Is this normal?

I'm friends with alot of black fellas. A couple of them are always trying to get me to drop my man and get with them even if it is just for sex and not a real relationship, which I will NOT do btw. lol A couple of them quit hitting on me when I told them he is black jamaican. Question is do most men feel a loyalty to a specific group of men (race/country/etc) and no matter how attracted they are to the woman they will just give up? Or is it just these specific men? Or even women for that matter? If I know a man is taken then he's off limits no matter how attracted I am to them.

 

that's real koo

 

same here

dont go after married women,engaged girlfriends,two ppl in love.it against my principls.so if u married engaged love ur man.dont hit on me

 

It is more than likely the culture that comes with the guy you are dating. Women who date outside their race that offer no similarities in the guys culture will need to embrace his culture as well in order for the relationship to blossom.

Guys from the Caribbean bring forth a totally different culture than those who are American. The same thing applies to Girls as well.

This site is comprised of predominately African American Men. With such a large presence a lot of African American Culture is expressed on this forum.

Long-term relationships are more than just physical attraction. It is a mental stimulation between both parties in which each person will share his or her customs. One needs to have some form of interest in the person’s culture he or she is dating unless they (in your case the Man) are fully americanised as yourself.

Cheers!

 

i am from africa

 

I am quite sure you offer an African culture, which differs from those who reside in other parts of the world, even though, sharing the same complexion as yourself.

If a Woman comes across as fancying a particular culture in a Man, those who do not fall into that category will usually back off.

This applies if the roles were reversed as well.

Cheers!

 

Probably because African Americans and Jamaicans beef with eachother.

I remember when my old barber was talking about his trip there.He was saying how the people there didnt like him and treated him very crass there.

 

There does seem to be some kind of rivalry amongst the two cultures in the States. In England, it is quite different.

Cheers!

 

alright i understand. Thanks

 

A lotta cats already know how crazy them West-Indian dudes can be regarding a woman.:smt009

 

Or how easy they will try to snatch a girl from you...

 

If the women your dating is even mildly interested in another man, she's not worth keeping.

Holy Cow the subject matter, we are treading new territory, NOT.

Been posted before, search for it.

 

No reason to be a jerk about it. If you didnt like the subject then why did you even post anything?

 

Preach Tony, preach !!!

 

Really? Why don't you do me a favor and enlighten me about myself and my Caribbean brethren?

 

Good thing to discuss, whether it has been brought up before or not, that is why we are all here right? To discuss.

BTW, I doubt that these men-friends have given up their quest to get into your drawers.

 

What your talking about is fairly common in all races of men (well I think so ) its the approach and how they do it thats different, the intention is the same.

Personally in my opinion the more bold they are in there advances the more lower class they are, thug types, the good thing is with any guy! is once they know, I mean really know they aren't getting anything then they usualy vanish into thin air to pursue another friends girlfriend with less scruples.

Personally I wouldn't hang out with them, it would put me off that they have no loyalty to there friend and have no respect for me as a woman as the fact they even asked you implies they think you're up for it. :???:

 

Example: When a guy messes around with a woman who has a Jamaican boyfriend, husband or of any other West-Indian descent, things tend to quickly get out of hand and drama can escalate in an instant when he finds out about the "affair". Also at times it can become kinda messy.

We would then look at the guy in question as if it was his fault and he should've known better. Y'all cats can be very territorial when it comes to your women (as anyone should be). This is based on my own personal observations and no disrespect was meant by it.

 

What you have explained is a matter of the bloke being very obsessive with his bird. Such behaviour is not limited based on what part of the continent one resides from.

This applies to any man or woman who has a very jealous streak. One could look at such a response as being intimidated by those who are not African American.

You may not realise the majority of Caribbeans are so heavily in their own culture the chances of them mixing with others outside the Caribbean community in terms of a long-termed relationship is very rare.

I am quite certain the feelings are mutual on the African American side as well. Your culture differs greatly compared to theirs. Compromise is in order for both parties to unite as one in a long-term relationship.

When neither party wants to compromise such unification between a man and woman is not possible unless, one of them chooses to put their culture on the back burner. This is only possible when love concurs all.

It is one thing to date someone of a different race that is still classed an American. It is another thing to date someone who comes from a different part of the globe in addition to having a different pigmentation.

Take it from an Englishman living in New York.

Cheers!

 

Please guys dont fight that was not my intention.

Yes discussion is good... and you're right they still want it lol.

Woah now Francie! I'm not like that. They just wish that I was. They arent friends they dont even know him.

.... Ok thanks for the warning... glad I don't tend to have an "affair". As for the territorial thing.... most men i have dated has been except two of the white guys and it kind of hurt my feelings as he just let a guy keep hitting on me and said nothing just laughed.

Hmm a bird? Been called worse I suppose lol I hear you with the rest though. I dont think either one of us really has to put it on the bk burner... hmmm maybe though. lol wouldnt mind experiencing a different culture.