My views on IR realtionships

Where there is good there's bad.
Where there is freedom, opportunity, and all men are equal, there is racism, ignorance, sexism, and intolerance.

America was founded by these views. We are all aware of the slavery, and sexism, and intolerance present in American History.

The point I'm making is how much race plays a part in American society. How taboo interracial relationships are in the eyes of most Americans. Barack Obama is preaching change, and people are beginning to follow him, but this is generations of intolerance, and I believe all of it cannot go away in one President's term in office.

To most people, interracial relationships are become accepted, but to others, it is proscribed. I believe love comes in all forms, and If I fall in love with a woman outside my race I will pursue a relationship with that woman. But this is something my family doesn't understand. I wish right now to be with a white woman. Personally I think white women are sexy. Does that make me a double stuffed oreo? To some it does. (I'm not taking anything away from black women or any other type of woman, but right now I want a white girl.)

I believe interracial relationships should be respected by everyone. I think IR relationships are the most human type of relationships; two people who love each other no matter of race or background. All of that doesn't matter, just I love this woman, and she is white. But I can't change people's opinions on things. I can only do what makes me happy.

 

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So do you just want a white girl right now or are IR relationships the most human type of relationship to you because race doesn't matter in them? Sorry :smt102

 

Its a bit of both. Thanks for ripping my thread apart LOL

 

[FONT=&quot]Are you under aged why you cannot date whomever you like without your parent’s permission?

Cheers!
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He never said anything about people's permission.

He was referring to his parents accepting the race of women he dates.

 

I had the best of intentions.
See, now you know it's actually a bit of both for you.

 

Suggestion: Pack yourself up and move far, far away from your family. You can call them once a week if you'd like. Skype is free. Start a career and a life totally independent of them. Be your own man.

Seeing your family on Christmas and maybe once in the summer is plenty. The rest of your life will be spent with your wife and kids, not them.

 

Are you speaking from exsperience here? is this something you had to do?

In my opinion, family is important and if they love you, i think any family can eventualy accept something that's out of the norm for them, be patient, no man is an Island or wants to be one.

 

No. Although my career has taken me away much of the time my family has always been very supportive of my relationship and supportive in general. My advice to Sonny is that if his family is stifiling his wants and needs then he would do well to establish himself outside of that sphere of influence. Doesn't mean you have to cut them off, but definitely cut the apron strings.

 

I understand Sonny. I am lucky and my mom doesn't judge who I choose to date by their race,nationality or looks but how they present themselves.Whether they show interest in the family,how they treat me and what they make out of their life. I don't take this attitude for granted.I'm actually grateful my family isn't racist or shallow. They do matter to me and it would make me sad to see them not accept my partner simply because of his color

 

Same here, my family have not been an issue for myself either, I do feel for those who have problems though, no one wants to upset there nearest and dearest, in these situations it's mostly fear of the unknown entity, someone different mixing with the family.

Be a man for yourself Sonny, which i'm sure you are anyway.

 

While I think who you are with is ultimately your decision, I think that if you are close to/respect your family/parents it's a lot nicer/easier to have their acceptance, support, and blessing even when you don't require it. I don't think that should make him seem under aged that you'd have to ask if he is.

 

Sonny, what is the reason your family don't like u being with a white woman? Have they ever said something about it, or you just think they might not like it?

 

Britty 24,

Not everyone is faced with such an obstacle, which is why I asked. To me his parents seem too overprotective (among other things) why the first thing came to mind is age. I would not be surprised if SonnyShao did not have some type of resentment for having to choose a side.

His whole ranting and raving on a message board seems to reflect such feelings.

Cheers!

 

IR dating is taboo for my parents. They grew up in the old school, the 50's and 60's where racism was the norm. I can't blame them for their opinions. I love them. I just want them to accept who I choose as a mate.

Now enough about my folks.

 

It has been my experience that it is hard to change people. I have not spoken to my father since Christmas because of dating my man. Dad doesn't get that it is not about my man per se, that it is about me and who I am attracted to. His losss, not mine