Also, a lot of guys have a White Knight hangup. They want to rescue women from bad situations, but a woman who has just left an abusive relationship is less likely to contribute in a healthy way to a new relationship. Case in point, if we are to believe the story in the OP, had BMJ's friend started dating the Decent Guy, one has to consider that she's already been manipulated to believe that abuse = love. When Decent Guy refuses to abuse her, it will mess with her head, so like many previously abused women she may try to agitate and anger him. When that doesn't work, she'll get more extreme in her efforts, until eventually she is abusing him. Sounds to me like Decent Guy got the break of a lifetime when she refused him.
This guy who wanted to be with her is a better man than me. As a single man, I wouldn't want to be with this woman with that much baggage.
Holy shit don't use the word "baggage." It is a code word that makes women see red. Also a black man having standards is too uppity, the PC response is to be "understanding" to her situation
Haha negative rep just that quick, the truth must hurt. Why Women Love Bad Men? 07-07-2009 09:11 PM go away
Srsly dude, you think that's the truth? You think White Women in general require Black Men to be more politically correct, and think Black Men in particular must be "understanding" of a woman with baggage? Don't get me wrong, it was idiotic that you got negative rep, and people who leave negative rep anonymously are pathetic cowards, but claiming 'the truth hurts' just sounds like malikom logic. A number of White Women, myself included, commented way back on page one about this woman being a less than ideal mate. We may not have used the word baggage, but for my part that has more to do with the term being an overused, vague cliche than with any sort of politically correct nonsense. You have a strange definition for truth, my friend.
This is off topic but anytime I see your screenname "CBQ", I always think of Chris Rock and Charlie Murphy starring in "CB4." 'Straight outta Locash a crazy mutha****** named Gusto.....' I know kinda random! They cain't hold Gusto...we ain't rappin, we straight up jackin
You will note I didn't specify "White" in my post, I said "women" as in all women. Next time you try to parse what I type make sure it's accurate My definition of truth may be strange to you, but we all know truth is relative. Maybe if you woke up as a BM and experienced things through our eyes you'd have a different perspective. Your friend, Karma
Wow... so since I have a picture as Chris Brown as my avatar I have low self esteem? Right. Okay. Honestly, I don't care whether he punched the queen. I appreciate his music and obviously his looks. Besides, from what everyone says Rihanna was just as violent to him.
Well it goes like this -- Thugs will be thugs and thug chasing whores will be thug chasing whores. The guy in the wrong here is the actual decent guy because his standards should have been set higher than her. Like has been said in here already- alot of women that exhibit this behavior are usually women that had daddy or other psychological issues which of course is sad but no decent black man (or any decent man) really has time to deal with this. This is more of an issue of decent men recognizing red flags in women. Now looks matter but a girl that is into thugs and bums is an automatic turn off. That eliminates what ever attractivness she had to begin with what so ever in my book. This is a problem with alot of guys-- they see a girl that is fine and throw all other disqualifiers out the window. A big no no. I am completely unphased by a womens physical beauty alone and I can pick up an attractive women with realtive ease but she better offer more than that if she wants to stick around. That being said- BMJ, as someone else said just make sure you don't ever find yourself caught up in any of her shit.
Why can't men spot women like this during their courtship to avoid long-term problems? Woman accused of trying to burn ex's home Thursday, June 25, 2009 HEWLITT BAY, N.Y. (WABC) -- Police say the 49-year-old woman admits she broke into the house and doused her ex-husband's bedroom with accelerant. Investigators say she intended to burn the house down with everyone inside sleeping. Yitzhag Herschko says he can smile because his new baby, Chloe, makes everything better. Today he's lucky to be alive after his estranged wife allegedly tried to burn their house down and kill all five people sleeping early Wednesday morning, including one of her own kids. "We are doing very good. Thank God nobody got hurt and we can move on with our lives including Esther," Herschko said. Police say his ex-wife, Esther Hershko, broke into his home in Hewlitt Bay Park and poured gasoline in his bedroom, but when she stepped outside to look for a match a neighbor had already called police. They reported a suspicious car parked in the posh cul-de-sac. Meanwhile, the couple inside woke up thanks to their agitated dog "They noticed liquid on the floor and attempted to mop it up. It smelled like gas and, at this point, police are at the front door," Herschko was arrested and charged with a number of crimes, including five counts of attempted murder involving her 25-year-old son and his 25-year-old cousin. Also sleeping, her husband, his fiance and their 5-month-old baby, Chloe, who police say had traces of accelerant on her pajamas and bedding. "We've been separated for five years. She will be okay, hopefully, and we will be okay," Herschko said. Esther Herschko was ordered held without bail. Police say the couple has been in a bitter battle over money.
My point exactly -- MEN need to be the ones that lockdown on and reject such behavior or women like this will continue to run wild and still reap the benefits of a decent man.
goes both ways - nutcases reside equally on both sides of the veritable gender fence. Unfortunately, the luny side of people might not show itself until well far into a relationship. I also think the laws needs to be changed to protect people, as it is now - sometimes its too late when the law finally steps in to protect a battered husband or wife from a crazy spouse/x-spouse
