Do you get offended by the stares?

I'm sure some people will stare when my gf and I are out and about, but I don't notice it much, if at all. I could care less what they do

 

Doesn't bother me, strangely I barely get any stares then Again I live in Toronto. The worst that happens is black women trying to pick me up when I'm with my gf, who never gave me attn beforehand

 

I've noticed that you go out with your girl A LOT! LOL, stranger I'm happy for you!

 

No I don't get offended. I like to think people are jealous that there are people that can see beyond race/skin color.
It does irk me a bit when people stare and whisper...then they give that "look."
I just mind my own business...who am I to judge someone by who they choose to spend time with?

 

I don't enjoy the malicious stares yet when I see them, I am reminded of how miserable some people choose to be. Thank goodness I am not hanging with them!

 

Curiosity stares I don't mind but hostile stares annoy me

 

When I am with my girl and I get stares I could not care less. Usually a few things run through my mind.--

1. They are admiring a good looking couple so I cannot blame them.

2. IR is rare so they are just curios.

If its a malicious stare I'll shoot them a quick one back or a cocky smile and then put them on ignore.

Sometimes I decide its the best time for a little PDA. Once we were at a place eating and an old white couple probably in their 70's kept starring at us. So I grabbed my gf and put my tongue down her throat for about 30 seconds. Gave them a good show.

My girl was in a IR a few years ago and said she felt uncomfortable about the stares but for some reason she says she feels care free and secure when out with me.

Honestly though we don't get all that many stares altogether and stares are the worst we have gotten.

 

Well, we don't have black ppl here at all and it's not so common to see an interracial couple...even if it's like between asian and white! At first I felt really bad when ppl pointed at us and even stopped their cars to stare... I felt as if I was an animal in the zoo, but my boyfriend helped me get over it ( funny, cuz he was the one ppl actually looked at), he always took the time to stop walking and hug me or just take my hands even stronger.
I'm getting used to the stares now

 

So you honestly think that helps the situation?
Keep in mind, if it's a 70 year old couple, then they're going to have very different views on a lot of things, not just interracial relationships.
Shoving your tongue down your girlfriends' throat in front of some old people is more likely to reinforce negative stereotypes about interracial dating.

 

I'm not a not a fan of PDA just anytime but i'm not going to yeild to what some 70 y/o couple that are impolitely starring want to see. The fact that they have "different views of things" especially ones that are built on racism yielding to them is the last thing an IR couple wants to do. If anything they should be yielding to people that are progressive and have some sense.

Feeling nervous and like you have to act a certain way around them is exactly what people like that want you to do thats why they are starring -- to make you uncomfortable.

Kissing is feeding into what stereotypes? That IR couples like to kiss?

Its not like I yelled "I just got out of jail bend your white ass over the dinner table so you can recieve this hungry big black cock". I don't act or dress like a street thug either.

Besides the kiss we talked civiliy, enjoyed our meal and acted like the couple didnt exist. Walking around on eggshells around people whos views are wrong in the first place is a weak minded way of living.

 

There's a difference between kissing and putting your tongue down her throat, as you put it. Acting like that in front of old people of any race is disrespectful, don't you think?

It's not okay that they have racist views but unfortunately most of them do. This goes for old white people, old black people, old Asian people etc. You shouldn't hide that you are in an interracial relationship but you shouldn't shove it in their faces either with PDA.
Like you said, you talked civily, enjoyed your meal and I presumed acted like a couple anyway. Putting your tongue down your girlfriends throat isn't necessary. You can very easily prove to people that you are a young, intelligent interracial couple WITHOUT shoving it in their faces like that. Over the top PDAs will just make people think that the entire relationship is just based on sex.

 

I don´t get stares....my mom gets calls that I was seen with a black guy down town. And this particular guy, was just a colleague who I was eating lunch with. A white colllar worker with an exctramly good pay.. and I had no chance! I was just having a good time at work and lunch with him.

 

There was a long time before I was gutsy enough to do this, but if as a female you get malicious stares from other females (of any race), a fun way to handle it is to give 'em a lounge-lizardy come hither look, like you're hitting on them, or make an absurd face at them just before they pass. It's enormously funny watching their faces change from glares into shock or (even better) terror as they try to figure out what you're doing. :smt003

 

That's a good one CBQ - I think I might start blowing them kisses.:smt050

 

I can get into a whole thing about this, but since I don't feel like typing much, No. I do not get offended by staring, if any.

 

No, putting my tongue down someones throat in front of an older couple that is decent is disrespectful. Not in front of an older couple that is starring me down and shooting me malicious looks. I would never do that in front of decent older folks. Like I said, i'm not a fan of PDA but that older couple got the show they deserved.

Like I said above if it was a decent couple (like we come across the majority of the time) I wouldn't have done that, but i'm not going to walk on eggshells for old racist fossils.

See this right here is the reason alot of people are scared to get into an IR relationship. They care too much about what the wrong people think about them. An old racist couple doesnt wan't to see you together reguardless of if you want to walk on eggshells around them or not. Thats a spineless way of living. Like I said if it was decent people we were comming into contact with like we do most of the time we would have never done that, but I definately won't be so gutless as you are suggesting to care about what people with racist views think about me and my gf.

 

I have never registered being stared at. But then I think I've mentioned that, living in London, anything goes. People would be more likely to stare because Aaron is an inch shorter than me.

 

When my ex and I encountered a staring and gossiping old couple in a restaurant, he responded by kissing me on the cheek, holding my hand and when the old couple left, he held the door open for them and gave them a smart-arse look which left them pretty speechless.
Do you think that's gutless? I think that he showed that he was a respectful and polite young man that doesn't give a shit about their opinions and he proved his point quite well without resorting to putting his tongue in my mouth.
See, I'm not making it out that you should walk on eggshells. I'm not making it out that you should hide your relationship. I just think that there are more respectful ways of getting the point across.
But hell, maybe this is more of a debate about PDAs.

 

I know this thread is a few weeks old, but since I'm new it seems like a good place to start. I guess I exist in my own little world, because I just don't notice if we attract attention. My guy tells me that people check us out all the time when we are out. He is very muscular and intimidating, so maybe that discourages any comments (or maybe that is what they are staring at!)Anyway, I am more aware of looks when I take his son out, but I like to think that's because he's an active, enthusiastic 5 year old, not because he's a little black boy with a white woman. Like some of you said, sometimes a nod or smile is all it takes to make people respond or move on.

 

I went to a wedding with my gay, bm friend. We got a lot of stares from the mostly white crowd, but most people looked curious. There was an older wm who kept making conversation with us and asking how long we'd been together. We played along, and I swear the man was getting turned on.