"He's with a white woman, he's fair game"

8) That's a good suggestion, but the only "ww friends" I have are the ones I work with. My closest friends are female, but they're bw - whom are like sisters to me. I've never been able to build a circle of "ww friends", if you will. I know that sounds really lame and it would be so contrived and disingenuous that one would see right through it.
However, my "work-friends" are dear to me and I love them to death. However, they're cirlce of friends are typically very "foreign" to my world. Courtesy is shown, but the contrast in our worlds is quite evident. So despite my close ties with said friends, I'm really a square peg in a round hole.

 

I am in the same boat. I don't come into close contact with that many bm, and all the ones I meet-are way too young!! That is why I decided to give the internet thing a try! I have met three guys, and the third one is a keeper! I met them on another interracial dating website. Although there are a lot of players and crazy people on the internet-I still thought i would give it a try! Just keep on trying and you will meet someone special! Good luck-(you seem to be very good looking and very intelligent)-so you are bound to find her!

 

:smt058 Thank you sweetheart!

 

You'll never know if you don't try! I approach ww all the time that don't give off any specific signals about being attracted to bm exclusively or at all! And I get shot down all the time, but I've also met and dated a lot of ww who have never dated or even thought about (so they say) dating bm, so you never know if you don't try. I do know if any of you (ww or bm) are holding back until you see someone you are attracted to who is also in the company of someone of your same ethnicity, you are gonna be missing out! I have had a lot of ww approach me in my life, and a lot of the time it's ww who I never thought would be attracted to brothas at all. Honestly, ww you all would recognize, if I told you some of the ww women who have tried to holla at me when I was still an athlete back in the day you wouldn't believe me #1, and you would not believe they go for bm at all! All I'm saying is to just go for it! We all get rejected and discouraged, even trying to meet people of our own race and that doesn't stop anyone from keepin' on any more than it should us (bm-ww) from making that first move and putting yourself out there. You will always have more to gain than you do to lose!

 

8) Solid point.

 

I feel what you're saying Sifu and on the other hand, I understand the others' point of view.

I actually like going for the WW whom 'appear' to be the 'unlikely' ones. As stated in another thread, I look for small signs to tell if she's uncomfortable with my presence/body language or the eye contact.

For the most part, I'm not much of an approaching kind of guy unless the person is in my everyday environment or they are in an approachable envrironment(per say). Places like the gym are 9/10 not places to approach women.

Typically, all the WW I've been with have been the ones you would least expect to try a BM. If not that, they are the ones that have never been with a BM prior to me but have always wondered what its like.

Not sure why this tends to be the case but in every experience I've had, it was.

 

bringing back some of these old topics.

Ha yeah I guess I can relate...

 

For me it's a nevering ending problem. I tell them they cannot have it yet they are persistent.

 

Maybe you don't smell as good as you think LOL.

 

LOL, Sonny!

IntriguedOne, maybe it's because you're hot. Hmmmm. Where've you been lately, anyway? *poke*

 

Cosign. It would be great if there were some means of non-verbally finding out who's into you, but won't date you because of your race. I'm attractive, but living in the South, it's at times difficult to get some folks to be honest with themselves.

 

8)I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Sometimes you feel like you're on your own island.

Family, I'm glad y'all resurrected this thread...the dilemma still persists. I'd be interested in hearing more perspectives/experiences.

 

Hey gorgeous, I'm glad I left a good impression, LOL! I'm not so sure that my so-called hotness is the issue...that would be a good problem to have,..no?

You could marry me and give me many babies and the problem would be solved.:smt005

 

(Most) white women (that I've come across) have a tendency to assume that I'm attracted to them. It has always tried my patience like you wouldn't believe. Apparently I have a baby face, I look younger than I am, maybe because I'm a little shy/nervous I come across as nerdy and thus unintimidating. It never occurs to these people that I prefer Black women or the company of my own kind, I find this sense of entitlement to be arrogant.

I don't want to be disrespectful against the specific women on this site but I really don't get along with most White women in real life. I say 'real life' because occasionally I'll see some sweet, kind-hearted White girl on a tv show or even from an internet forum and develop a crush on her but how most of them are in real life is so drastically different from the stereotpical, White woman 'image' (ie. ultra-feminine, angelic, ). Most of the White women I've come across are childish, silly, disrespectful, obnoxious, completely Eurocentric and lack the ability to empathize with people of color. It's taken all I've had in me, sometimes, not to grab one by her hair and bash her brains into the sidewalk.

 

Wut?

 

:smt103 Thanks for sharing that. Right now I'm extremely happy to live nowhere near you.

And if you prefer black women and don't get along with most white women....then, um, why are you here??

 

Interracial dating is a topic that interests me. I'm not against it, I just don't want to date interracially myself.

Most White women in real life are very different from how they are portrayed in the media (reply to the second part you bolded). I'm turned off by most of the White women I come across in 'real life'.

 

Agree with LA and Books, but another thing...
Why do you assume that just because a ww hits on you that she is assuming you are attracted to them and that you do not preffer bw or the company of "your" own?? I think thats rather arrogant of you..

I dont think women that hit on someone even think that far... Its not like Im gonna have a debate about it w myself...

Take it as a compliment AL, no more, no less and stop reading so much into it.
If you dont like it, decline and move on.

A humble thought from me is that perhaps that sadly terrible attitude your showing in this post might be a reason why you get the reactions you describe as you do above, it might come across when you talk to ww???, just a thought.
Sometimes we have to look to our selves for the answer... You have influence over your self, but not over others - you cant change them.

I also wonder where you meet these "terrible" ww AL - change your circle, you might get different results.. but that is a moot point I guess since you dont like ww, its not what you are looking for.

So Im really curious why you are on here then?

I wish you peace my friend

 

My thoughts, exactly. Makes me wonder why he is here in the first place. If you feel the need to violently attack a woman, then you should stay as far away from here as possible. If you don't get along with a woman, than stay away from her.

And most importantly, AfroLove has anger management issues that he needs to talk to a professional about.