Closest You Came to Gettin Pussy And Failed

This thread is about the times where you met a girl everything was going good, you ALMOST got laid or became a couple, but something got in the way and she ended up moving away, dating someone else, or stopped liking you for some reason. This happens to us all at time. A girl acts like she's feelin' you and after a few weeks go by (or months in some cases) and you think it is going to lead to sex or a serious relationship and it all blows up in your face and she either turns out to be someone you did not expect or a major obstacle gets in the way that prevents the two of you from being together.

This is NOT a thread for bad break ups OR times where you meet a cute girl at a party or club one night and you THINK she likes you but she ends up goin' home with another fella or something. If you have been dating a fucking a chick and it all ends for some reason, that's sad and all, but at least you got her in bed. If you meet a girl and within a few minutes, hours, or days she shows signs of liking you but ends up with another guy (or for some reason you never hear from her again), that's not so bad because it isn't like you put in weeks and months of work and time and money and emotion into it, so no big loss, ya know?

THIS IS NOT ABOUT THOSE SITUATIONS! Only times where you have known her a loong time, put in the work to get inside her head (with the intentions of ultimately getting inside her panties and her heart), and failed. There is a certain real tragedy to a situation where you meet a hot ass chick, you KNOW she'd fuck you, everything is goin' smooth for a long while, and then something happens where you never get the chance to hit it. Here's my experiences...feel free to share yours as well...

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1. ANYA: At college last semester I met and started dating this HOT red headed Russian girl named Anya. She was a super smart lawyer major and she was very shy and sweet when we first met. I used to walk her home everyday (she lived with her aunt in a house about 2 blocks away from the college, her parents lived back in Russia) and one day I gave her a teddy bear that said i love you on it and asked for her number. She gave it to me and then flipped her hair, smiled, and said "call me" in the sexiest, sweetest voice (along with her sexy Russian accent of course).

As usual, we hugged goodbye, but it wasn't enough for me, we both paused after the hug, stared at each other for what seemed like a minute (but was probably just a few seconds) and then i moved in for the kiss! It felt like one of those moments out of a movie or something man I swear!!!! It was sort of a 5 second make out session but it was NICE! (along with some butt squeeze action goin' on LOL). We then said bye and after that we dated for about a month and thins were cool. She was more of the library and read type than party at the club or go to the movies type. She enjoyed shopping and took me many times, eating at fancy restaurants, reading, and when we weren't doing that she was babysitting a little boy that belonged to a rich family she worked for. Well anyways, she dropped a bomb on me that not only did she have a boyfriend back in Russia, but she had to move back to Russia as well. I haven't seen her since... What a bitch! It proves even the shyest sweetest nicest girls can be liars and bitches.

2. JULIA: I met Julia this past semester at my college. She was really fun and hyper and cool. We hung out alot and smoked pot and she was the nicest girl I had EVER met. But she hardly returned phone calls, was very very forgetful, and always late. She was hard to count on at times and this worried me. She was also very very slim and hardly ate. She also was very nice to me certain days, and others acted like she was too busy for me. Anyway I'd find out her mom was dying of cancer and her step father was an asshole (I'd eventually meet the guy), and her sister was in jail for stealing and heroine addiction, and by the way her sister's pregnant with the baby's dad also in jail for murder (yea I know crazy right).

Anyway, I chilled at her apartment a few times and I noticed her friends and her kept referring to her "roommate". Well i found out this roommate was a GUY! And there was ONE bed in this apartment. Obviously I was concerned but like an idiot I believed her when she told me they were just roommates. Well, long story short, I find out they are boyfriend and girlfriend and all this time she was cheating on him with ME. The reason she was not answering calls and acting shady sometimes was because she was with him all the time and he'd go crazy if she talked to me on the phone or found out I was at their apartment and was kissing her there. I did not want to keep this shit up and share her. I was pissed and told her to choose between us. She chose him. I was really really hurt because I was really really into her man. So I ignore her and try to forget she existed. A few weeks later I see her crying out front at the college with her friends hugging her. I assumed she was sad because maybe her mom had died. I go to see what's wrong and I found out her boyfriend kicked her out because he found out she fucking with me behind his back. He beat her up bad and she told me it wasn't the first time he had hit her, but not to tell anyone. I did not know what to do but I just had to be there for her. I cared for her. She had issues. But when she wasn't rushing to see this guy she was sooo nice to me. It's weird, sometimes she talked about him like he was the most evil person in the world and others she'd talk about him like she felt sorry for him.

