Afraid to approach someone of another race?

That pretty much sums it all up.:smt023

 

Damn man, sorry to hear that. That has never happened to me.

 

This is definitely tricky. Men already have to put themselves out there and possibly face rejection, and black men asking out a white woman are generally taking an even bigger risk.Lately I have seen a few black men looking at me like they're interested, I smile make eye contact so they feel comfortable to proceed but they haven't. Then again I saw one particular guy 3 times at various locations and he asked me out all 3 times. I politely declined but now I feel like I need to find him and explain, "It's not because you're black. It's because you're 5'6".

 

Shit!

 

He would rather hear because he's black. Trust me. :?

 

damn....

 

oh i was mortified for a while, but not surprised, there was a lot of bigotry and racial tension where I'm from, but i keep trying till i find what i want. i pray i find her because being alone sucks esp for me.

 

Some WW just don't prefer BM though generally the girls that say that tend to hang with a mostly white crew and will take off running if you play any music that isn't pop, rock, country or mindless rap (sometimes).

It is trickier because women don't come with a "We Accept black men here" sign. The key is to either meet ladies in a club situation where things are more neutral and there is an expectation of failure...or at the very least...think of things you really enjoy doing and find WW doing those same things...many WW I've seen don't have anything against BM..they just never had the chance to date a brotha.

What I have noticed however is that WW that prefer brothas are exceptional in some way (good or bad). High intelligence, very athletic, musically gifted, ultra gangsta, "different"..etc...even if the girl appears "normal" the WW that seem to end up with brothas always have one or two traits that makes them "different"...not just unique..but "different"...

 

lol,yeah you usually can spot urban white girls.Whether its the way they do their makeup,or whatever.They are mad annoying though.

 

So your saying average white women pick the best of us?

 

Pretty much.

 

Wait....thats insulting. So average white women don't pick average black men. They have to be exceptional.

Basically what your saying is that an average white women will get with an average white man but when they come to pick from our race they only pick the best of us. They have that power.

What does that say about black men?

We have to be that damn good in order to get a white women who is just decent.

To me it says racial inferiority.

 

Wow...you guys don't understand the meaning of reading comprehension.

I said that "extraordinary" WW end up with brothas...meaning we generally get something that is often better than average. The "average" ones are content being average but the "above average" WW are more inclined to be with BM.

This is getting ridiculous...

 

Ohh ok. My fault. I see what your saying. The way you worded it.

 

no,im very outgoing i can talk to anyone its all good

 

Well, I'm ashamed to admit that I was one of those ww who would turn down bm who approached me...yes I had a horrible attitude and would tell them that I don't date black men. I was totally racist, prejudiced and influenced by my peers(mostly Italian-American guys and girls) and I honestly never thought I would be dating black men...that is until some ww who were into bm persuaded me to give 'em a try...I decided to go for it! The experience was sooooo amazingly great that I'll always be dating black guys from now on:grin: My advice is not to worry when ww tell you they don't date black men b/c you need to be patient and understanding...she might eventually decide to go for it.

 

Sometimes I get that nervous feeling. Just wondering if she doesnt go with black guys, I will end up making a fool of myself. I myself, am in college and I dont see many interracial stuff going on. Everyone sticking to their own groups. When i do see its a rare occasion. I'm living in new york and even on the streets its seems rare but hey..just my two cents

 

i've never picked up a white women

 

I went to a multiracial high school, and some girls were afraid to approach African American guys because you never knew who was hostile to it. Sometimes guys would get actually offended that you would think they would be interested in White girls. I had guys make a show of turning me down so that some of the African American girls it turned out they were chasing would see them do it.

I was an overconfident psycho, so it never stopped me, and there were more guys who were cool than who were not, so that was cool.

 

Where were the WW like you when I was in high school?

It wasn't until I was a senior in high school that anything started to happen. An attractive but young (I was 18 she was 15...not happening because that was about the same time as Marcus Dixon..look up his name) cheeleader flirted with me and groped me every chance she got. She was such a flirt that I wasn't sure if I really wanted to take that shot. There didn't appear to be any dudes she wanted to make jealous...anyway there was this other lady in mock trial and she was cute and seemed to like me...she asked to go to prom with me but seemed to be joking and she had a boyfriend she talked about quite often. When I asked and went out with another girl, she actually seemed disappointed. My school was pretty well mixed (35 to 40% black) and the white kids were cool though a bit on the conservative side. They were the type that most brothas on here like ("regular" WW that you see at the bookstore..whatever "regular" is). The kind of woman that is difficult to read.