The thin white girl

I agree, she doesn't look close to 140 or 150.

 

maybe 130 to 135

 

Yes I like thin girls. Not rail thin but athletic. Kim Kardashian is the MAXIUM for as big as I will go. I won't tolerate anything bigger. Im not an asshole to bigger girls they're just not good enough for me.

Bingo.

 

you might wanna watch how you word things lol.
that sounds like a real big dick thing to say.
making yourself sound like your superior to people lol


but i think i get what y mean. just not your type


i love thin girls too

 

Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes:rock:

 

I didn't mean it as in I am a superior human being, I meant it as in they are not up to my standards of what i'm personally attracted too.

 

I am a litte puzzled because KK is far from a thin girl and to me she and Denise Richards (in this pic) are in two different universes.

BTW, I'll take Kim.

 

And one could argue that some people set their sights just a little TOO high. Face the facts, if you're not making 1 mill a year, the girls posted in the locker room and everywhere else probably aren't going to be interested in us.

 

I get what you're trying to say, but anytime anyone of any gender says someone "isn't good enough for me", it sounds dickish. Maybe it's a regional thing. Chicagoans say a lot of things that come across as dickish to other people, so maybe in other parts women get a pass for saying "he's not good enough for me", in which case the same should be true for men. Around here, however, the only time I've ever heard someone get support for a statement like that is if they are talking about someone being unworthy because that someone is themselves an even bigger dick, or if the people supporting the statement are dicks as well.

I think it's clear that Samantha wasn't responding to the idea that a man be choosy, but just his choice of words in describing that.

And it didn't come across as browbeating to me at all. I can't speak for Samantha, but I want you guys to be as successful as possible romantically. Interracial relationships deserve support, and I very much want WW & BM to find each other & make each other happy whenever possible. So if I see someone here writing something that I know would make my friends shy of them, something that might give them the wrong idea, I will totally mention it. Not because I want to call a guy out for being a dick, but because I think he'll be less likely to be misunderstood by women if he phrases himself differently.

White Women who have a preference for Black Men's personalities often compare them favorably to White Men in terms of White Men having strict, controlling beauty standards. (note: before people run in about me generalizing about WM, or saying 'not all of them', let me be clear, I'm talking about a characteristic that many WW say WM are more prone to. That's all). White Men interpret this as Black Men going for any ugly woman, and that's bad. But it'd be a shame if, in compensating for this, BM started to use the hateful, demeaning, controlling, angry, bitchy 'lookism' language that so many WW jump the fence to escape.

The women I hear talk about escaping those comments are usually the most classically beautiful. The tall, thin girls, with the great curves. I've known bisexual women who date exclusively women but will make exceptions for BM for this reason. It's the most beautiful WW that get it the worst from this specific type of White Man, because that's who this type of guy looks for, and that is all he saw in her, her looks, and after a couple months that gets old, so he starts demanding more, and meanwhile he's getting jealous so he punishes her with more comments about her looks.

Black Men & White Women tend to look for the same things out of a relationship: Peace, friendship, love. Everyone else looks at us and says that means there's something wrong with us. The key thing to remember is that they are wrong.



ETA: btw, I think that unnamed post you got in rep was absolute bullshit. Fuck whoever wrote that. Probably one of the supremacist lurkers. "Angry Black Man" oooh, scary:smt120

 

I'm talking about the words being used, and you're talking about what they're meant to mean.

What I'm trying to explain is that no one is objecting to the meaning, just the wording. The wording leads one to believe you mean something else. If someone just said "I prefer thin women" -- you think we'd be having this conversation?

Another example I thought of: There are Black Men who date White Women who have encountered a type of Black Woman before, one who is, for lack of better phrasing, mean to them. They say that the White Women they've found are nicer. The Black Women who object to IR respond to this then spread the stereotype that White Women are passive slaves.

I have known WW in IR who respond to that by becoming TOTAL BITCHES. Srsly. It's unfortunate. Overcompensation is not the way to go.

Btw, when I said thin girls with curves, I meant skinny chicks with tits. Not big girls. I wouldn't have put that out there, knowing that wasn't what you were interested in. The WW with the "traditional" looks gets more shit for it from WM than any other, and they are usually extremely happy to find a man who doesn't monitor what makeup she buys, for instance.

 

Most definitely.


That is one out of many reasons I tend to meet more girls alone than with male friends. Some of my friends who venture outside and/or within their complexion prefer girls that fall within the “Kim Kardashian” body type. They assume I would fancy girls of that stature attractive as well despite showing them girls who fall within “Emma Watson’s” demographic.

I would imagine they assume the average guy would not turn down such an opportunity to meet a girl with such a figure. Well, I never classed myself as the average guy so, that makes me the exception to the rule.

Cheers!

 

I hear you but you misunderstood me. I said Kim Kardashian is the MAXIUM I will go.

Bingo. Everything you've said thus far in this thread is spot on. Never walk on eggshells around women when it comes to what you want and your standards.

 

Gotcha Scott, but you said you like, prefer even (in my best Snagglepuss voice), thin girls.

Kim Kardashian cannot be in any way construed as thin. She is far, far from it. Therefore, you don't only like thin girls. That's all I'm sayin'

 

I dont like (insert offensive derogatory language) instead of I DO like (insert flattery) will always get you flack. Dont know why people cant simply state their preference, why does it have to be gauged against something offenseive?

 

This has not been my experience. That doesn't mean I'm doubting you, just that I'm not as familiar with what you're talking about.

In my experience, women do not get a free pass for saying someone "isn't good enough for them." I tend to think of women who talk like that as bitches.

Also, might be the southern thing. Women still do the pedestal thing down there, so I hear. That sort of thing demands double standards. And of course, I'm guessing the racial hangups are thicker, too.

Damned skippy. Maybe not lengthy, tho. I tend to get wordy when I give a damn, like if I think someone's coming from a good place. If they're just being snotty, I might save it to something meaner & shorter.

 

Btw, I don't like women who say they won't date men who don't make enough money, either. Sherri Shepard made a comment on the View that she wouldn't date a man without good credit, and I was writing angry emails within the day.

Women are taught from a young age that all they have is their beauty (it's bullshit, but it is what it is). Telling a woman she is not pretty is essentially questioning her womanhood. Just as men don't like having their manhood questioned, women don't like it either.

I've never known White Women who thought they should be found attractive because of their race, regardless of weight. Again, I'm not saying they don't exist, I'm saying I just haven't met them. I have noticed that there are, at least in Chicago, more Black Men looking for heavy Black Women than Black Men looking for heavy White Women. And I know that many heavy women I know consider themselves very attractive, and have dating records to prove it. Is it possible that at least some of these women simply think you will find them attractive because they think they are attractive, not because they are white?

Maybe not, again, there's the southern thing, I'm sure the racial dynamic is different there, but up here WW chase BM on the regular, and get rejected fairly harshly sometimes, too, so again, what I've witnessed has been different.

(might be worth mentioning, as well, that I'm bi. The women I've gone out with have ranged the full spectrum from juicy & round with great big titties, to slender little slips of women with really big titties...what can I say, I like titties LOL. So I understand about having preferences, I do.)

I've got more to say, but lots of work to do, so I'll post more later.

 

For real? I must be living on the wrong side of town.

 

My guy's buddies tell him WW are hunting Black Men like prey up on the North side (like, the Belmont area, etc), and isn't it pretty much always like that in the Loop? Hyde Park's a good place to get caught as well.

 

Thanks, I'll send an Away Team to check it out.

 

Let me add a big yeah right to that one.