So at this point it is about more than the pussy. I really feel sorry for this girl and want to be there for her. We spend Thanksgiving together and we kiss and her parents were really feelin' me. I think things are going good and that night she tells me shit that makes me think this could be something special. Now my head is gettin' big thinkin she's finally mine. Yet days after that she starts acting too busy for me and shady. I'm like what the fuck??? Turns out while we were at the diner on turkey day, her ex-boyfriend breaks into her home to steal pain killer pills her mom needs for her cancer so he could get high...and WHAT DOES THIS DUMB BITCH DO???? She takes the money that her step dad gave her to fix her car (which she crashed while racing on the highway in the rain to go downtown and pay off some drug guys her ex-boyfriend owed money to and they'd kill him if he didn't pay up) and instead of fixing her car she uses it to pay his bail and get him out of jail. SHE GOES TO HIS RESCUE AGAIN!!!! WHY??? THIS GUY IS ABUSIVE! Then to make things worse, now that she has no car now, she HAS to move back in with him since their apartment was so close to the college and her house where she lives with her family is an hour away from the school and no one to drive her. I did not understand it at all. I felt like I was in a bad Lifetime TV movie where the guy tries to save the girl from the abusive psycho stalker ex-boyfriend. But in those movies the girl doesn't run to him every chance she gets like Julia was doing.

The thing is she would have really deep emotional conversations with me about life, death, drugs (she was on heroine at one point, and STILL takes every pill in the book to this day), about if there's a God, her real father, and finding a guy who won't take advantage of her. Yet she falls right into he same trap and this whole drama with her really hurt me. I really don't get it. How can a girl be so fucked up in the head? Was it the drugs? His control over her? My friends told me to forget her but I wouldn't listen. I thought in my heart (and still do) that she is a good person. She reached out to me and treated me better than ANY girl I've ever met, but her fuckin' ex-boyfriend fucked it all up. There isn't a day that goes by I don't wonder, maybe if she had stayed with me, I could have gotten her off the drugs and helped her. She was NOT a bad person. She had the biggest heart of ANY girl I've ever met in MY life. Her heart was maybe TOO big, because she cared so much about this loser that she let him take over her life. Her WHOLE life is buying food for this asshole, bailing him out of jail, etc. I wish I could have stood up to her once and yelled at her about how she's ruining her life with this guy by keeping on running to him, but instead I tried to ask in calm normal ways and every time I brought it up she'd change the subject or say she had to leave. I think she could've been a great person but drugs, traumatic childhood, bad guys in her life controlling her, and low self esteem ruined her. It breaks my fuckin' heart. I still have her number and days when I feel lonely or am thinking about her I call it and hope she will pick up or answer the messages I leave. She hardly did when we were together so I doubt she will now...

This Is A Picture of Julia....

3. AMY: I was working my first job at a super market and after doing the deli for a few days I was switched to cashier. They put me with an experienced cashier and I would watch her and help and she would train me and help me learn. I expected some one old. Instead I got a hot spanish girl named Amy. Me and her goofed around and flirted so much and instantly we liked each other and just had a very sarcastic humor toward each other. The DAY we met, she needed a ride home and I offered just as a joke and she accepted. As we got in my car she goes, I can't believe I'm getting in this car with you, I don't even know you! She was wise to trust me (most girls say I am trustworthy when first meeting me, I'm not touchy feely and all over them like some guys, I am very respectful). Anyways, one ride become two, and three became everyday. Soon we got real close and went out alot together and then one day after giving her a ride, she said I wish I had money to give you for the gas, and I said you could pay me back in another way... And I just stared at her lips and we kissed. We ended up chillin' alot for over a month I think, but before I could get some (or even ask her to be my girlfriend), she left me for her ex-boyfriend... :cry:

4. Katherine: She is the GORGEOUS HOT SEXY blonde you see in my signature below. She is half German half Polish. I met her 3 years ago at my college. We started out as friends and she immediately told me she has a boyfriend. But as we got closer over the months, she told me how he's in a rock band and is always on the road. (CHA CHING!) She worked at a bar as a bartender (you know those wild bars where the girls dress real slutty and dance on the tables and toss the drinks around, like that movie Coyote Ugly? Yea one of THOSE bars!) so I'd meet her there and we'd talk and drink and smoke weed.

