How many guys (and ladies) here believe if she is interested she'll let you know?

How many brothas ore out here in Phoenix?

 

From my experience, a women's confidence level will vary pending on how comfortable she feels to make the first move. There are many girls who’ve grown accustomed to having guys running after them. Some prefer it that way for it gives them a sense of power to turn down the guy if he does not fit her criteria.

That power is lost when she is the pursuer and, the guy has the power to turn her down if she does not fit his criteria. Taunted by every guy she rudely brushed away, she wonders if the guy will give her the same cold response upon saying hi.

Under those circumstances she will come across awkward, bizarre, rather weird among other things due to fighting with her inner self while still trying to entice you with her femininity. That brings forth a lot of mixed signals. One of their biggest obstacles is getting the guys phone number if he does not offer it to her.

Girls who tend pursue a guy will always do it alone too save the embarrassment amongst their girlfriends if the bloke turns her down. There methods are opposite from guys who will approach a girl amongst his friends and, get teased if she turns him down. Girls don’t do that.

The above scenario (girls approaching a guy) happens quite often to blokes whose job involves interacting with the public.

A prolific stare is what my colleagues & I call a girl that stares at guy with no end. She will continue to stare at you until you say hi or pass her by while walking down the street.

Cheers!

 

Jesus Christ, all you had to do was explain what a "prolific stare" is supposed to be, which, as I suspected, is a fabricated term.

 

My response was not solely aimed to wards you.




Cheers!

 

I disagree.
I don't think I've ever approached a guy myself, not because I'm very confident and so used to guys chatting me up, I'm just shy. However I do have friends who are much more confident than me and have no problem approaching men. They never do it alone though. Obviously they don't take an army of girlfriends with them, but the friends are always there.
It depends on the situation and the circumstances, but I've honestly yet to see a woman stroll up to a guy by herself.
Girls don't tease one another if they get turned down, they'll support one another, guys are the opposite. They'll rip the shit out of their friend if he gets turned down.
But again, this is just what I've seen with my friends and people.

Guys in this thread make it out like most women have some wicked ulterior motives and want to control men and always play mind games and shit... damn, some of us are just too shy to approach a guy. Honestly :roll:

 

Are you so shy that you have never gone shopping by yourself in London and flirted with a salesman you found physically attractive when purchasing a pair of shoes?

I agree. That's why I said,

Hopefully you will grow out of your shyness. I've dated few shy girls in the past. If you offer the same characteristics as the ones I've dated, fromrussiawithlove, you are very rare type of girl. You should not get upset on some of the things you here guys say for you are the exception to the rule. And that is a good thing.

Cheers!

 

Never been shopping in London, too expensive for me
Nah, seriously though, if I think a guy is attractive, I'll make eye contact and smile if he seems interested, but I would never, ever approach someone first. If I think a barman or whatever is cute, I'll smile at him and if he flirts with me first, then I'll flirt back. I'm just not good with this making the first move business.

To be honest, my shyness doesn't come in the way of dating or relationships. I still get asked out, haha. Once someone has started a conversation with me, I'm actually very friendly

 

I'm happy to help out on this one Rakim. I believe britty pointed out that she prefers the concept of the woman being chased by men and then they simply choose which man to have relations with. Most women would prefer it this way and unfortunately they like to pass this pathology of thought onto their daughters, sisters, and girlfriends. The perverbial "girls club". You'll find this type of info in a lot of teen magazines and women's magazines in the "how to get a guy" write ups. I prefer to think of it all as garbage.

Now onto my simple way of snagging interested ladies: Don't do anything until they make the first move. Many woman would suggest i spend a lot of lonely nights on my own. Far from the truth, i can pretty much snag any girl of "MY" choosing, and i would have it no other way.

How have I perfected such a game you ask? I'll share for everyones benefit. The fact of the matter is, I'm pretty lucky that i'm one of those guys that has a lot going for him. Good looks (from many a ladies simple observation, which is one of their modest attempts at getting me to ask them out), and i have a lot going for me. That doesn't mean the average joe can't pull the same proportion of female attention. It's all in the delivery of how you present, YOURSELF.

First off, don't fall all over attractive women, ignore them. Treat them as all the others. That usually throws a subliminal confusion into their mindset of them running the show. They wonder, "why is this guy not giving me the usual time of day all these silly boys do?" Because you aren't shit above any of the other millions of women out there, that's why.

Women go for two things above all else in my personal studies: 1. Things they can't have, and 2. Confident men. These 2 things go hand in hand in my personal style. I can share this cause i don't come here to pick up girls, which again is a pretty bad approach IMO cause it shows a case of desperation. A chat forum is a chat forum, and thats all it should be.

So now back to the game at hand. So you see a girl your interested in. If she likes you, don't talk to her for awhile. What you'll witness at some point is she will either strike conversation with you, in a short interval, or she will put a "very blatant opportunity out" for you to talk to her. If she does the latter, do the same as plot A: short but sweet courtesy. Then chill and stay in her proximity. Eventually she'll bite the bait and try to talk to you again. At this point, it's GAME ON.

Now you just roll with it however any guy does. I can't go into more specific detail. A guys game is their own game, and to each their own. If you don't have any, you need to work on it.

The final part is the compromise of my plan, for without compromise, there can never be relationships or for that matter, people gettin some ass. Your probably gonna be the one asking for digits. Its, ok. You know why? Because it's probably better this way. If a girl asks for your #, she's probably used to doing that, which probably isn't a good thing. So the "good ones" will make every opportunity for you to ask for her number. Make it happen.

Or, if you want one of my key tricks: Flip the script, drop YOUR number, and tell her to call you if she ever feels like hanging out. Now this is a hell of a power move, so you better run it right. It again throws a lot of women into a state of confusion, but confusion is good because women like to be kept guessing, in a way anyway. It also leaves things open ended, in a way, on their terms, but MORE SO, on your terms. Which is how i personally prefer things. Some would call this narcissism. Correction, it's just reversing the roles as they've come to be known in this world.

Remember, in 2009, women and men are equals, so use it! All that old courting and chivalry nonesense is out the window, so roll with it. :smt110

It is every human beings JOB to adapt to the environments around them, or perish in the wake of progression. Adapt or die, simple natural selection.


I'm out, but this could be continued... Peace:smt052