Taking his name

You are fortunate, in Canada it costs money and is a colossal pain in the behind to assume the husband's name.

 

I took my husband's name, it is such a cool and unique name, and I was over spelling my maiden name to everyone. But I wouldn't have hesitation to take my husband's name, cool name or not - unless his last name was Dick or Cockburn or something nasty, then I sure wouldn't.

 

I'm traditional and I have no problem taking on my man's last name. Also, another motivation is the fact that my last name is really long and no one can pronounce it, let alone spell it.

 

Although everybody butcher my last name without exception, I would have a hard time parting from it - because of its uniqueness.
I was thinking I take my pretend husbands last name and add it to my last name. It ends up being a cool compromize - if I can - have no clue how that works.

 

Pretty much with Scott on this (and just about every issue under the sun, eerily enough!!).

Take my name, fantastic! Don't take my name, cool, but expect me to double the length of the engagement because I WILL have my doubts. And I'll find out just how red that flag actually is.

 

My gynecologist last name was so common and plus there is also a Sex-Toy-Store chain wich has his last name... . When he got married he took his wifes name.

The name is better. First he don´t sound anymore like Sex-Store and his Name is more unique now.

 

I don't know

My best friend is going to get married soon, and we talk about this sometimes. I think she she should keep her name for the mere fact that her maiden name kinda ends with her, or at least do a hyphenated name. Her father side of the family whom she has contact with includes a grandmother on deaths door, a uncle with no children, an aunt with no children, and two brothers that she hasn't seen in 20yrs, and probably won't because they hate her father.

She may have other family, but they aren't spoken of, and she doesn't know them, so her maiden name stands to die with her. I think a name is important in a identity-historical sense. It gives you claim to yourself, your family and it's lineage/history, if it dies, if no one knows & cares about you and or your family, your dead to the world forever, that's a scary thought. Your legacy could be dead.

 

So, if I didn't get it wrong, women in the US get their husband's last name and they have to keep it even if they divorce, unless they do something to take it off, right?

I hate this thing! It's not fair. It's like meaning that women are men's possession. I really don't agree. I would want to keep my last name, because I'm ME first, then I can be somebody's wife.

 

Yes, you have to specifically have it stated in the divorce papers that you want the "right" to change your name back, if you want.

 

Yup

Co-sign

 

That's how the whole tradition started which is why I don't support it.

 

I never cared for it. I even took my ex-wife's last name as my middle name coz she asked me as a favor (her father was ailing; I was very young and my middle name was ugly, so I said what the hell, long story....). I think my Ex still goes by my last name, she said it is sexy and kool.

 

That's pretty awesome of you GZ. And Zorro is a very cool last name.

 

So is it safe to assume your last name is Quinn, Medicine Woman?

 

So close, but no. It's Athena Lives-in-Forest-with-the-Deer-&-Bears

 

LOL...i have a picture of a beautiful Athena dressed as snow white with her little animal critters all around her

 

Show us!

 

Agree with A on this GZ...what an awesome thing to do. :smt023

 

I would definitely take his name.

 

I plan on hyphenating my name. I guess cause I've had my name for some many years, it's a part of me and I don't want to take that away, yet I want to add his. I hope my future husband is down with that...lol