She just has a glow about her and the way she looked at me was soo sexy. She has mysteriously beautiful eyes and her body was RIDICULOUS. So long story short, one day after school I basically broke the player code and BEGGED for her to break up with him (when you gotta crush on a chick and all she does is complain about how her man does her wrong, you're gonna eventually stop being the "good friend" and open your damn mouth and take a chance an ask her to dump the ZERO and get with the HERO). Well anyways, we walked back into the school and went down this long empty hallway that heads toward the library to talk. We talked (well argued) for about an hour and she told me some bullshit that I don't even remember and that she gonna stay with him. So I gave her this poem I wrote afterwards and told her to read it and she did. She was touched and I hoped she'd change her mind after reading it but all she said was "I bet my boyfriend will enjoy reading this". What a bitch! Well we stayed friends but now there is this weird tension because when we look in each others eyes she knows what I really wanna do to her hot ass...

 

Ok I guess everyone in here has not had the same bad luck that I have. Or maybe you all work faster than I do. Unless I see the girl as just a piece of ass, I usually take a couple of weeks to over a month before I even get CLOSE to gettin coochy (or punani, whichever you prefer), if it's a girl I care about and respect. I work the slow and methodical way. Try to keep it on the romantical tip, nah mean? Maybe I need to speed up my approach. I'm just afraid that if I make that sex move too early she gonna think that's all I want, and it's not.

 

*bump*

Wow, this guy ^^^ really had some funny shit.

 

lol double bump for playboy90210

 

2006: I was at my former job and met a girl named Sarh. she was beautiful and attractive, but I didnt see her in a sexual way. We clicked at work so well, that I thought hey were just good friends. I was training her on how to do her job and it just seemed like we were on a friendly vibe.

Well one night she invites me over her house. Bear in mind, I gave no signals of sexual desire nor did I think anything would happen. I thought we were jsut friends. Also I didnt knwo a lot of the dating language I know today.
Also I really am not good with signals .

Well we got to her place had a few beers got close to each other and watched the movie.. Once again I was use to being in the friends zone with the ladies at that point in life. I figured a hot girl like her jsut wanted some company to chill with that night . Chill in a platonic way..

Well after I got a tour of the house and her bedroom I figured well great place lets watch the movie. We watched it and enjoydit. Ill admit i played and teased her a little and played with her feet some.

Well once the movie ended, she said she was getting tired and wanted to go to bed. i figured she wanted to go to bed she said she ahd to get up early in the morning... so I left.

man monday morning comes around, and she is pissed at me. You would ahve thought I tried to rape her or attack her. She was communicative nor did she een want to be around me.

I didnt know she wanted me to jump her bones that night. i truly came in as a nice guy and was just trying to be friends. things were never the same between her and I afterwards and sicneI told mybouncer that story at the bar, Im constantly reminded of it every time he sees me .
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Yeah, this is what is often referred to as "dropping the ball". It has happened to all of us. Sometimes it is good to think about those situations and imagine what could easily have been.

It is our duty as fathers and future fathers to train a legion of young men without the same fumble-itis that we sufferred from!

 

So true so mother fogging true. I will definatly pass my story to my youth in my mistakes. But I tell you back in my home you could go over a female friends house and it was cool. I never thought that a woman would want a me but trust me the whole bar knows my lesson. I think my story will be told for years to come

 

dang PBT

you must have madd game son

good stories

 

Damnn, man..you got me crying ..I wanna give you a hug.

 

I've taken the liberty of highlighting some of the big time universal hints that women may use to entice men. It's very likely that I would not do any of those things with a man that I didn't want. Please no thank-you's just keep them in mind. lol

 

Athena, I have so many stories..I wouldn't know where to begin.
Hell,I really didn't start gettin' laid until I went overseas....for some reason I was more aggressive!!!??!!!

Looking back on all those times I was standing on a gate and women coming through and flirting....apparently I had a different mind-set or thinking about something over than pulling phone #s...looking out for suspicious terrorist activity (official reason).

 

Dude I've been there before. It is up to you to take the initiative and pounce on her. Show some bravado, go for broke and go for it. I learned this lesson the hard way. But you had the opportunity to jump her bones and should've taken it. But you live and learn. Go for broke next time, and there will be a next time...

 

Wow, that's a really interesting little story Art. I hear about that happening sometimes, when a woman just wants to sit in the bed and cuddle and watch a movie with a guy without doing anything more. Did she give you any kind of eye contact or anything? I know you said you weren't good at picking up signals at the time, but i wonder if her signals weren't as obvious as maybe she thought they were.

 

Good info Athena.

 

Uhhh, I'm not sure he hears you:

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He's still here under an alias.

 

dang.. you too cold!!

 

You keep saying that. I know!