Heart vs Intellect

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by christine dubois, Jun 15, 2009.

  1. christine dubois

    christine dubois Well-Known Member

    Would you say you are a person of heart, or a person of intellect?

    Sample: You fall in love with one person, but you know nothing about her/him, but you are sure,it will break your heart (let´s say you know it won´t last long). Would you take the risk that you will suffer afterwards (but you have the experience of feeling this unique love and you carry it in yourself for the rest of your life), or would you decide that it is better to leave and to protect yourself?
     
  2. jaisee

    jaisee Well-Known Member

    Intellect.
     
  3. Archman

    Archman Well-Known Member

    Christine,
    I have to agree with Jasisee and side with intellect……..In this day and age you have to employ good judgment with stable emotions to protect your heart at all cost.
    Although to enjoy the experience of a mutual love affair, you have to invest some emotion and trust, there is nothing that can annihilate you more than rejection and a broken heart.
    We live in a time and generation, where potential suitors and love ones can go through the motions in everything thing from their kiss to their physical passion….and then turn and leave you on a dime. Intellect mandates that you never race ahead, you instead invest when they invest, you become warm when you receive warmth, you hug and kiss back when they hug and kiss, you pace your honey and parcel out your heart incrementally…..it also mandates that you maintain a stable and rational enough mind while prepared to back off and walk should you feel a sudden and unexplained coldness or any hunch of desertion.
    Intellect is a protection tool, it must come over heart!
     
    Last edited: Jun 15, 2009
  4. Sir Nose

    Sir Nose New Member

    Intellect. I definitely use my head over my heart. The problem is when I use the wrong head.
     
  5. mama

    mama Well-Known Member

    I would have to go with heart. :D
     
  6. christine dubois

    christine dubois Well-Known Member

    Sometimes I would wish my mind would be tougher, more uncompromisingly than my forever fighting heart. Often it would have been better to hear to this old buddy, if the emotions only did not give so much pleasure.
    For me it makes no difference, actually, whether my life is short or long, it must be interesting. From some experiences I can live years. To lie in the arms of a man, to feel his touches, to drop itself, although one knows that one will die tomorrow thousand deaths or to jet with 200 miles / h over the highway, yes, it´s possible a tyre bursts, this is pure life for me .

    Indeed, I also think that one must have a partner who brakes one, otherwise one really goes directly to hell....
     
  7. christine dubois

    christine dubois Well-Known Member

    :rolleyes: ok, just that you know, from now on I´ll call you "Hydra"
     
  8. christine dubois

    christine dubois Well-Known Member

    This is my good boy!!:smt023
     
  9. christine dubois

    christine dubois Well-Known Member

    I give you a heart point
     
  10. Sir Nose

    Sir Nose New Member

    Okay, that's a first. I been called "Python" before.
     
  11. KnCA

    KnCA New Member

    I work on balance myself.

    I don't think it's really possible to fall in love with someone you know nothing about. I think it's possible to be lustful and highly passionate for someone you know nothing about though.

    Arch - I have to say....I understand what you are saying. But no matter what, relationships are a risk. To sit back and always be waiting for her to give a bit before you do....well maybe that works for you. To me, sometimes we do these things feeling as if it's the safe way to do something. How safe is it really? There is no way to really guard one's heart. Holding back makes it impossible to have what it is you really want (if indeed what you would want is a relationship) Or maybe it is more a matter of the type of relationship you would want. If it's truly about intellect then that's more of a business arrangement and those who are single wishing for a relationship would have no problem finding them. I would agree that at times we need to let our head rule over our heart. But the really great part, the bond that most really are wanting (even if they aren't up to it) comes from giving/risking our hearts. Again, I think it's a matter of balance....it doesn't mean we just give our heart to anyone that comes along.
     
  12. JordanC

    JordanC Well-Known Member

    I will say heart. I will take the risk. Some of my best most passionate relationships probably weren't the most risk free. I don't think you should over think love it just happens.
     
  13. mama

    mama Well-Known Member

    I agree, if you don't take the risk you may never find love.
     
  14. christine dubois

    christine dubois Well-Known Member

    Do you see, men, how passionate and brave our ladies are?
     
  15. jaisee

    jaisee Well-Known Member

    No.
     
  16. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    i am a heart girl always have been...i love deeply...i have had my heart broken and i have been the heart breaker...life/love is about balance...i actually believe that it is possible to love with both heart and intellect...it becomes about developing left/right brain tendencies...multi-tasking...it's how i manage my work life...i am not only running a business and making the numbers happen but i am also very artistic...so in love it becomes about making good choices for your heart to love completely...

    some people fear "risk" but every day is a risk...if you don't open your mail in fear of getting a paper cut...or you don't fly in fear of a crash...

    we are meant to find love..develop love...and lose love...if we never fail then how will we or would we ever measure or celebrate our successes...
     
  17. dossou

    dossou Member

    To Christin

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  18. alli

    alli New Member

    It depends on the issue. On relationships, though, definitely intellect. I'm not a risk taker.
     
  19. Athena

    Athena New Member

    Unfortunately, I am an intellect regarding my love life. I say unfortunately because I believe if I had followed my heart more and my head less I would have had an enriched life. Although, it's never too late! :smt060
     
  20. Sir Nose

    Sir Nose New Member

    I'm glad you corrected yourself! Your best days of lovin' are ahead of you, I'm sure of that.
     

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