for you to know that I'm enjoying being with you, then you may have bigger issues (no pun intended) than penis size.

 

Question for the womenfolk: Do/did you often find yourselves having to reassure your menfolk they were good in bed?

 

Absolutely. The guy definitely has some self-esteem issues if he can't see or feel for himself that you enjoyed being with him.

No. That kind of thinking doesn't last long with me. Most men can tell that I enjoyed myself and I'll usually say something afterwards about how great it was, if it was great. Of course, by typing this, I just realized that I do the reassuring before he has to ask for it. Interesting...LOL.

 

Guys spend way too much time thinking about their equipment and therefore think that women must too. As long as you don't have a micropenis I think you can please a woman. Just don't forget to use your hands and mouth too.

And Jaybee no.............if he needs reassurance then what he senses is reality. Most women are pretty vocal when they are pleased. How is reassuring him helpful when he needs to change his methods? Insecurity=turnoff.

 

I've only had the one instance of having to reassure a man that he was good. I have had other men ask if it was good, but they already knew the answer to the question because when I would look at them, they would smile and laugh. I never hide the fact that I'm having a good time. I always make it pretty obvious. :smt023

 

Agreed. I'm know that he had a bad experience with an ex that lead him to be insecure about his performance.

Exactly. I need his whole body and not just one part of it regardless of how big it is.

 

That is sooo true. It's like their entire manhood rests on their equipment. Okay, technically, it does, but emotionally/mentally, it doesn't. I can't speak for anyone else, but I never give a second thought to a guy's size. He either knows how to use it or he doesn't. If he knows how to use it, why would I care how many inches it is in length and/or girth??